Atheists & Agnostics

truebrit71

(20,805 posts) Tue May 5, 2015, 02:33 PM May 2015

Religious privilege...

I was at my nephew's wedding in So. Cal. this past weekend. Both he and his wife are atheists. During the ceremony there wasn't a single reference to 'god' or 'holy matrimony' or anything remotely religious.

It was a beautiful, moving ceremony with both young people committing themselves to each other for the rest of their lives.

Then, as the meal was being served, a table behind me, all held hands, bowed their heads, and said a prayer, loud enough for all to hear, and thanked god for the meal they were about to enjoy.

That really pissed me off.

1) "god" had nothing to do with the meal and 2) if you really wanted to thank someone for the $55/plate they were about to enjoy it should have been the bride and groom as they were the ones actually paying for/providing it!

Assholes.

*end of rant

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Religious privilege... (Original Post) truebrit71 May 2015 OP

That was terribly disrespectful and exhibitionist of them. LiberalAndProud May 2015 #1

I just noticed my doctor has a religious plaque on his desk with some saccharine saying it. progressoid May 2015 #2

I couldn't handle it. Brainstormy May 2015 #8

Many years ago, I was working as a carpet cleaner... Binkie The Clown May 2015 #12

I so want to do that! Lars39 May 2015 #13

Ha! That's great. progressoid May 2015 #14

Here's what's wrong with it. mountain grammy May 2015 #3

And atheists get accused of acting like assholes? beam me up scottie May 2015 #4

Yes, because we post negative opinions about religion on teh Interwebz! trotsky May 2015 #18

As an atheist at many a religious wedding or funeral Warren Stupidity May 2015 #5

I agree Brainstormy May 2015 #7

I have attended several Brainstormy May 2015 #6

Thank you Jesus central scrutinizer May 2015 #9

lololol! beam me up scottie May 2015 #10

"Thank god I have food, and blame god they are starving in Bangladesh." Binkie The Clown May 2015 #11

ignorance seems to be a popular human tradition olddots May 2015 #15

Assholes. AlbertCat May 2015 #16

Apparently nil desperandum May 2015 #17

LiberalAndProud

(12,799 posts)

1. That was terribly disrespectful and exhibitionist of them.

Reply to truebrit71 (Original post)

Tue May 5, 2015, 02:48 PM

May 2015

They should have left the plate of food uneaten if the godless character of the ceremony bothered them so much. The prayer allowed them to fill their stomachs guilt free.

Makes me want to give them a good public scolding for being

assholes.

progressoid

(50,747 posts)

2. I just noticed my doctor has a religious plaque on his desk with some saccharine saying it.

Reply to truebrit71 (Original post)

Tue May 5, 2015, 02:57 PM

May 2015

Ugh.

I don't want to have to start all over with a new doctor. Maybe once we get the right meds worked out, I'll move on.

Brainstormy

(2,428 posts)

8. I couldn't handle it.

Reply to progressoid (Reply #2)

Tue May 5, 2015, 05:53 PM

May 2015

I feel for you.

Binkie The Clown

(7,911 posts)

12. Many years ago, I was working as a carpet cleaner...

Reply to progressoid (Reply #2)

Tue May 5, 2015, 07:27 PM

May 2015

I went into a home that had one of those elaborately embroidered pieces on the wall. From across the room I could read, in big bold letters "[font size=4]O Lord..."[/font]. The rest was too small to see that far away. I mumbled to myself to just ignore it and do my work. As I worked my way across the living room carpet I got close enough to read the rest. It continued in smaller embroidered print [font size=1]"...won't you buy me a Mercedes Benz ---Janis Joplin"[/font].

The lady of the house, as it turns out, was a fellow atheist.

Lars39

(26,232 posts)

13. I so want to do that!

Reply to Binkie The Clown (Reply #12)

Tue May 5, 2015, 09:06 PM

May 2015

progressoid

(50,747 posts)

14. Ha! That's great.

Reply to Binkie The Clown (Reply #12)

Tue May 5, 2015, 10:24 PM

May 2015

mountain grammy

(27,273 posts)

3. Here's what's wrong with it.

Reply to truebrit71 (Original post)

Tue May 5, 2015, 03:52 PM

May 2015

That they felt they had to be loud. If someone feels the need to pray over their food, they can do it silently. A loud religious display at a non religious ceremony is insulting, but we're all insulted by these hypocrites daily.

beam me up scottie

(57,349 posts)

4. And atheists get accused of acting like assholes?

Reply to truebrit71 (Original post)

Tue May 5, 2015, 05:02 PM

May 2015

How many of us have ever made a scene at a reception because we disagreed with the god botherers?

trotsky

(49,533 posts)

18. Yes, because we post negative opinions about religion on teh Interwebz!

Reply to beam me up scottie (Reply #4)

Wed May 6, 2015, 02:33 PM

May 2015

HORRORS!

Warren Stupidity

(48,181 posts)

5. As an atheist at many a religious wedding or funeral

Reply to truebrit71 (Original post)

Tue May 5, 2015, 05:22 PM

May 2015

it never crossed my mind to publicly demonstrate my non-belief as an act of protest. Instead I participate in their ceremonies as they wish them to be observed. Out of simple respect for my fellow humans in our shared journey through life. What flaming fucking assholes those people were.

Brainstormy

(2,428 posts)

7. I agree

Reply to Warren Stupidity (Reply #5)

Tue May 5, 2015, 05:52 PM

May 2015

takes "classless" to a new level.

Brainstormy

(2,428 posts)

6. I have attended several

Reply to truebrit71 (Original post)

Tue May 5, 2015, 05:52 PM

May 2015

"atheist" weddings. (Including my daughter's.) All were beautiful, moving, and enjoyable. The most interesting thing is that most of the guests were completely oblivious to the fact that there was no mention of God and that the ceremony was completely secular. You don't need god to get married.

central scrutinizer

(12,441 posts)

9. Thank you Jesus

Reply to truebrit71 (Original post)

Tue May 5, 2015, 05:54 PM

May 2015

beam me up scottie

(57,349 posts)

10. lololol!

Reply to central scrutinizer (Reply #9)

Tue May 5, 2015, 06:20 PM

May 2015

Rec post !!!

Binkie The Clown

(7,911 posts)

11. "Thank god I have food, and blame god they are starving in Bangladesh."

Reply to truebrit71 (Original post)

Tue May 5, 2015, 07:17 PM

May 2015

If you give god the credit for having food, you have to give him the blame for depriving others of food.

Since they don't, they are hypocrites.

As for their god; Not the kind of god I could have any respect for.

olddots

(10,237 posts)

15. ignorance seems to be a popular human tradition

Reply to truebrit71 (Original post)

Wed May 6, 2015, 12:47 AM

May 2015

that religiously denies evolution .

AlbertCat

(17,505 posts)

16. Assholes.

Reply to truebrit71 (Original post)

Wed May 6, 2015, 12:57 AM

May 2015

B-b-b-but they were being oppressed!

or something....

nil desperandum

(654 posts)

17. Apparently

Reply to truebrit71 (Original post)

Wed May 6, 2015, 02:05 PM

May 2015

they didn't read their instruction manual properly: Matthew 6;5 is quite clear as I recall...

And when thou prayest, thou shalt not be as the hypocrites are: for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and in the corners of the streets, that they may be seen of men. Verily I say unto you, They have their reward.

Thus their god has a reward they won't like for being as the hypocrites who pray in public...

I'm quite certain they will ignore that portion of the gospel, most religious folks believe their instruction booklets are like Asian take out menus, you can choose separate items from column A and column B and ignore those items you don't want.

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