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mopinko

(71,597 posts)
Mon Feb 27, 2023, 09:06 AM Feb 2023

lest you completely trust dna-

so, i found a cousin on myheritage, 3-5th, it said. i messaged her and turns out she was an adoptee looking for family. we rly clicked, peas in a pod. a couple of other family members went over there last year, and met her. a dear person.
i bugged her to do the ancestry dna, hoping for more info. she did, i did, guess what? ancestry says no.

she- can we still be cousins?
me- i piss off the irish born folks i meet by calling them cousin, so sure.

mistakes do happen.

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Srkdqltr

(7,558 posts)
1. So... You both had DNA done by My Heritage and you were related, then you both had DNA done by
Mon Feb 27, 2023, 09:39 AM
Feb 2023

Ancestry and you were not related? Am I understanding this? If so, I suggest you both contact the DNA part of both places and see what happened, rather believe that none of it is true.

mopinko

(71,597 posts)
4. i uploaded a 23me file, i think she did their test.
Mon Feb 27, 2023, 09:47 AM
Feb 2023

then we both did ancestry.
i guess it wouldnt hurt.

seaglass

(8,175 posts)
2. I wouldn't assume you are not true cousins. My brother, who I am sure has the same bio parents
Mon Feb 27, 2023, 09:39 AM
Feb 2023

as I do has some DNA connections that I don't have, my 1st cousin 1R has some DNA connections I don't have.

My brother and I have only done Ancestry DNA, my cousin has done multiple DNA tests and has done at least as much genealogical research as I have.

Louis1895

(778 posts)
3. Probably still cousins
Mon Feb 27, 2023, 09:42 AM
Feb 2023

Ancestry and MyHeritage have different people in their databases. I think MyHeritage tends to have more Europeans than Ancestry, so I presume the two of you live across the pond from each other and have a common ancestor on one continent.

I guess you share about 1% of your DNA in common. An expert in the DNA/genealogy field can probably help you more. If you are a MyHeritage member, perhaps they could provide you a better answer than I have here and may help you identify common ancestors. Looking at the other MyHeritage matches that you both share may help.

Good luck!

mopinko

(71,597 posts)
5. ireland
Mon Feb 27, 2023, 09:51 AM
Feb 2023

i’m paying for ancestry atm. i dont have access to myheritage unless i pay. i never did pay, but my tree is over the size allowed for free.
i need to spend some time on it. and get off my ass and get my passport.

i’m almost surprised to find how few ppl i’m related to. i should be 5th or more cousins w half of tipperay, the way i hear it. the dwyers were prolific.

ARPad95

(1,671 posts)
6. How many centimorgans and segments did you share with her at MyHeritage? How long was the
Wed Mar 8, 2023, 11:02 PM
Mar 2023

longest segment?

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