That is a good way to put it.

What is the goal? Is the goal to shock or shame white people or is the goal to connect? Can one do both?

The 1619 NYT mag & articles like this & "Teaching Tolerance"
public discussions help move thoughts and hopefully actions. I know from my own life experiences, I do not change my thinking/actions if a new idea doesn't make me at least a bit uncomfortable at first.
The 'newness' of an idea, " maybe Dad and Poppa were wrong about black men on the factory line..."
But then I tend to ruminate and study on ideas.

You can't do both. Those whom I know, who need some shame, will not be shamed. Quite the contrary, they dig in.

deeply twisted history.

And when reparations are paid we need to include NA and JA as well.

Not that that was my point, mind you.

As one who is 99.7% Ashkenazi Jew I can assure you that my ancestors had a pretty difficult time, and played no role in slavery.

Not that that matters. I have some problems with your concept.

Since you were responding to me it seemed to me that you and I were "us."

Of course as Stephen Stills said "We are not helpless we are men. What lies between us, it can be set aside and ended."

Are you setting aside and ending what lies between us?

I guess I erred when I assumed you were discussing shame in good faith.

Set aside. Ended.

because I'm white. Being white doesn't mean I automatically get everything I want, but it does mean, among other things, that if I get pulled over by the cops because a tail light is out, all that will happen is I get a polite reminder to get it fixed; I don't get arrested or shot. It means that nobody is likely to call the police because I'm barbecuing in a public park or trying to get into my own house when I locked myself out, driving through an upscale neighborhood in an expensive car, waiting for a friend at Starbucks, campaigning door-to-door, or so many of the other mundane, harmless things black people have been harassed for doing. I do most of those things routinely and nobody bothers me and I don't think they will. Hearing about these incidents has made me much more aware of the fact that I do benefit from my race, every day.

Even minorities treated a middle-aged, middle class white woman differently than how they treated women of color. And it was usually very subtle, like the bus seat next to me would be the absolute last one someone would sit in. They would let the older white woman sit alone, sometimes even standing, instead of taking the seat next to me. When you notice subtle things like that, the obvious stuff really starts to stand out afterwards. That white people get offended or defensive when told they experience privilege in our society, I'm just awed how they can be so obtuse. White is the default, just like male is the default.