Try both a psychiatrist and a psychologist at the same time. That's how you get the most effective results in the shortest amount of time. I did that for a while and now I just do drug therapy. I feel fine.

I'm seeing a psychiatrist right now, which I just posted about. It's harder to see a psychologist for free in Canada. Doable, but most of them are out of pocket. The last one I saw was nice but a bit too motherly for my tastes and not quite helpful enough for me.

I believe it is called white knuckle sobriety, when one stops drinking with sheer will power. Have you thought about getting a sponsor and working a program? I know it is not for everyone but sometimes you meet some really good people who are on the same path.

Trick is that if you meet the opposite sex type person they say you should stay friends for at least a year, so both can focus on sobriety and not a love relationship.

It's a good way to meet new people, find ways to help others and grow in a spiritual manner. It takes the edge off the urge, or so I've heard.

Hugs to you for sharing your struggles, brother.

I suppose I still don't like to think of myself as having a drinking problem despite the obvious. I'm one of those guys who takes pride in being in control of things. Which actually explains a lot about why I'm so NOT in control of much of my emotional life come to think of it.

If I did do something like this it wouldn't be a 12 step program as I don't believe in that particular group, however I know there are many other supportive programs out there. I really do need to meet people too, considering I have no friends and have never been with a girl my whole life, lol.

Thanks.

Find someone on the same path to sobriety? I hope things are going better for you.