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Grasswire2

(13,708 posts)
Fri Feb 24, 2023, 10:21 PM Feb 2023

My dear Kitty with mammary cancer passed last Saturday night in my arms.

Please remember this: A feline cat who has not been spayed by middle age is a target for mammary cancer. A shelter rescue often is only spayed when arriving at the shelter. Please remember that spaying is a health necessity for them.

Kitty had lived with five other cats before she came to me, and so the chances of her having litters is very high. I honestly think that gave her the loving and thoughtful attitude in life. Not spayed until she got to the shelter, though. And I didn't know about this phenomenon to watch for appearance of any tumor.

So. Her passing was extremely difficult for me -- and I know many of you will understand. But I really can't think of that right now.

If I can think of a way to post a photo here on DU, I will do so. She was really cute that day.

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My dear Kitty with mammary cancer passed last Saturday night in my arms. (Original Post) Grasswire2 Feb 2023 OP
My deepest condolences. sinkingfeeling Feb 2023 #1
So very sorry, Grasswire2. hlthe2b Feb 2023 #2
One of our vets once said to me that we bring our animals... 3catwoman3 Feb 2023 #3
I am so sorry to hear this. mercuryblues Feb 2023 #4
So very sorry for your loss. FalloutShelter Feb 2023 #5
It's always tough. Abolishinist Feb 2023 #6
😔 blm Feb 2023 #7
This song comforts me. roody Feb 2023 #8
Yes, What a great song. flying_wahini Feb 2023 #9
Thank you for this song, roody. thatcrowwoman Feb 2023 #23
I'm so sad to hear this..I remember you recently told us about your sweetheart Deuxcents Feb 2023 #10
Hugs to Grasswire2 and all who loved Kitty. Tikki Feb 2023 #11
Sending condolences and hugs to you. So sorry for your loss of sweet Kitty. virgdem Feb 2023 #12
I am so sorry KT2000 Feb 2023 #13
Lady Bast, please take Your little one gently home in Your loving arms, and send peace niyad Feb 2023 #21
I am so sorry. I am glad she had someone who loved her. LoisB Feb 2023 #14
Condolences Dear_Prudence Feb 2023 #15
It's so hard to say goodbye even when you know it's inevitable. calimary Feb 2023 #16
I'm very sorry for your loss. brer cat Feb 2023 #17
You gave her a good life and love Bayard Feb 2023 #18
I am so sorry gopiscrap Feb 2023 #19
Lady Bast, please take Your little one gently home in Your loving arms, and send peace niyad Feb 2023 #20
Oh, Grasswire2, thatcrowwoman Feb 2023 #22
So, so very sorry.... Karadeniz Feb 2023 #24
Thinking of you and send condolences. Paper Roses Feb 2023 #25
I am so sorry for your loss LetMyPeopleVote Feb 2023 #26

hlthe2b

(106,355 posts)
2. So very sorry, Grasswire2.
Fri Feb 24, 2023, 10:29 PM
Feb 2023

But I'm glad you were with her to provide that love and comfort in her final moments.

3catwoman3

(25,440 posts)
3. One of our vets once said to me that we bring our animals...
Fri Feb 24, 2023, 10:29 PM
Feb 2023

…into our lives, knowing that we will most likely outlive them, but we do it anyway because life is so much better with them in it.

It’s always agonizing when they depart.

Abolishinist

(1,968 posts)
6. It's always tough.
Fri Feb 24, 2023, 10:44 PM
Feb 2023

The last time we had to put a cat down (and of course, you feel responsible for being the one making the call), I tried a different approach, and it worked (at least for me).

The vet came to our house, went to the bedroom where our lovely, incredible Zena was, and put her to sleep. I thought I would ball my eyes out but instead, I thanked Zena for giving and sharing with us close to 20 years of her beautiful life. She was suffering, which made it easier, but for me, this approach made it more of a celebration of her life vs. focusing on my grief.

Wishing you all the best.

thatcrowwoman

(1,230 posts)
23. Thank you for this song, roody.
Sat Feb 25, 2023, 01:58 PM
Feb 2023

It is very comforting and lifted my spirits. I’m going to share it with some of my family and friends who are struggling with grief today.
Smiling through my tears.
🕊thatcrowwoman

Deuxcents

(19,714 posts)
10. I'm so sad to hear this..I remember you recently told us about your sweetheart
Sat Feb 25, 2023, 12:07 AM
Feb 2023

And advised us on spaying middle aged cats. That was great advice and could maybe be Kitty’s lesson for all..her legacy. Thinking of you kindly as this is never easy 😻

KT2000

(20,837 posts)
13. I am so sorry
Sat Feb 25, 2023, 12:37 AM
Feb 2023

Grasswire2. Hope you can post a picture. I lost one of my kitties last week and I feel the family has shrunk considerably. I did not know about the spaying to prevent mammary cancer so thank you for the information.

Peace to you and Kitty.

niyad

(119,917 posts)
21. Lady Bast, please take Your little one gently home in Your loving arms, and send peace
Sat Feb 25, 2023, 07:34 AM
Feb 2023

and comfort to her grieving loved ones.

I am so very sorry for your loss. They make our world so wonderful while they are here.

Dear_Prudence

(823 posts)
15. Condolences
Sat Feb 25, 2023, 12:48 AM
Feb 2023

So many of us have seen the love in the eyes of our pets. So, even if you can't post a picture, we already know. I am so sorry for your loss.

calimary

(84,319 posts)
16. It's so hard to say goodbye even when you know it's inevitable.
Sat Feb 25, 2023, 12:52 AM
Feb 2023

I’m so sorry, Grasswire2.

Be sweet and gentle with yourself, and give yourself time. After all, you gave her a good life with safety and comfort and love and plenty of food and lots of petting.

You may feel horrible right now, but ya done good.

Bayard

(24,145 posts)
18. You gave her a good life and love
Sat Feb 25, 2023, 01:01 AM
Feb 2023

That's all our fur kids want, along with giving much love back.

So sad it wasn't longer.

gopiscrap

(24,170 posts)
19. I am so sorry
Sat Feb 25, 2023, 01:16 AM
Feb 2023

9 years ago, I had the same thing happen...they become so a part of you don't they? Healing wishes for you, may you in later days delight in the memory of her!

niyad

(119,917 posts)
20. Lady Bast, please take Your little one gently home in Your loving arms, and send peace
Sat Feb 25, 2023, 07:30 AM
Feb 2023

and comfort to her grieving loved ones.

I am so very sorry for the loss of your precious Kitty. My heart aches for you. Know that we are here for you.

thatcrowwoman

(1,230 posts)
22. Oh, Grasswire2,
Sat Feb 25, 2023, 01:50 PM
Feb 2023

Sending you some sweet Shalom, peace be with you.
Niyad’s blessing is so powerful and comforting. I join her in it for you and for your beloved Kitty.
🕊thatcrowwoman

Paper Roses

(7,506 posts)
25. Thinking of you and send condolences.
Sat Feb 25, 2023, 02:21 PM
Feb 2023

I recently lost my kitty and I miss her so much. When our pets leave us, it leaves a deep hole in our hearts.

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