We got you!

It's been 27 years for me. It is still impossibly hard sometimes.

the same without our parents in it.

Hug from a mom.
Plus a lot of understanding of what your going through.

I was feeling that way in 2015 thought I'd never laugh again. I had my empty house to hide in and I did for a whole winter. I think that helped me cope with this years isolation.

Mad at myself this spring for not starting tomato seeds and then slow to buy plants then big hail storm here. The plants were still in the car!! Slacker for the win.

Better days ahead OK

You sure are dealing with a lot of tough stuff.

I know when I'm the saddest, that's when I miss her the most, by far.

I hope things improve for you and for all of us in this country. We freaking need a break for a change!

You are absolutely safe finding us here to vent your frustration and pain. Hope it gets better.

Wish I could give you a hug. Take a deep breath and get done what you can get done. Rest.

Peace and love!

So sorry you have so much on your plate, MissMillie! 😢

them through.

I have days where I would give anything to be able to call her to get her perspective on what is happening. She was the mother of 3 conservatives and 2 liberals who was a self described Democrat. She was able to look at all sides of a story and give her unique perspective.

Yes, there are days when I would give anything to have something close to the normal we had before November, 2016. I am trying to pin my hope on Joe Biden being elected this November so we can rebuild our country and make it better than it was before tRump.

In the meantime, here is a hug from me to you because I need one too -

And here are the hugs we get from Democratic Underground every day - .

Have a better day, MissMillie. I know I will be trying to do the same!

Sending hugs and hope you can have better days ahead. Take care. We are with you.

I wish my Mom could give me a hug too.

Stay well, we will all make it out the other side.

that's for sure. No wonder you are ready to blow up. I keep hoping that by January, we will all feel better. Like tRump said "Everything goes away" Hopefully, that includes him and his band of grifters in the WH. Maybe the dogs do not like having your relatives there either, so they are showing their frustration? Remember "This too shall pass" It can not pass fast enough for most of us. Good luck dealing with all this.

a link to a page with some techniques that can help deal with stress. Especially the second one there, the butterfly hug.

https://www.debbieaugenthaler.com/toolbox-2/

I need something outstanding to happen. It won’t even have to be for me personally. To see someone’s joy makes me cry and it releases some of the weight. Tired of being tired. Praying constantly for good news. Hang in there. Blessings.

but the rest of it sounds lousy and like it won't get better any time soon.

Just know that nobody thinks you're being a big baby about it, that we've all been there a time or two and some of us are nodding in agreement even now. Sometimes life just plain sucks.

Some days I feel like I'm hanging on for sheer spite, just so I can vote that gang of fuckers out of our government.

Care to joint me in that?

I know how that I can get I get sick of shit just like anybody else does. But it's best to vent and get it out then keep it bottle up and let it build up into something worse

The most and only "living" part of your mom is in you right this moment. Part of every cell in your body is made from her. She is with you always.

I'm sitting here in tears for you.

When My husband passed away, I baked. Everything I could think of for 6 weeks. One late night bake-a -thon it hit me. I've always hated baking. That was my mom's thing. I just needed my mom and no matter how much I baked she wasn't coming back. That's the night I stopped the frenzied baking.

We never stop needing our mom's.

Done the family care thing 4x now, on little income, for both parents and Mom in law and late wife too. That was a rough 6 years. I have a good idea of how it feels.

As my brother used to say "we have to stop meeting like this."

And relief from your stress.

how are you doing this Thursday? I understand missing those hugs. My son's 6th month 's is coming on 9-6-20. This not being able to hug anyone takes it toll at times. I love my fur-grandbabies but even cuddling with them is not the same as a hug from my son or a friend.

Good days and bad days. Yesterday was a really good day. I got to see my dad and cook for him. He only lives 2 streets over, but due to Covid, we limit in-person contact. His hearing isn't so good, so talking on the phone is difficult.

Still pretty pissed off at the state of the world. Very afraid about having children in our home who are about to go back to school. I just don't think it's safe.

And still missing Mom. I talk to her a lot. When I finish making a meal, I say, "Mom, you'd like this." I made a cake from scratch last week, using the recipe she'd always use (on the can of Hershey's cocoa powder). That's actually a big deal because while I love to cook, I don't really bake.

I had an aunt who made a chocolate cake from scratch using Hershey's cocoa powder and would add bits of their chocolate bar in to the batter.

Good days and bad days here as well. Wednesday mornings are good because I volunteer at my church's food bank. Helping others is a good way for me to work through some of the grief. That being said, my son's ashes are still at the house and in his bedroom. He is with me physically and spiritually.