Parenting

elleng

(137,640 posts) Mon Mar 31, 2014, 04:58 PM Mar 2014

a tip from my daughters' pre-k - 3d grade school,

now expanded to 8th grade. (Daughters are now 25 + 29.)

A parenting tip from Lowell's PEP class facilitator, Patti Cancellier:
Working from children's strengths, not deficits, is a surefire way to foster belonging and cooperation. Notice and describe what is helpful about what they've done, rather than what they haven't done. "Looks like you got yourself out of bed, took your pajamas off, and now you're ready to get your clothes on" versus "Why aren't you dressed? We have to leave!"

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a tip from my daughters' pre-k - 3d grade school, (Original Post) elleng Mar 2014 OP

I like that. That technique is far more effective than nagging. TxDemChem Mar 2014 #1

Sure is! elleng Mar 2014 #2

Reminds me of mzteris Apr 2014 #3

Yes! elleng Apr 2014 #4

TxDemChem

(1,918 posts)

1. I like that. That technique is far more effective than nagging.

Reply to elleng (Original post)

Mon Mar 31, 2014, 05:43 PM

Mar 2014

elleng

(137,640 posts)

2. Sure is!

Reply to TxDemChem (Reply #1)

Mon Mar 31, 2014, 05:46 PM

Mar 2014

The school provided us parents with lists of 'words and phrases' to promote success in various situations.

mzteris

(16,232 posts)

3. Reminds me of

Reply to elleng (Original post)

Fri Apr 4, 2014, 11:35 PM

Apr 2014

"Miss Patsy's rule from preschool nearly 20 years ago....

Be happy with what you got.

She was the music teacher with a box full of 'instruments' ... You know, triangle, rhythm sticks, maracas, tambourines, bongos. As you might imagine, some were more popular than others. She had her rule, though, that eliminated the whining, crying, carping, and sometimes tussles... "Be happy with what you got... And make beautiful music with it.'

We used "be happy with what you got' for years. Still do sometimes.

elleng

(137,640 posts)

4. Yes!

Reply to mzteris (Reply #3)

Fri Apr 4, 2014, 11:40 PM

Apr 2014

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