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Sorry to be a downer (Original Post) XanaDUer2 Aug 26 OP
Who can you call? Who can we call? hlthe2b Aug 26 #1
You're not alone. no_hypocrisy Aug 26 #2
911 Cirsium Aug 26 #8
Not necessarily. I saved a life calling 911. no_hypocrisy Aug 26 #9
Nope, nope, nope. Listen XanaDUer2, we NEED you here. Take a walk, breathe, call 988, eat a cookie. Get LoisB Aug 26 #3
Please walk away from that boy arlyellowdog Aug 26 #4
I can't I'll b home less XanaDUer2 Aug 26 #7
We understand Keepthesoulalive Aug 26 #10
I love your energy-- please call any of the above numbers. fierywoman Aug 26 #5
You are a compassionate and caring person Keepthesoulalive Aug 26 #6
Please call 988. That's the number for a nationwide suicide and crisis lifeline. ShazzieB Aug 26 #11
Do i text that number? XanaDUer2 Aug 26 #12
Their site says you can text. Please do not leave us, stay with us. irisblue Aug 26 #13
I'm going to calm down XanaDUer2 Aug 26 #14
Also in stuck here finishing months of prepaid XanaDUer2 Aug 26 #15
Do you have a plan if he were to die? MotownPgh Aug 26 #16
Oh I've tried XanaDUer2 Aug 26 #17
Well the pension is a good sign. Can MotownPgh Aug 26 #18
I made him show me online XanaDUer2 Aug 26 #19
I don't want to say anything that murielm99 Aug 27 #20
I wish I could do more. OldBaldy1701E Aug 28 #21
I've given up XanaDUer2 Aug 28 #22
Then, go over their heads. OldBaldy1701E Aug 29 #23
I gave them a rave review months ago XanaDUer2 Aug 29 #24

hlthe2b

(106,360 posts)
1. Who can you call? Who can we call?
Mon Aug 26, 2024, 12:33 PM
Aug 26

If no one is immediately available to you, PLEASE call '988'. HELP IS AVAILABLE. That's right, just three digits: 988

Get the help you need and live to look back and realize that even in your worse moments, there is help and all can change.

Please!

LoisB

(8,666 posts)
3. Nope, nope, nope. Listen XanaDUer2, we NEED you here. Take a walk, breathe, call 988, eat a cookie. Get
Mon Aug 26, 2024, 12:44 PM
Aug 26

those thoughts out of your head.

Keepthesoulalive

(585 posts)
10. We understand
Mon Aug 26, 2024, 01:29 PM
Aug 26

We are not judging you. We are trying to support you during this difficult time. Try to talk to someone. Make that call.

Keepthesoulalive

(585 posts)
6. You are a compassionate and caring person
Mon Aug 26, 2024, 01:04 PM
Aug 26

Physical and emotional pain can cloud your thinking. As others have said call a help line. You are special and don’t let anyone take that from you.

ShazzieB

(18,670 posts)
11. Please call 988. That's the number for a nationwide suicide and crisis lifeline.
Mon Aug 26, 2024, 01:44 PM
Aug 26
The 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline provides free and confidential emotional support to people in suicidal crisis or emotional distress 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, across the United States. The Lifeline is comprised of a national network of over 200 local crisis centers, combining custom local care and resources with national standards and best practices.


What to expect:

Using 988 is free. When you call, text, or chat 988, your conversation is confidential. 988 provides you judgment-free care. Talking with someone can help save your life.


More info: https://988lifeline.org/talk-to-someone-now/

XanaDUer2

(13,872 posts)
14. I'm going to calm down
Mon Aug 26, 2024, 02:11 PM
Aug 26

I don't know what I'll do. I spent 32k so far 4 specialist tx and he hurt me. Its bankrupting me. My so called partner doesn't gaf and won't even tell me itll b ok. He's on the specialist side. Keeps saying I'll alinate the dr this dr etc when i have healthcare and want answers or have symptoms all i hear id they'll b mad I'm questioning their competence bc i told this dentist i am not comfortable w him putting pressure on my jaw and I'm shocked he pushed it..

He got this look like pita bitch and said use "moist heat" until it "settles down" her i am a week later in pain. I cannot believe this is happening. I came so far in my tx.

My fucking partner has me by the pubes and knows it. I supported him 25 yrs. Hes paying the bills n the big threat every day is I'm v cutting the money off but he won't leave when he said how much i irritate him..he abuses his RXes. Hes said he's leaving i said fine go I'm not stopping you by pleading or crying fuck u

XanaDUer2

(13,872 posts)
15. Also in stuck here finishing months of prepaid
Mon Aug 26, 2024, 02:53 PM
Aug 26

Dental tx. I'm ducked n just have to live this life bc of money

MotownPgh

(359 posts)
16. Do you have a plan if he were to die?
Mon Aug 26, 2024, 06:21 PM
Aug 26

Does he perhaps have a life insurance policy with you as beneficiary? That could be some future peace of mind. No advice about the relationship. I'm an expert dumper.

XanaDUer2

(13,872 posts)
17. Oh I've tried
Mon Aug 26, 2024, 06:27 PM
Aug 26

He got his hooks in me when i was 29 traumatized by nursing my beloved mother dying of cancer for a year. I was so lost and needed someone. Hes an addict. I've really messed myself up for yrs. I'm supposedly on his 963 mo pension for ten yrs and on his bank accounts.

Any policy for a 72 yr old smoker premium is expensive

MotownPgh

(359 posts)
18. Well the pension is a good sign. Can
Mon Aug 26, 2024, 07:08 PM
Aug 26

you find a way to check if you are on it? If you are not married you may still have common rights to it.

XanaDUer2

(13,872 posts)
19. I made him show me online
Mon Aug 26, 2024, 07:29 PM
Aug 26

And I have some paperwork. Once he yelled Your lucky to be on the pension!!!

I've stood by him with a lot.

murielm99

(31,436 posts)
20. I don't want to say anything that
Tue Aug 27, 2024, 12:36 AM
Aug 27

will make it worse. I know firsthand that pain distorts everything. Try to find one tiny thing that is not a part of the pain.

Your life is a gift to yourself and to us. Don't leave us.

XanaDUer2

(13,872 posts)
22. I've given up
Wed Aug 28, 2024, 08:56 AM
Aug 28

My ears hurt and face aches. I ducked myself over by bringing in two plastic things him to shove onto my jaw. I've given up. Yesterday the office staff talked to me like I'm a neurotic nut with phantom pain problems. I'm on the shit list now for "complaining" abt not comfortable having pressure on my jaw and that I'm having mild pain

They scammed my bite and according to them its all great. I'm not imagining this discomfort. 32k so fr. My condo money. I sometimes wish Id fall asleep and just die in my sleep.

OldBaldy1701E

(6,349 posts)
23. Then, go over their heads.
Thu Aug 29, 2024, 06:28 AM
Aug 29

Your doctor answers to someone, be it the owner, the founder, or the press. Use them. Write to the medical board for your area. Tell them that your complaints are falling on deaf ears because you are not rich enough to warrant any attention from them. Tell them that you feel you should contact the state agencies that apply to this situation and that you are also thinking about a federal complaint as well. Sure, they might not care in a legal sense, but today's number one threat is the social media piranha pool. Remind them that any and all complaints of an official nature are public and can be requested by anyone. And, that you are a very thorough writer.

I know this sounds silly, but I have found that the threat of the piranha pool can sometimes be useful.

I hope you are doing a bit better today.

XanaDUer2

(13,872 posts)
24. I gave them a rave review months ago
Thu Aug 29, 2024, 08:30 AM
Aug 29

Things were great. I had no clue this was going to happen. I assumed i would get the best of care which i had been doing.

I'm pretty screwed. Getting mild ear pain. I can't live on Tylenol.

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