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Aussie105

(6,270 posts)
Sat Mar 30, 2024, 05:56 AM Mar 2024

Not happy. 8-(

Male dog, 13 years old, is dying.

Been off his food, losing bladder and bowel control, staggering around.

Twice today he got himself jammed in unusual spots, once in the back yard and once in the room he is in now, got stuck and very confused, and howled somewhat demented.

Currently he is lying down and breathing shallow, slow breaths.
I check him every couple of minutes just in case.

Been coming on for a while, haven't taken him to the vet because our vet is predictable as far as putting down animals go.
Better to save him the stress of being put down, as opposed to dying peacefully in his sleep at home.

Sad time, but what can you do really.

To be honest, I'm typing this to make myself feel better.
It's not working.

Rudyard Kipling wrote a poem about this. 'Power of the dog'.
If you ever lost a pet, prepare to cry when you read it.



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Not happy. 8-( (Original Post) Aussie105 Mar 2024 OP
It is terrible to lose a dog,,,, KarenS Mar 2024 #1
I'm so sorry, and I know how you feel. I hope you can get through this Walleye Mar 2024 #2
Might be a stroke BonnieJW Mar 2024 #3
I know how hard it is, to watch your faithful friend slipping away. 70sEraVet Mar 2024 #4
I am so sorry maptap22 Mar 2024 #5
My nephew just went through this same heartbreak Siwsan Mar 2024 #6
Sending strength DaBronx Mar 2024 #7
I am so sorry. They leave such large paw prints in our hearts irisblue Mar 2024 #8
I love dogs and cats DFW Mar 2024 #9
Holding you in my heart... Goddessartist Mar 2024 #10
I'm so sorry enigmania Mar 2024 #11
I am so sorry 😢 UpInArms Mar 2024 #12
So very sorry. Joinfortmill Mar 2024 #13
Sorry Dear_Prudence Mar 2024 #14
Hope you might reconsider the vet BaileyBill Mar 2024 #15
Holding you both in love and light. May his crossing be gentle. niyad Mar 2024 #16
Our yellow Lab went when he was 13.. surfered Mar 2024 #17
Sounds like what happened to our Springer Spaniel. Diamond_Dog Mar 2024 #18
Thank you for those kind words, all of you. Aussie105 Mar 2024 #19
I'm so sorry Aussie105. Niagara Mar 2024 #20
So sorry you're going through this. Just did with my bestie cat of 17 years. Fla Dem Mar 2024 #21
Lady Bast, please take Your little one gently home in Your loving arms, niyad Mar 2024 #22
So sorry you have to go through this Shermann Mar 2024 #23
There are vets who will make house calls for euthanasia central scrutinizer Mar 2024 #24
This message was self-deleted by its author CountAllVotes Mar 2024 #25
We've shared your pain True Dough Mar 2024 #26
I'm sure its a comfort for him to have you there Bayard Mar 2024 #27
Mobile vet is here now doing the injection. Aussie105 Mar 2024 #28
Lady of the Beasts, please take Your little one gently home in Your niyad Mar 2024 #29
You did the right thing CountAllVotes Mar 2024 #30
Update - Coming home tomorrow. Aussie105 Apr 2024 #31
Hugggggs. I wish we could make you feel better. The pain does niyad Apr 2024 #32

BonnieJW

(2,553 posts)
3. Might be a stroke
Sat Mar 30, 2024, 06:16 AM
Mar 2024

It happened to one of my dogs. We did put her to sleep. We held her and talked to her the whole time. It was very peaceful

maptap22

(148 posts)
5. I am so sorry
Sat Mar 30, 2024, 06:22 AM
Mar 2024

It is so painful to lose our fur buddies. I do hope he dies at home with you by his side. I struggled with the decision to put my buddy Nemo down. Finally decided it was time once he stopped eating (because he LOVED to eat). The morning I planned on bringing him in, he died in my arms. I was so happy to be there with him right until the end. He was such a good boy.

Siwsan

(27,296 posts)
6. My nephew just went through this same heartbreak
Sat Mar 30, 2024, 06:38 AM
Mar 2024

When I took Boudicca in for her last vet visit, the experience was very sad but also very peaceful. The vet was so calm and kind to her. He asked me if I wanted to stay and I said 'of course!' He said a lot of people leave.

I held my sweet little Tortie and she slipped away so peacefully. They let me sit with her for as long as I wanted.

Now I'm tearing up, just remembering the kindness showed to me by the whole staff. They go through this so often but it felt nothing like a 'routine' procedure.

My heart goes out to you.

DaBronx

(481 posts)
7. Sending strength
Sat Mar 30, 2024, 06:39 AM
Mar 2024

Tough time. I will look up that poem. We were fortunate to have a visiting vet for our beloved cat. I wish every community had one to save pets the stress.
I applaud you for your caring nature. Hang in there.

DFW

(56,562 posts)
9. I love dogs and cats
Sat Mar 30, 2024, 06:55 AM
Mar 2024

But I’m home too little to justify keeping a pet who would just be neglected. I would never do that to an animal, so I don’t keep any. There are brown tufted-ear squirrels that prance around outside, but that’s about the extent of it.

Goddessartist

(2,067 posts)
10. Holding you in my heart...
Sat Mar 30, 2024, 06:57 AM
Mar 2024

We put Poli (Samoyed) down two years ago. She did the same...we called a mobile vet here on the island, and she came to our home, and Poli passed in Z's arms in the garden, in the sun. She was 13 as well. Gosh, I'm crying as I write this. They do have our hearts.

BaileyBill

(172 posts)
15. Hope you might reconsider the vet
Sat Mar 30, 2024, 07:41 AM
Mar 2024

My 13-y-o beagle mix experienced similar symptoms last fall, was not even able to stand for several days. Vet prescribed Vetprofen, cautioned that it might take a couple of weeks to start working. Used Gabapentin a few times when he seemed to be in the most pain. Had to help him move around for a few weeks, had a couple of setbacks, but generally got better a little each day.

Started cooking his meals, either scrambled eggs or boiled chicken and livers, and added a little canned pumpkin and plain greek yogurt to help his bowels. Started a multivitamin with Omega-3 and some glucosamine from Amazon.

After a few weeks he started acting happy again, resumed barking for his meals and trying to mug the cat beforehand. After 5 months, now, he is about 80% back to his old self. Yesterday, he was bouncing and running circles around me wanting to play. A couple of days earlier he was chasing a rabbit across the pasture (with no ill effects for him or the rabbit).

I'm no expert, but the change has been nothing short of miraculous. I hope you will at least consult with the vet (or perhaps another one) to see if there might be medication you can try. I spent quite a few days in tears until he started to improve, but I'm thankful that neither of us gave up.

My heart goes out to you.

Diamond_Dog

(34,765 posts)
18. Sounds like what happened to our Springer Spaniel.
Sat Mar 30, 2024, 08:05 AM
Mar 2024

I’m so sorry, it is heartbreaking. Comfort him all you can.

Aussie105

(6,270 posts)
19. Thank you for those kind words, all of you.
Sat Mar 30, 2024, 08:06 AM
Mar 2024

He is now sleeping peacefully, and seeing it is near midnight here, I'm going to lie down too.

Seeing it is Easter and the vet won't be available for another two days, it's a bit of a wait, but I will take him.

Niagara

(9,602 posts)
20. I'm so sorry Aussie105.
Sat Mar 30, 2024, 08:18 AM
Mar 2024

I'm not a veterinarian so I can't diagnose your beloved doggie.


Senior pets are prone to health conditions just like we are as we get older. He could be suffering from a health condition that could be treated at the vets.


If he is actively dying...

When all 3 of our past feline companions had stopped eating and were literally hiding, we knew it was time to end their pain and suffering by euthanasia. The vet always confirmed our suspicions and the entire veterinarian staff are most caring during this difficult time.

I'm sending you and your senior doggie best wishes.





Fla Dem

(25,697 posts)
21. So sorry you're going through this. Just did with my bestie cat of 17 years.
Sat Mar 30, 2024, 08:23 AM
Mar 2024

Broke my heart, still not over it.

I hope your pal passes quickly and does not suffer. Understand your heartache. Just hug and hold him as much as you can. Hugs to you too.

niyad

(119,975 posts)
22. Lady Bast, please take Your little one gently home in Your loving arms,
Sat Mar 30, 2024, 08:48 AM
Mar 2024

and send peace and comfort to their grieving loved ones.

I am so very sorry for the loss of your precious baby.

Shermann

(8,653 posts)
23. So sorry you have to go through this
Sat Mar 30, 2024, 10:13 AM
Mar 2024

I went through my ordeal eight years ago with my 12-year-old dog. I took him to the vet where I had him hospitalized for 24 hours for observation. I wanted to give him every reasonable chance for a recovery after two weeks of rapid decline. We decided not to put him through a battery of additional tests and made that the "last visit". It was just like any other vet visit from a dog's perspective but was hard on me. That said, it wasn't the worst part of the experience for me. The daily decline and fear of tomorrow was the worst. In my case I look back on making the hard call as a form of generosity, a way to ensure he crossed over with dignity and me by his side.

central scrutinizer

(12,441 posts)
24. There are vets who will make house calls for euthanasia
Sat Mar 30, 2024, 04:50 PM
Mar 2024

Much less stressful for the animal. No crating, hauling to the vet, smells and sounds at the clinic. Surrounded by family in familiar surroundings.

Response to Aussie105 (Original post)

True Dough

(20,310 posts)
26. We've shared your pain
Sat Mar 30, 2024, 10:21 PM
Mar 2024

and the reality is, we're approaching it again. I just brought in our 115 lb German shepherd/mastiff mix from his last pee of the night in the backyard. He is a couple of months shy of age 12 and has long been suffering from severe arthritis. He's on multiple pills for relief, but still loves his short walks twice a day. Still loves to eat. Still loves to be stroked.

But getting up for that final trip outside at night takes a mighty effort. He won't be able to do it much longer.

This is him now, lying on his cushion across from me:



Best wishes, Aussie105. We've given them our hearts knowing that someday our hearts would be broken when our faithful companions leave us for good. But what a rewarding journey it's been.

Bayard

(24,145 posts)
27. I'm sure its a comfort for him to have you there
Sat Mar 30, 2024, 11:13 PM
Mar 2024

I've lost so many, various species, over the years. It never gets any easier. But life would be empty without pets.

Aussie105

(6,270 posts)
28. Mobile vet is here now doing the injection.
Sun Mar 31, 2024, 08:53 PM
Mar 2024

Sad time.
Vet takes the corpse with him.
Cremation, get him back in an urn.

niyad

(119,975 posts)
29. Lady of the Beasts, please take Your little one gently home in Your
Sun Mar 31, 2024, 09:18 PM
Mar 2024

loving arms, and send peace and comfort to his grieving loved ones.

My heart is breaking for you, Aussie105, at this incredibly sad moment. Please know that all of us here who are owned by our furbabies are grieving with you. Wecare here uf yiu need us.

CountAllVotes

(21,068 posts)
30. You did the right thing
Sun Mar 31, 2024, 10:32 PM
Mar 2024

I couldn't think after Andreas was put down.

Ashes, burial ...

It didn't much matter to me as dear Andreas was gone.

It is over now.

May you both rest in peace!

Aussie105

(6,270 posts)
31. Update - Coming home tomorrow.
Wed Apr 17, 2024, 12:51 AM
Apr 2024

In an urn.

Will go next to the others.

Buffy, Zammy, Rani - all full pedigree yellow labs.

This one was a Bull terrier cross. Not a pedigree. Still hurts.

On a cold night, he'd wake me in the small hours and ask politely if he could snuggle under the blanket with me.
I'm going to miss that.

His sister from the same litter is doing ok, just stiff in the joints at her age.
She gets extra attention.

We know what happens down the track when we take on kittens and puppies.
But it should not stop us from loving, caring, and being loved in return.

niyad

(119,975 posts)
32. Hugggggs. I wish we could make you feel better. The pain does
Wed Apr 17, 2024, 10:46 AM
Apr 2024

ease, in time. Hug and love his sister, and keep your heart open.

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