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LovingA2andMI

(7,006 posts)
Tue Sep 15, 2015, 01:06 AM Sep 2015

Numb....

My Best Friend was a guy. An Ex-Boyfriend, not Husband. He died on Monday and with each passing hour, its getting more real he's never coming back. Twenty two years. Two in a relationship, the last twenty just friends. He was my the person always there when a ear was needed or to hang out with just to get away from it all.

I felt so numb and miss, my Best Friend

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Numb.... (Original Post) LovingA2andMI Sep 2015 OP
I'm so sorry. ohheckyeah Sep 2015 #1
Thank you... LovingA2andMI Sep 2015 #2
You're welcome. ohheckyeah Sep 2015 #3
I am so sorry. murielm99 Sep 2015 #4
Thank you! LovingA2andMI Sep 2015 #6
I'm so sorry. NCarolinawoman Sep 2015 #5
Thank you!! LovingA2andMI Sep 2015 #7
I'm so terribly sorry for your loss. auntAgonist Sep 2015 #8
Thank You!! LovingA2andMI Sep 2015 #9

LovingA2andMI

(7,006 posts)
2. Thank you...
Tue Sep 15, 2015, 01:14 AM
Sep 2015

Today, I can't sleep. Barely ate (forced a peanut butter and jelly sandwich down). Just kinda there -- numb if that makes sense.

Sorry for your loss and thank you for the kind words.

ohheckyeah

(9,314 posts)
3. You're welcome.
Tue Sep 15, 2015, 01:33 AM
Sep 2015

I do know what you mean by numb and it's normal. So is not feeling like eating. Be gentle with yourself. Eat when you can, sleep when you can, and cry when you need to. Be assured that what you are going through is normal for grieving. There's no time frame for grieving so don't push yourself.

I hope you get some rest. Hold on to friends and family to help you through it and we are here for you.


murielm99

(31,433 posts)
4. I am so sorry.
Tue Sep 15, 2015, 04:14 AM
Sep 2015

The not coming back part is very hard.

Please try to eat and sleep and take care of yourself.

NCarolinawoman

(2,825 posts)
5. I'm so sorry.
Tue Sep 15, 2015, 10:15 PM
Sep 2015

Best friends are golden. I hope you have others in your life who you are close to and can be supportive. But a best friend is a BEST FRIEND!

LovingA2andMI

(7,006 posts)
7. Thank you!!
Tue Sep 15, 2015, 11:25 PM
Sep 2015

He was my Best Friend and I'll will miss him. The family needed money for the service and before his Sister got out the words, I had already said I would donate. Basketball season will be real hard this year, and I lost my buddy to go back and forward about the games with.

It will be quite different going forward. Quite different. Appreciate your kind words.

auntAgonist

(17,257 posts)
8. I'm so terribly sorry for your loss.
Thu Sep 17, 2015, 01:01 AM
Sep 2015

You will miss him forever. It doesn't really get any better but it does get different. You're a long way from that right now. I hope that you can take some solace in the joy filled memories you hold dear in your heart.

Friends go beyond forever I think .. You can still talk to him and your heart will always hear his voice.


my sincerest condolences to you and to those who loved and knew him.

aA
kesha

LovingA2andMI

(7,006 posts)
9. Thank You!!
Thu Sep 17, 2015, 11:22 PM
Sep 2015

Much appreciated. The service is next Monday and I'm still wrapping my head around going. I'll hope to be ready by then but, not looking forward to it.

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