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47of74

(18,470 posts)
Thu Dec 17, 2015, 10:41 PM Dec 2015

It'll be different this Christmas.

With my Grandma passing back in January that'll be my first Christmas without any of my Grandparents.
Plus my Aunt passed in September.

Planning to have a good Christmas, but will be thinking of them during the holidays.

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It'll be different this Christmas. (Original Post) 47of74 Dec 2015 OP
i'm sorry to hear about your grandma and your aunt orleans Dec 2015 #1
I had such a hard time with the 'firsts' The worst being my Mother's dying in August of '97 auntAgonist Dec 2015 #2

orleans

(34,941 posts)
1. i'm sorry to hear about your grandma and your aunt
Fri Dec 18, 2015, 02:33 AM
Dec 2015

...i just hate those "firsts"
but then i didn't like the year of "seconds" either, or thirds, fourths, etc.
this is the seventh christmas without my mom and it's still hard/bad/sad

still waiting for even a bit of that christmas "spirit" to kick in. but i'm not holding my breath.

auntAgonist

(17,257 posts)
2. I had such a hard time with the 'firsts' The worst being my Mother's dying in August of '97
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 10:44 AM
Dec 2015

I don't think it ever really gets easier but the way we deal with it changes over the years.

My first husband gave me a gorgeous framed photograph of my Mum the first Christmas after she died. His heart was in the right place and I really appreciated it but the timing, .. my god the timing
I was so glad he'd saved it for a private gift exchange between the two of us. I was so touched and so upset at the same time. I think it would have been really difficult to hold my emotions at our large family gathering earlier that day.

I'm so glad to see your positive hopes for having a good Christmas 47of74 and I pray your memories comfort you throughout the holiday and days to follow.

Merry Christmas to you and yours.

kesha

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