After many years I am getting a marker for my husband
My dear husband died in 2017 and I had him cremated. I plan to be cremated as well, hoping our kids will scatter our ashes where we met. I do some geneaology and have used Find a Grave to locate the final resting place of many of my relatives. I realized that if future generations are looking, they wouldn't find us. So, for vanity, I guess, I decided to get a marker set somewhere. My husband's family has been in the U.S. since the 2nd crossing of the Mayflower and there are many relatives buried in many places.
About 10 years ago, we went on a Tombstone Tour (nickname came from my brother-in-law) with my husband's uncle, and visited numerous graves to lay flowers. My husband and I were surprised to learn that his maternal great grandparents were buried in a cemetery in our town. The 2nd time we went on the Tombstone Tour, I took notes and my husband took pictures of the headstones, so we have a record of which relatives are buried where. Our uncle just passed away this year at age 96, so I am glad we went with him, and we have some of his trove of family lore saved. I thought about getting a marker in the cemetery where my inlaws and maternal grandparents are buried, but that is about 1 hr. away. I decided to check local cemeteries and was delighted to learn that the older cemetery in town, where his maternal g. grandparents rest, had plots available. I asked about getting a spot by his g.grandparents, just to get started. To my delight, there is a space left in the family plot and we can use it. I just found out today. I love the continuity.
On top of having the exact spot I wanted, there won't be any charge, beause the spot was paid for long ago. I am not interring my husband, so there won't be a cost for that. I will make a donation when the time comes.
Just wanted to share today's experience. Seems to fit in the Geneaology topic.
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Glad you found out about this!
I found two plots that my great great grandfather and my great grand uncle purchased around 1900 or so that are located at Holy Cross cemetery in Colma, Calif.
There are a lot of empty spaces there too (both plots).
I wonder if they'd let me had a tombstone erected there for my late husband?
He was cremated as well and his ashes were scattered in the San Francisco Bay.
This has been very recent, too recent in fact (May of this year!). So sad I am and maybe a tombstone might help to remember him as no one in his immediate family seemed to care. 
Glad to know about this and I wish you the very best!
Take care.
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