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Grasswire2

(13,709 posts)
Wed Feb 8, 2023, 12:14 AM Feb 2023

Palliative care is all that's left for my beloved Kitty (mammary cancer)


I've learned something important since seeing her tumor two months ago.

This. Shelter cats, adopted at mid-life, often were just spayed when the shelter took them in, and had spent half a life NOT spayed.

Alas, the mammary cancer rate is very much higher for female cats who were not spayed when younger.

My beloved Kitty, then eight, had never been spayed til she arrived at the shelter, and had lived with five other cats meaning that she likely had multiple litters............and was a ripe candidate for mammary cancer.

And here we are. If it isn't discovered very early, the chances of survival are very poor. And I won't put her through (or could afford) extreme means.

I adore her. She is extremely loving, kind and thoughtful. She is alert, aware of what's happening, keeping an eye on me. But beginning to refuse food. Tough times ahead, I know. Will have to act before too long.

I have buried many a dear cat who died in my arms. This one really hurts. We are such close friends.
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Palliative care is all that's left for my beloved Kitty (mammary cancer) (Original Post) Grasswire2 Feb 2023 OP
I am so sorry.... It's the hardest thing. 💔 Hugs. onecaliberal Feb 2023 #1
So sorry montanacowboy Feb 2023 #2
I can hear your pain in your words. I'm so sorry. These times are never easy 😿 Deuxcents Feb 2023 #3
My heart goes out to you two. Hope22 Feb 2023 #4
My condolences.. CentralMass Feb 2023 #5
I'm really sorry to hear that, Grasswire Bayard Feb 2023 #6
(((Grasswire2))) 2naSalit Feb 2023 #7
What a good kitty. You gave her a much better life. Nt spooky3 Feb 2023 #8
I'm sorry Delarage Feb 2023 #9
I am very sure she was a good mama and have often thought about those days for her as happy ones. Grasswire2 Feb 2023 #15
So sorry. JudyM Feb 2023 #10
My heart hurts for you radical noodle Feb 2023 #11
Oh, I'm So Very Sorry DarthDem Feb 2023 #12
Awh...that just sucks! So sorry it does really hurts to say goodbye to a dear friend pet! PortTack Feb 2023 #13
So sorry for your pain. lark Feb 2023 #14
It's heartbreaking, I know. Duppers Feb 2023 #16

montanacowboy

(6,304 posts)
2. So sorry
Wed Feb 8, 2023, 12:21 AM
Feb 2023

we just lost our 22 yr old Orange Boi last week. Many years of happy memories and even though he went from old age it doesn't change the deep hurt. We never get over their loss.

Hope22

(2,891 posts)
4. My heart goes out to you two.
Wed Feb 8, 2023, 12:22 AM
Feb 2023

She was lucky to find you along her journey. Hugs and love to you. 💗💗💗🙏

Bayard

(24,145 posts)
6. I'm really sorry to hear that, Grasswire
Wed Feb 8, 2023, 12:26 AM
Feb 2023

I had not heard that before about shelter cats either. I'm actually appalled at how young some vets are spaying now--still kittens.

You have given her her best life. Good care and lots of love.

Can you get a high calorie nutritional supplement down her? Syringe it down her throat?

Most of us have been where you are now. We are here for you.

Delarage

(2,353 posts)
9. I'm sorry
Wed Feb 8, 2023, 12:32 AM
Feb 2023

She was probably a very good mama and hopefully her kittens will carry her loving nature. Glad you found each other and that she was well cared for. It is so hard

Grasswire2

(13,709 posts)
15. I am very sure she was a good mama and have often thought about those days for her as happy ones.
Wed Feb 8, 2023, 12:27 PM
Feb 2023

I had RSV this winter -- the respiratory virus. Very sick -- my daughter even had to help me out of bed. Kitty was right there every minute. If I felt miserable, she was right there, watching my face, paying attention to my breathing. Seriously. If I breathe oddly, she focuses on me. I've often thought that perhaps in her earlier life she lived with a person who had lung disease.

We laughingly thought when she was tending me during the RSV that she needed a little white cap with a little red cross on it. Nurse Kitty.

JudyM

(29,517 posts)
10. So sorry.
Wed Feb 8, 2023, 12:44 AM
Feb 2023

Sounds like you’ve really blessed each other’s lives. Wishing you peace on this painful journey.

radical noodle

(8,612 posts)
11. My heart hurts for you
Wed Feb 8, 2023, 12:47 AM
Feb 2023

You have given her the greatest gift... your love. I'm so sorry you will have to say goodbye too soon.

lark

(24,174 posts)
14. So sorry for your pain.
Wed Feb 8, 2023, 10:19 AM
Feb 2023

Our fur babies are so important to us. They bring us such joy and contentment but shine so bright, they don;t last for long - so sad.

Duppers

(28,246 posts)
16. It's heartbreaking, I know.
Wed Feb 8, 2023, 01:49 PM
Feb 2023

Our "pets" are our family and dealing with ending their lives is crushing.

The kindest thing my late mother ever did for me several decades ago was to drive 400miles to take my 17yo Siamese to be put down. I was alone at the time and she knew and loved my Mernie too. We wish they could live forever.

What's your baby's name?

Sending hugs.

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