Welp, I got in a shouting match with my boss at work.
The stress finally just, breached the walls.
It's what happens when you don't communicate. Tensions build up between you and others you know?
He questioned what's been happening to my performance lately and started making accusations.
I revealed that I had been dealing with two cancer scares in my family (one my own wife, the other her father) and I'm still reeling from the death of my brother in law.
He started prodding at why I keep making so many phone calls on shift to my wife and he was raising his voice so I started shouting back "because that's what you do when everyone's getting cancer and there's been a death in the family!!"
He started pouring through log sheets of what my performance looked like and we started cooling off and he admitted that, had he known about what I just revealed, he would have known that I wasn't just slacking off. He said he had no way of knowing but know that he understands it changes things.
He recommended I take a vacation because I hadn't done so since a started over a year ago.
So I've got all next week off. And I still can't help but feel guilty. But I think I'm going to spend time with family.
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As a manager I always knew what was affecting my employees, and not through performance...but an open door policy, and trust, even more....
Don't even tell me you feel guilty - don't you think you have enough on your plate..
Sorry for your circumstances - wish all well - 
enjoy some good moments and relax.
How's your wife doing?
The best thing you can do for your loved ones is to take some time recharge. I'm sorry things got so heated at your job, but glad you have a vacation - you definitely need it
maybe another job ? 
None of my business, and only a suggestion.
It's been my experience that bosses and parents don't purposely make their people/children miserable. They do the best they can with the knowledge and resources that they have available.
It sounds like he was doing his job. Good for you for standing up for yourself. Good for him being understanding. Hope your week off with your family helps you regain some equilibrium.