I just don't understand that thinking.

Women say it because they want to believe it can't happen to them.

Both are dead wrong.

I had a 19 years old tell me how it couldn't possibly happen to her because she was a good girl.

Is that it came from a woman who admits to being old enough to know better

Look at all the evidence you've have to deny to believe like that.

Sickening.

The "ugly" thing is new. But, I have heard here that men can't be raped by women, and my "favorite" (heavy ) is that gay/bi men cannot be raped, except by heterosexual men, and even then it is questionable as to if it is actually rape. Those claims were also made by women. I have seen one male make a similar comment about gay men eons ago (DU2), but I can't remember who, but I do think he was banned before DU3, which means he could be back.

As for rape against sex workers, sadly, I have seen both men and women make those comments here (and other allegedly liberal/progressive) sites. Much less common, and I can only remember a few instances, and usually the reaction was brutal, were a few who didn't think spouses could be raped.

(PS, I also think you meant to say others were claiming "Can't rape the willing?", not "unwilling".)

We were told how special and gifted the victims were.
All the time I was wondering, what if they weren't so special?
Do we mourn them less?
Were there lives less worthy?
Should the shooter get less jail time if they weren't pretty/smart?
Am I alone in this?

Even the church shooting (which was, of course, appalling) was made to seem worse because the victims were praying and 'worshipping'. So what? Would it have been less obscene if they'd been playing cards? Watching a porn movie?