except my problems are that my daughter has problems similar to yours, 2 little kids and 'difficult' spouse; they may be breaking up; I can't bear to think of it.

and I can't stand to think of you so unhappy. The world is very sad.

i wish i could have shared it with you.

BLAH here. Fingers crossed for tomorrow.

I'm so sorry to read this. You know if I were there, I'd give you a big hug and a kleenex.



I'm glad you posted. This is just why we have this Group: so we can vent and people will hear you.

I wish I knew how to help.

things have been a struggle for a bit now and i had to get it all out. today was better than yesterday and i'm hoping for a better weekend.

I've had folks comfort me when I was down too, and I know how much it helps...



Here's to a great weekend!

but a touch can help. Sorry you're so far away.

and i love you guys and how wonderful you are.

Know that it hurt my heart reading about the pains that are burdening you right now. You've got a friend in me and the rest of us in the group here.

I got two questions for you, are you able to make some "you" time? I think you need to give a little time to yourself. Is this possible?

And two, have you told your husband exactly how he's making you feel lately? Have you told him that you're feeling like you're without support in the world? Because aside from your friends here in the support group, your husband should be your rock.

Has he always been this way or is this post surgery behavior?

but i don't want to do anything more than just sit on the couch and watch netflix. our plans this weekend are really all about me and i'm hoping the time away and the show will help us both get our heads straight a bit.

as far as the husband, he has an untreated depressive disorder that he won't even acknowledge to the point he gets angry at the mere suggestion of it. i flat out told him how i was feeling but it just caused more issues than it solved. he thinks that feelings are bullshit and just don't matter on a good day and he is outright dismissive of mine right now. we do this dance every so often and it wears me down sometimes. he did, however, talk to me about how he is feeling right now and that is a positive sign. i love him and it makes me sad to see him struggle like this.

you guys are a great lot and i'm so happy i have people who understand.

If nothing else, know you aren't in it alone. There are tons of people here that go through similar things, and if nothing else they can be people to lean on when things are their bleakest. In that regard, I'm glad you've made it here and if you do need an open ear just drop a line, either via forum or DUmail.

I know that's no substitute for the real thing. It's about taking small victories where they are available though, I suppose.

I've got other thoughts, but I tend to prattle on without end.

I guess, the one piece of advice I have is the advice all the counselors and therapists always try to instill in me. Try to find things that make you happy, if only to find an escape from the negativity. If you can avoid the negativity long enough and replace it with happiness... maybe you'll find yourself on the other side of this funk in time.

You're never alone though. You've got us, if you'll have us.

i've had a hard time finding much happiness in things lately, but then we had one of our beautiful colorado sunsets tonight and it made things a bit better. i am really excited about the show and the other plans i'm hatching for sunday and that's helping some, too.

i take my small victories when i can, i just lost sight of them for a bit. i know things will turn around, i just need to take it one day at a time.

So glad you're doing a little bit better. Hope the Sunday plans pan out.

It works on you long after the performance ends. Maybe it could work on your husband. I'm sorry you're feeling so crappy.