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Siwsan

(27,011 posts)
Mon Apr 10, 2023, 08:38 AM Apr 2023

Poor Carys had quite the traumatic Easter, with 3 extra humans in the house.

She knew something was up because I was racing around, getting things straightened up and dashing around the kitchen doing food prep. Before anyone arrived she was already in her hiding place.

Even after everyone left, she wouldn't come out. I had to put her food bowl next to her hiding place. When she DID finally appear, she conducted a check of the house to make sure it was safe, again.

She did, eventually, let me know I was forgiven for allowing intruders into her domain. I got lots of snuggles before bed. At 3am my eyes opened and saw her sitting by me, just staring. When she saw I was awake she started giving me lots of head bumps and rubs, and then curled up and went back to sleep.

I think she might never get used to any other people, but that's OK. The other people are the ones who are missing out.

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Poor Carys had quite the traumatic Easter, with 3 extra humans in the house. (Original Post) Siwsan Apr 2023 OP
I have had Rebl2 Apr 2023 #1
I'm sure a lot of her fear is due to her being 4 months feral when I brought her in Siwsan Apr 2023 #2
If you have guests often she'll probably get used to them. Ocelot II Apr 2023 #3
I have 2 brothers Freddie Apr 2023 #4
But humans have such big feet and are so tall. Polly Hennessey Apr 2023 #5
Poor Carys. so much anxiety, noise, upheaval. Mom being weird. So glad she seems niyad Apr 2023 #6

Rebl2

(14,327 posts)
1. I have had
Mon Apr 10, 2023, 10:06 AM
Apr 2023

cats that never got used to, as you say, intruders into their space/home. I think if your home is busy with people in and out a lot, they get used to strangers. We have very few people in and out of our home so they would always hide. The first cat we had in 1987 was different-she never saw a stranger.

Siwsan

(27,011 posts)
2. I'm sure a lot of her fear is due to her being 4 months feral when I brought her in
Mon Apr 10, 2023, 10:11 AM
Apr 2023

Madoc and Arthur were around LOTS of people from the time they were 4 and 3 weeks old. Although I have no knowledge of Gryff's background, I'm pretty sure he was with a family and then dumped because he CLUNG to me the first time I picked him up. He was a little shy of other people, at first, but gradually started warming up. Now he's a cuddle bug with pretty much everyone who comes over.

Ocelot II

(119,258 posts)
3. If you have guests often she'll probably get used to them.
Mon Apr 10, 2023, 10:15 AM
Apr 2023

My 14-year-old cat has never gotten used to people in the house - she hides if anyone comes in. It might be because I don't have guests very often - I'm old, few friends, no relatives nearby, house is too small for entertaining, so about the only other people she ever sees are various sorts of repairmen - plumbers, electricians, etc. Last winter I had quite a bit of interior painting done by someone I know quite well, and he was in the house almost every day for months. After many weeks she came out of hiding long enough to stand at a distance and stare balefully at him, but he was never able to get close enough to pet her. She behaves pretty well at the vet and doesn't usually try to claw anybody's face off but she doesn't like people in her house. She loves me, though. Carys might warm up to visitors if you have them often, but if she doesn't, at least she loves you.

Freddie

(9,520 posts)
4. I have 2 brothers
Mon Apr 10, 2023, 11:19 AM
Apr 2023

When company comes, Andy is in the thick of it, getting scritches, making himself at home on the dining room table. The whole family is “cat people” so this doesn’t freak anyone out.
Charlie hides upstairs on our bed and comes out the minute people leave, meowing and wanting to cuddle with me. The boys are 7 so I think they won’t change.

Polly Hennessey

(7,208 posts)
5. But humans have such big feet and are so tall.
Mon Apr 10, 2023, 11:19 AM
Apr 2023

I will keep my distance. My comfort zone will make me happy 😊 or so says Carys.

niyad

(118,048 posts)
6. Poor Carys. so much anxiety, noise, upheaval. Mom being weird. So glad she seems
Mon Apr 10, 2023, 03:44 PM
Apr 2023

to have recovered.

My little rescue guy does not like anybody in his space except for me. He does not even like voices outside. He has been indoors now for seven years, so I doubt things will change. But he is THE BESTEST cuddle buddy!

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