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Does anyone here have any experience (Original Post) PoindexterOglethorpe Oct 19 OP
I'm sure many here do. Do you have any particular questions? marybourg Oct 19 #1
I'm planning on moving into PoindexterOglethorpe Oct 19 #2
My parents needed help. So I moved them to independent living surfered Oct 19 #3
Oh, that's lovely. PoindexterOglethorpe Oct 19 #5
For my dad... LakeArenal Oct 19 #11
Oh, that's good to hear. PoindexterOglethorpe Oct 20 #13
I handled their finances and bill paying. If you don't have anyone, surfered Oct 19 #4
Good point. PoindexterOglethorpe Oct 19 #6
You may not want to hear this but... surfered Oct 19 #9
I have been waiting seven years for him to finish PoindexterOglethorpe Oct 19 #12
I've had two relatives live in assisted living.. Joinfortmill Oct 19 #7
Oh, yes, costs vary. PoindexterOglethorpe Oct 19 #8
Excellent! Joinfortmill Oct 19 #10

PoindexterOglethorpe

(26,607 posts)
2. I'm planning on moving into
Sat Oct 19, 2024, 01:59 PM
Oct 19

independent living next month. I keep on going back to the place and it feels very good every time.

I currently live alone in New Mexico, nearest family is my sister in Overland Park, KS. Son lives in Fairfax, VA. A lot of the decision to make this change has to do with that. I'm 77, and while most people seem astonished when I tell them my age (despite the gray hair and wrinkles) I can tell I'm getting older. I keep on going over there to have lunch, and chat with new people every time. Most seem reasonably content there.

surfered

(2,771 posts)
3. My parents needed help. So I moved them to independent living
Sat Oct 19, 2024, 02:07 PM
Oct 19

With meals provided in the cafeteria. As they continue to age, they needed more help especially with medications. The facility recommended some ladies who were independent contractors and my parents paid them for their hourly work. These ladies would also drive them (in my parents’ car) to doctors appointments. They were like angels who treated my parents like they were their parents. It did get expensive towards the end, but my parents were the better for it.

LakeArenal

(29,740 posts)
11. For my dad...
Sat Oct 19, 2024, 06:09 PM
Oct 19

A service that helped him find a place I swore he’d never like any.

Plus they might have some very important info you could miss.

For my dad: He did not know that if he’d served asoverseas in WW2 the Gov’t paid half his rent.

He would never know that without the agency.

PoindexterOglethorpe

(26,607 posts)
13. Oh, that's good to hear.
Sun Oct 20, 2024, 05:38 PM
Oct 20

I haven't done anything as exotic as work overseas. I have one tiny pension from my ten years as an airline employee.

surfered

(2,771 posts)
4. I handled their finances and bill paying. If you don't have anyone,
Sat Oct 19, 2024, 02:17 PM
Oct 19

When it comes time, you may want to hire a CPA or a Bank Trust Dept to do that for you

PoindexterOglethorpe

(26,607 posts)
6. Good point.
Sat Oct 19, 2024, 02:39 PM
Oct 19

I actually have an excellent financial advisor, and I'll be talking to him in a week or so about this.

Added on edit:

Already all or nearly all of my bills are on some kind of auto-pay. Several things get billed to my Visa. But yeah, the day may well come when I can't do what I'm currently doing to manage my finances.

surfered

(2,771 posts)
9. You may not want to hear this but...
Sat Oct 19, 2024, 03:53 PM
Oct 19

…you may want to move into a facility closer to your son. My parents retired to Colorado and enjoyed it very much, but I had a career and could not move to Colorado to help. When they got to “that point” the only alternative was to move them closer to me.

PoindexterOglethorpe

(26,607 posts)
12. I have been waiting seven years for him to finish
Sat Oct 19, 2024, 07:51 PM
Oct 19

his PhD in astronomy (My Son The Astronomer), figuring I might need to relocate to be closer to him, I decided I want to stay in New Mexico. I've been here since 2008. I hope he finds a job in this part of the country . I've told him AZ, CO, or NM are all great. His field is exo-planets, which is the hot field right now in astronomy, and every time I look on line, there are lots and lots and lots of astronomy jobs out there for exo-planet astronomers. I think he could move to be near me, given that.

Joinfortmill

(16,330 posts)
7. I've had two relatives live in assisted living..
Sat Oct 19, 2024, 03:23 PM
Oct 19

Both women, one in SC and one in NH. Both were happy with the experience. Both remained until they passed. It was much more expensive in NH. So, costs vary. Best of luck to you.

PoindexterOglethorpe

(26,607 posts)
8. Oh, yes, costs vary.
Sat Oct 19, 2024, 03:30 PM
Oct 19

Fortunately, I can well afford this place I'm looking at.

And once I'm settled in, I'll sell my little house. There's still a mortgage, but housing prices have increased so much that I'll realize a very tidy sum of money.

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