"Everything Doesn't Happen For A Reason"

just found this piece tonight--it's worth reading:
(here is a snip)

"Let me be crystal clear: if you've faced a tragedy and someone tells you in any way, shape or form that your tragedy was meant to be, that it happened for a reason, that it will make you a better person, or that taking responsibility for it will fix it, you have every right to remove them from your life.

"Grief is brutally painful. Grief does not only occur when someone dies. When relationships fall apart, you grieve. When opportunities are shattered, you grieve. When dreams die, you grieve. When illnesses wreck you, you grieve.

"So I’m going to repeat a few words I’ve uttered countless times; words so powerful and honest they tear at the hubris of every jackass who participates in the debasing of the grieving:

"Some things in life cannot be fixed. They can only be carried."

http://www.timjlawrence.com/blog/2015/10/19/everything-doesnt-happen-for-a-reason

(more snipping)

"So if anyone tells you some form of get over it, move on, or rise above, you can let them go.

"If anyone avoids you amidst loss, or pretends like it didn’t happen, or disappears from your life, you can let them go.

"If anyone tells you that all is not lost, that it happened for a reason, that you’ll become better as a result of your grief, you can let them go.

"Let me reiterate: all of those platitudes are bullshit. "