Bereavement

murielm99

(31,433 posts) Wed Mar 30, 2016, 05:08 AM Mar 2016

One year.

It has been one year since my son-in-law died. I don't think things have gotten easier.

My daughter has taken a new job, in the upper Midwest. She is closer to home, and, I think, happier there. It is better, not perfect.

She had him in her life for such a short time. I am glad they had each other at all. She hurts more than the rest of us, but we all hurt over his loss.

I don't know what she will be doing today. I will call her. It could be that she does not want to talk. That would be all right.

I don't have much that is hopeful or cheerful to say today. I do hope some of you are feeling better. I mean that. I don't want to drag anyone down.

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One year. (Original Post) murielm99 Mar 2016 OP

Anniversary dates are just awful. DeadLetterOffice Mar 2016 #1

The first anniversary is the hardest. No Vested Interest Mar 2016 #2

Dear Muriel, I don't think it EVER gets easier. Ever. It does get different though. auntAgonist Apr 2016 #3

kesha--you have been absolutely *wonderful* for this group & to this group orleans Apr 2016 #4

DeadLetterOffice

(1,352 posts)

1. Anniversary dates are just awful.

Reply to murielm99 (Original post)

Wed Mar 30, 2016, 05:41 AM

Mar 2016

Mostly, it's all about hunkering down and surviving the day.

I'm so sorry for your loss, and your continuing grief. Be gentle with yourself today.

Hugs,
DLO

No Vested Interest

(5,196 posts)

2. The first anniversary is the hardest.

Reply to DeadLetterOffice (Reply #1)

Wed Mar 30, 2016, 02:07 PM

Mar 2016

Beyond the first anniversary, one can say to oneself -"Well, I got through (that day- birthday, holiday, anniversary-) once and will do so again on subsequent reminder days."

There is no right or wrong way for each person mark these days. The heart knows best.

auntAgonist

(17,257 posts)

3. Dear Muriel, I don't think it EVER gets easier. Ever. It does get different though.

Reply to murielm99 (Original post)

Wed Apr 6, 2016, 09:21 AM

Apr 2016

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I'm sorry I missed you post by a few day. Having a few hard days (months) here and admittedly I've fallen in my committment to this wonderful group of friends.

I hope you were able to speak to your daughter and I hope the day was more good than bad for her. Anniversaries are tough, no matter how many years it's been.

Please know Muriel that ANYTHING you post here is important and I'm sure won't bring any of us down. We are a support group after all.

IF you ever feel like sending a private message I'm always, always open to that too.

I'm hoping you have a good day today and much better days ahead.

kesha.

orleans

(34,942 posts)

4. kesha--you have been absolutely *wonderful* for this group & to this group

Reply to auntAgonist (Reply #3)

Thu Apr 7, 2016, 11:30 PM

Apr 2016

please don't ever think otherwise

we are all so lucky to have you here, your tender/kind/thoughtful words, your insight, and your love.

i am hoping you (and all of us) have much better days ahead.

we love you. always know that.

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