But then she might choose the floor if you do.

Could be, though, that your height compared to hers really is the problem in the day time and she just didn't feel like snuggling this afternoon.

I used to get on my hands and knees to do interactive play with Ember when she was a kitten. (I do it standing up now.) She loved interactive play and still does. That's Ember's idea of being close in the day time. She is not a lap cat. The only time that she cuddles is at night or in the daytime if I lie down on the couch for a nap. She is strictly a horizontal cuddler.

Doing things together is her idea of sharing quality time. Maybe it's because she is an only cat, but I've read that some cats crave human interaction in place of snuggling. Tossing things for her to chase, kicking aluminum foil balls around the floor, using the laser light, blowing bubbles for her to swat at, peeking around a corner at her (to initiate hide and seek ambush games) - Ember thrives on those kinds of activities.

When I am seated at my desk, she does hop onto it so that we are at the same level, and rubs my face while purring. Or she will sprawl on the arm of the couch when I sit there to watch a movie. But she will not sit in my lap and does not like being held.

Every cat has their preferences. Carys will show you hers.

Keeping to the two cushions she wasn't using. And I fell asleep. Woke up when I felt her climbing across me. We had a few nice scritches and snuggles. Monday night she fell asleep a little less than a foot away from me. Last night she was snuggled right up against me.

She's now spending most of the day in which ever room the boys and I are in. That's a BIG change from just the beginning of the week.

She loves to chase whiffle balls and will sometimes bat them back towards me. Gryff picks them up and drops them either in my hand or a few feet away. Just depends on his mood, I guess.

I do have to go on another whiffle ball search. There must be about a dozen under and behind furniture.

a defunct broom that I use for hunting down aluminum foil balls and other miscellaneous toys. I lean over and slide it under the couch and chairs to force them to roll or be pushed out to one side or another. Ember is used to this retrieval of her toys. When she sees me heading to the living room with the broom handle, she sits in the middle of the floor, alert to both sides of the couch or chair to see what will come out. Sometimes I know that there is something I missed but which she remembers is there because she stays put staring at the couch, or moves closer to it and sticks her nose under it as far as it fits.

Another retrieval spot is under the stove. I remove the storage drawer from under the oven and find a slew of things that rolled or slid underneath. Also, behind the microwave cart.

It has a 'bend' attachment so it's good for grabbing what ever I'm trying to fish out from behind things.

I've thought about rolling up some old blankets and using them as a 'bumper guard' beneath the living room couch.

hunt things down and of rediscovering old toys?

It's a good idea that would work - for the couch and chairs. Things will then end up somewhere else. I used to have an old towel rolled up as a buffer for the space below the storage drawer. That's when things started going under the couch.