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Peregrine Took

(7,493 posts)
Sun Jul 24, 2022, 05:01 PM Jul 2022

Would you have lunch outside with someone who probably isn't vacinated?

As some of you may know its hard to make friends when you are older.
I have a neighbor who's always been friendly and we've gone out to dinner with her, I text her often but I have a sneaking feeling she is anti vax as she made a comment in the past that her mother died after being vaccinated for the flu many years ago and that made a big anti vax impression on the family.

Bottom line she has asked me to sit on her deck in the open air for some wine next week and I would love to go but, naturally, as I'm fully vaxxed and boosted and 'pretty sure she is none of them I am afraid to go.

Sitting outside at a 6 ft distance if no one is sneezing or coughing would you go?

Yes my husband and I have commorbidities and we are over 75 but healthy.

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Would you have lunch outside with someone who probably isn't vacinated? (Original Post) Peregrine Took Jul 2022 OP
No, I would not take the risk. zuul Jul 2022 #1
Ya that is my gut feeling, too. So sick of Covid as at 78 and 79 our social life is so small Peregrine Took Jul 2022 #3
No. SheltieLover Jul 2022 #2
To me, it wouldn't so much be that she is unvaxxed - marybourg Jul 2022 #4
No we are quite compatible, girlfriend wise. She is a really nice person except for this. n/t Peregrine Took Jul 2022 #6
I can't get past the fact that she could be vaxxed, but refuses. marybourg Jul 2022 #9
Sure, just show up multigraincracker Jul 2022 #5
Yes. elleng Jul 2022 #7
In-A-Word: NO (n/t) wyn borkins Jul 2022 #8
Why not ask just her if she is vaxxed and let her know you are because you are concerned MLAA Jul 2022 #10
I'd ask. If she isn't vaxxed, I wouldn't go. Scrivener7 Jul 2022 #11
This healthy 60 year old would NOT. Meadowoak Jul 2022 #12
I heard on the radio a guy had lunch with some unvaxxed family members at an outdoor kimbutgar Jul 2022 #13
I dont ask people I meet outside to show proof of vaccination first MichMan Jul 2022 #14
No MOMFUDSKI Jul 2022 #15
I would go. zeusdogmom Jul 2022 #16
Just text her whether you should wear a mask. brush Jul 2022 #17
No duckworth969 Jul 2022 #18
No. Duppers Jul 2022 #19
No. Way. Sorry, not sorry. Protect your health. appalachiablue Jul 2022 #20
Just wear a mask and sit upwind. trof Aug 2022 #21

Peregrine Took

(7,493 posts)
3. Ya that is my gut feeling, too. So sick of Covid as at 78 and 79 our social life is so small
Sun Jul 24, 2022, 05:08 PM
Jul 2022

as it is I hate to turn down a chance to hang out with some people.

We have another date with her and another neighbor next month I guess I'll have to bow out of that one, too.

Thanks for your response.

marybourg

(13,090 posts)
4. To me, it wouldn't so much be that she is unvaxxed -
Sun Jul 24, 2022, 05:08 PM
Jul 2022

you probably pass near unvaxxed people every time you go to a store - but that the fact that she is unvaxxed means you’ll probably not see eye to eye with her on many things. So why put yourself in a situation that you’ll just have to extricate yourself from later.

marybourg

(13,090 posts)
9. I can't get past the fact that she could be vaxxed, but refuses.
Sun Jul 24, 2022, 05:25 PM
Jul 2022

It’s like I would go for maybe a glass of wine - not lunch - for half an hour, but I really think she should be made a pariah and deprived of the company of others for not being willing to protect them by getting vaxxed.

multigraincracker

(33,923 posts)
5. Sure, just show up
Sun Jul 24, 2022, 05:14 PM
Jul 2022

in a Hazmat suit, face shield and double masked.

Explain that had an older friend die fro covid.

MLAA

(18,534 posts)
10. Why not ask just her if she is vaxxed and let her know you are because you are concerned
Sun Jul 24, 2022, 05:29 PM
Jul 2022

for yourselves and others? Based on her answer either go or suggest you catch up on the phone if you really want to engage 🙂

kimbutgar

(23,106 posts)
13. I heard on the radio a guy had lunch with some unvaxxed family members at an outdoor
Sun Jul 24, 2022, 06:26 PM
Jul 2022

Restaurant on a windy day and even though he was vaxxed got Covid.

MichMan

(13,014 posts)
14. I dont ask people I meet outside to show proof of vaccination first
Sun Jul 24, 2022, 06:30 PM
Jul 2022

So, I probably wouldn't know for certain one way or another

zeusdogmom

(1,040 posts)
16. I would go.
Sun Jul 24, 2022, 07:17 PM
Jul 2022

Pretty easy to stay a few feet apart outside

Our social worlds seem to shrink as we age. Embrace the opportunity

FWIW - 74 and healthy - and frequently out and about. I know not everyone I come in contact with is vaccinated. I accept that risk as part of living and embracing life to the fullest

brush

(57,104 posts)
17. Just text her whether you should wear a mask.
Sun Jul 24, 2022, 07:35 PM
Jul 2022

Get it out in the open and you'll know from then on how to proceed with the relationship.

duckworth969

(966 posts)
18. No
Sun Jul 24, 2022, 08:24 PM
Jul 2022

If you get C19, you could die drowning in your own mucus and be unable to see the ones you love for fear of contaminating them.

The increased isolation many of us exercise is not because it’s what we necessarily wish to do.

But it is our reality.

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