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steve2470

(37,468 posts) Thu Apr 6, 2017, 07:57 AM Apr 2017

I'm doing my best to get over feeling ashamed, sad and guilty

I was teasing someone a lot in a game I play. I really thought this person had a hide like a rhinoceros and wouldn't be offended or hurt.

Wow, was I wrong! The person said he was thick-skinned but not hard. He kinda read me the riot act about how the jokes were not funny and how I missed a cue (which I really did). I apologized profusely and sincerely and STILL feel like pond scum. I just am not a person to hurt feelings, especially on purpose. I just am not that way.

I know there's nothing you can say, really. I need to learn my lesson (which I have have, in abundance), let it go and go on. Wow, lesson learned.

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I'm doing my best to get over feeling ashamed, sad and guilty (Original Post) steve2470 Apr 2017 OP

My dear Steve... CaliforniaPeggy Apr 2017 #1

THIS retrowire Apr 2017 #2

thank you steve2470 Apr 2017 #4

thank you steve2470 Apr 2017 #3

Why is it we remember those unkind or undiplomatic comments made decades ago? No Vested Interest Apr 2017 #5

same here nt steve2470 Apr 2017 #6

CaliforniaPeggy

(152,099 posts)

1. My dear Steve...

Reply to steve2470 (Original post)

Thu Apr 6, 2017, 10:08 AM

Apr 2017

Give yourself some time to recover from this incident...

You're human. Time will help...

We've all been there. I have incidents where I misspoke, from years ago. It's awful. Be gentle with yourself, your feelings...

retrowire

(10,345 posts)

2. THIS

Reply to CaliforniaPeggy (Reply #1)

Thu Apr 6, 2017, 10:51 AM

Apr 2017

And take it from a guy with no tact, I read people incorrectly on the DAILY.

Mistakes were made, apologies were given and communication was had. And that's what's important.

steve2470

(37,468 posts)

4. thank you

Reply to retrowire (Reply #2)

Thu Apr 6, 2017, 11:46 AM

Apr 2017

steve2470

(37,468 posts)

3. thank you

Reply to CaliforniaPeggy (Reply #1)

Thu Apr 6, 2017, 11:46 AM

Apr 2017

No Vested Interest

(5,196 posts)

5. Why is it we remember those unkind or undiplomatic comments made decades ago?

Reply to CaliforniaPeggy (Reply #1)

Thu Apr 6, 2017, 02:08 PM

Apr 2017

Here I am, a senior senior, and those remarks I made that were out-of-order many years ago come to mind every now and again.

I feel like I will have to put some kind of general apology in my pre-written obituary.

steve2470

(37,468 posts)

6. same here nt

Reply to No Vested Interest (Reply #5)

Thu Apr 6, 2017, 02:10 PM

Apr 2017

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