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BainsBane

(54,798 posts)
Thu Feb 7, 2013, 04:45 AM Feb 2013

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That person should probably be blocked from this group. Tobin S. Feb 2013 #1
This message was self-deleted by its author BainsBane Feb 2013 #2
I can see how that PM was taken the wrong way Tobin S. Feb 2013 #3
+1 kickysnana Feb 2013 #13
It sucks when you try to do the right thing and people take it the wrong way. Denninmi Feb 2013 #4
I was just wondering about you BainsBane Feb 2013 #5
Fine. TY for asking. Denninmi Feb 2013 #8
This is a topic for Meta-discussion HereSince1628 Feb 2013 #6
no, it isn't BainsBane Feb 2013 #7
Agree. Denninmi Feb 2013 #9
It unfortunately requires identification and discussion of another MHSG member/DUer HereSince1628 Feb 2013 #12
I disagree. But if you want to make it about MHSG practice then... HereSince1628 Feb 2013 #10
on rereading the post BainsBane Feb 2013 #11
And IMO it would have been best worked out between the two of you. HereSince1628 Feb 2013 #15
I see your point BainsBane Feb 2013 #16
+1 kickysnana Feb 2013 #14

Tobin S.

(10,420 posts)
1. That person should probably be blocked from this group.
Thu Feb 7, 2013, 05:03 AM
Feb 2013

How about a link? I'd at least inform a host of this group if not the rest of us.

Response to Tobin S. (Reply #1)

Tobin S.

(10,420 posts)
3. I can see how that PM was taken the wrong way
Thu Feb 7, 2013, 05:16 AM
Feb 2013

But, regardless, PMs should not be made public. I think it violates a broader community standard. NYC_SKP should have alerted on the PM if he or she thought it was offensive.

kickysnana

(3,908 posts)
13. +1
Thu Feb 7, 2013, 08:58 AM
Feb 2013

Denninmi

(6,581 posts)
4. It sucks when you try to do the right thing and people take it the wrong way.
Thu Feb 7, 2013, 06:34 AM
Feb 2013

But, bottom line is, you did try to do the right thing. So try not to let it hurt -- I know, much easier said than done.

BainsBane

(54,798 posts)
5. I was just wondering about you
Thu Feb 7, 2013, 06:37 AM
Feb 2013

Thanks for the support. How are you doing?

Denninmi

(6,581 posts)
8. Fine. TY for asking.
Thu Feb 7, 2013, 08:01 AM
Feb 2013

Been rocking and rolling at work on tax season and doing all of the fun stuff on the side, so I can't complain.

HereSince1628

(36,063 posts)
6. This is a topic for Meta-discussion
Thu Feb 7, 2013, 07:50 AM
Feb 2013

BainsBane

(54,798 posts)
7. no, it isn't
Thu Feb 7, 2013, 07:54 AM
Feb 2013

It is not for the amusement of the entirety of DU. It is about the confidentiality among a group of people with mental illness. Meta is the last place this belongs.

Denninmi

(6,581 posts)
9. Agree.
Thu Feb 7, 2013, 08:02 AM
Feb 2013

Seems better here due to the sensitive nature. But ymmv.

HereSince1628

(36,063 posts)
12. It unfortunately requires identification and discussion of another MHSG member/DUer
Thu Feb 7, 2013, 08:47 AM
Feb 2013

as a non-party to the discussion. That's something done fairly regularly within the framework of Meta and the definition of metadiscussion is discussion about discussion which this is.

Perhaps Tobin or one of the other founders of the group can comment on whether MHSG has always had a practice of allowing originating posts that include callouts. If that's not the case, perhaps Mo can comment on whether MSHG is turning to a new policy.





HereSince1628

(36,063 posts)
10. I disagree. But if you want to make it about MHSG practice then...
Thu Feb 7, 2013, 08:32 AM
Feb 2013

I would say you skated along the outer margins of the envelope of long standing practices of MHSG and more generally DU.

It seems plain enough you went beyond the other DUer's boundaries of comfort, regardless of intent. That's the stuff of which apologies can be built.

You took information you knew from MHSG and acted on it outside of MHSG. As it turns out, that was done in a manner that was objectionable to the person you contacted. Regardless of your intent.

You invoked a very common stigmatizing phrase (you need your meds checked) against the mentally ill, even if your intent was good that's an exceptionally tricky business.

You played MD by long distance when you started dx'ing mania, even if your intent was good.




BainsBane

(54,798 posts)
11. on rereading the post
Thu Feb 7, 2013, 08:40 AM
Feb 2013

I see that. I tried to make my intent clear in the thread in which he posted the PM.

HereSince1628

(36,063 posts)
15. And IMO it would have been best worked out between the two of you.
Thu Feb 7, 2013, 09:01 AM
Feb 2013

The original screw up is now compounded by the call out here of another MHSG member for what happened in a main forum.

There are many MHSG readers who aren't posters in MHSG because they fear this sort of thing. How do you suppose people with those concerns read your subject line?


BainsBane

(54,798 posts)
16. I see your point
Thu Feb 7, 2013, 09:13 AM
Feb 2013

that was the last thing I wanted to do, which is why I didn't provide his name. I'll self delete.

kickysnana

(3,908 posts)
14. +1
Thu Feb 7, 2013, 08:59 AM
Feb 2013
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