top/slacks//skirt. Or if you’d pick it to wear out partying, pick something else.

In my community subdued works. Not neccesarily black unless you want.

Clothes could be considered business casual but not play casual.

and to funerals where the deceased's favorite color is listed, if the guests would like to wear that color. Otherwise, dress to the time, location and weather. Beach celebration of life? Formal church funeral? From personal experience, I've seen less dark colors over the years among the younger, while older still seem to prefer black or dark tones.

at my mother's going home. I never knew that red was her favorite color until she was gone.

gg

It wouldn't have to be black, though that's always appropriate; my go-to funeral outfit is navy blue with a white top, simple jewelry. I am also of an age where I attend funerals more often than weddings so it's good to have something on hand.

In the summer, my friend goes on a 100-mile bike ride & then goes to church in her biker clothes, not even showered & says she's welcomed. Okaaaayyyy.....

Every event I've gone to in the past 25 years, there's always a few people who show up dressed like they've been lounging around watching TV.

Personally, I would keep the look dark & classic.

In the closet

and blouses and blazers to go with the slacks. I’m in PA so I have funeral clothes depending on the season. Sadly, there have been more funerals than weddings in recent years.

This is very somber, a friend died.

Black skinny slacks, a sleeveless or short sleeved top and depending on the weather, a black cardigan if needed. Black flats coz I don’t do heel very well. I like black on me but I think anything kind of subdued would work- navy, rust, browns, greens.

and blazer-styled jacket with a dark green sleeveless smooth sweater-shell beneath, gold pendant or black-gold twisted chain, and earrings to several funerals in winter. (Black winter boots if attending graveside in the snow/mud conditions); or a lighter-weight medium green ribbed shell/cardigan set in spring and summer with low heels and hose or black socks and black leather mules having a small elevated heel. This saves dignity in case of fall or temperature variations in-house requires removing jacket outdoors or appropriate for more intimate food venues afterwards.

be festive, not gloomy.

Tie-dye is welcome, even preferred.

but the dress code seems to be gone, and I realized a while ago that no one is looking at me anyway so I just look as clean and presentable as I can.

Living people, many you’ll never see again, should concentrate on the dead not fashion.

slacks, black flats, a suitable for the weather top (any color except bright red ) and a jacket if it might be cool.

There is at least a 30% possibility a funeral will happen. Also it's an outfit I can wear anywhere.
Lots of old folks back there and we knew everybody so trips to the funeral home are always possible.

Alternatively I usually have a simple suitable for church dress which will do nicely. Slacks have the advantage of not needing panty hose

DO have (now hanging in daughter's closet nearby,) beautiful multi-colored blue with some red, and would wear it if I needed such. Might even wear it as SUBJECT of a funeral. (Have long, medium dark blue cotton dress/gown I'll likely ask daughters to have me 'wear.')

IMHO you should wear whatever you want.