That's awful. No one deserves to be treated that way. I can send aura vibes. This is something new I'm trying. It worked with my roommate last week. I could feel the wrath projecting out from him. After checking that my own aura was smoothed and calm, I spent a few minutes mentally smoothing his. In that case it did work as his mood lifted markedly (no words were exchanged). I will send patches for your own aura. Hope it helps.

Sending peaceful, calming vibes to you and your household.

Sounds like escalated tempers really took a turn for the worse in your house.

Intending that your daughter get the help she needs, and your husband calms down enough to see things objectively.

Intending that you hold onto the fact that none of this is your fault, and if they decide to take the situation and make a huge free-for-all out of it, you do not have to join them.

Love to you, LiberalEsto.

Would you like to meet up somewhere? Will p.m.

urgent sending of energy

We love you, mucho.

A lot. And you can borrow one of my guides for a while.

...your daughter some ”get your own damn apartment and an alarm clock” vibes.

I am so sorry...

TYY

& I more sorry you're catching the brunt of her anger & pain. Even though she is in pain, she is still old enough to take responsibility for her treatment. Take care of yourself. Surround yourself with calmness, if you can. You did everything in your power to make her more comfortable. The rest is up to her.

None of it is your "fault". Breathe.

so unfair and upsetting all in one.

Sending hopes for calm and restoration of normalcy.

((((((((LiberalEsto)))))))))

Good vibes and much peace to you and yours.


Kids are tough sometimes...esp kids with behavior problems. I have one also. Been there; had similar treatment. Not fun.

Here's hoping for less pain and better emotional weather in your home and environment.

(((LiberoEsto)))

Your daughter is old enough for self control and self responsibility. Sorry for this, but anxiety disorder my ass. Your husband should be on your team, helping your daughter to learn self-reliance, not encouraging your daughter's tantrums and dependency.

I agree with the responses above. Tell her she can get and set her own damn alarm clock, call and make her own damn appointments, and fix herself some dinner. When she has made herself an appointment, then she can ask -- as a favor -- for a ride to it. And pay gas money and pick up dinner or lunch for you, in return.

Your husband can fix dinner or pick up take out.

And they both can stfu (imho, but then I live alone for a reason).

Can you get out of there for a while and hang out somewhere else? Libraries are peaceful, comfortable and free.

Hope today is a better day.

For calm, healing, and reconciliation.

of Course ! Sending right now!!!! I'm so sorry you are having such a rough time of it!!!!

I felt your blessings last night and this morning.
You are such angels.

I feel better, but I am not speaking to either of them. This situation made me realize that there is a limit to how much verbal abuse a person should have to tolerate. And last night I reached that limit.

I am not going to back down until I get an agreement that either the daughter goes to counseling, or moves out at the end of the semester, gets a job and supports herself. I have been trying to get her to go to counseling for years.

Mercifully, our older daughter drove home very late last night from her job in NY state. She's here for the holiday weekend. She was a doll. She listened, hugged me, and agreed that yesterday's behavior was intolerable. (She got the whole story from her significant other, who's been living with us)

She's distracting their attention from me, which is good because I'm not willing to accept any lame apologies.

I want to recommend to you and anyone who reads this a book that I read many years ago. It's called:

The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to recognize it and how to respond
by Patricia Evans

"In this fully expanded and updated third edition of the bestselling classic, you learn why verbal abuse is more widespread than ever, and how you can deal with it. You'll get more of the answers you need to recognize abuse when it happens, respond to abusers safely and appropriately, and most important, lead a happier, healthier life.

"In two all-new chapters, Evans reveals the Outside Stresses driving the rise in verbal abuse--and shows you how you can mitigate the devastating effects on your relationships. She also outlines the Levels of Abuse that characterize this kind of behavior--from subtle, insidious put-downs that can erode your self-esteem to full-out tantrums of name-calling, screaming, and threatening that can escalate into physical abuse."

http://www.amazon.com/Verbally-Abusive-Relationship-recognize-respond/dp/1440504636/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1329592448&sr=1-1

It helped me quite a bit. I loaned it to a friend who did not recognize that her husband was being abusive. She thanked me and promptly divorced her abusive husband. She is now in a wonderful committed relationship. I'd send you my copy, but I sent it to my daughter to keep, just in case.

Please know that we care and are here for you.



PADemD

I'm going to look for a copy on Amazon.
Many, many thanks.

When I did that reading last night I saw pea green associated with your husband and daughter. According to one source, that represents jealousy. Does that make sense to you? Also for yours, it was all good except a lower thing that looked like a blue lightening bolt, like from your right leg area. I wasn't able to do anything with it. Does that make any sense? It was very much outside the rest of your aura.

unless my husband was jealous that he had to take her to the clinic and listen to her drama, while I stayed home.

I suspect the green might be related to both of them being in a mixed-up emotional state.

What could the blue lightning bolt represent? Maybe anger manifesting as a bit of pain in my back on the lower right side?

The only time I ever saw my own aura, many years ago, it was turquoise blue.

Thank you, Why Syzygy!

I don't think it was an acute jealousy. I think it's chronic. Maybe they are jealous because you are such a loving, giving person. I've only just started this, so there is much I don't know. Here's another suggestion: Deception toward self or others (pea green). I guess just be with that. If it doesn't fit, no worries. It's something else. Whatever it was, it doesn't feel good to be them when it's that color. The bolt aimed toward the ground/floor. It wasn't aimed at anyone. I actually did think it might be related to pain. It wasn't something I felt I should mess with. Like you need it to be there for now. I'm really glad your other daughter came home and cared for you.

This:

http://www.amazon.com/Post-Trauma-Stabilizer-1-Ounces/dp/B0012ZFCLO/ref=sr_1_1?s=hpc&ie=UTF8&qid=1329613658&sr=1-1

This:

http://www.amazon.com/Bach-Essence-Walnut-20-Milliliters/dp/B00016QT9Y/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1329613546&sr=8-1

And this:

http://www.amazon.com/Flourish-Sacred-Heart-1-oz/dp/B0012ZFCLY/ref=sr_1_1?s=hpc&ie=UTF8&qid=1329613624&sr=1-1

Post Trauma stabilizer is for exactly what it sounds like. Walnut essence can shield you from the negativity of others and help you make that break if you need to. (It kept me from going back to an abusive boyfriend back in the day.) Sacred Heart is for helping to correct negative family patterns, including emotional abuse, codependency and boundary issues.

None of these are cheap, so if I had to recommend one it would actually be Walnut, which may be available at a local natural/organic food mart near you, if they sell the Bach's line of flower essences.

but it's definitely worth exploring.
Thank you, BlueIris.