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MissMillie

(38,961 posts)
Thu Feb 4, 2021, 07:44 AM Feb 2021

On what would have been her 87th birthday

I just miss her. Truth is, I didn't really have her for the last couple of years of her life, but I miss her the way she was before she got sick.

I keep thinking that I should do or make something to honor her, but I can't think what that should be.

She meant so much to so many people.

She made my life so beautiful.

I miss you Mom. Happy Birthday.

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On what would have been her 87th birthday (Original Post) MissMillie Feb 2021 OP
Why not bake her fav birthday cake? SheltieLover Feb 2021 #1
THIS! I think it would be wonderful. Ilsa Feb 2021 #11
I'm so sorry for your loss. LiberalLoner Feb 2021 #2
I'm so very sorry, MissMillie. dixiechiken1 Feb 2021 #3
Make a cake. mgardener Feb 2021 #4
I am so very sorry for your loss. Some very good suggestions here. Maybe make her favourite meal, niyad Feb 2021 #5
So sorry MissMillie. When I think on losing my mom, I listen to one of her favorite FailureToCommunicate Feb 2021 #6
Hugs Miss Millie hugs irisblue Feb 2021 #7
I miss my Mommy too. To honor her why not try doing a Mommy thing that he would have done Cozmo Feb 2021 #8
Hat's off to our mothers! dubyadiprecession Feb 2021 #9
I am sorry, Miss Millie. peacebuzzard Feb 2021 #10
Been thinking about my mom too. kag Feb 2021 #12

Ilsa

(62,234 posts)
11. THIS! I think it would be wonderful.
Thu Feb 4, 2021, 10:43 AM
Feb 2021

If not a whole cake, get a pair of cupcakes and celebrate! It might help you feel even closer to her.

Tight squeeeeeeze hug to you!

LiberalLoner

(10,104 posts)
2. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Thu Feb 4, 2021, 08:54 AM
Feb 2021

After my Mom passed, I bought a book to write in, a journal I guess, and I wrote to her in it. Silly, I know, but by writing to her in it, I felt more like I was really talking to her.

I also found an app that was basically talking to your loved ones in heaven. I don’t think they make that app anymore but they do have things like “guidance from your angels” and I still use that when I miss her and wish I could talk with her. I pretend the comforting words are from her.

Those things are silly but they made me feel better.

I hope you will be able to find ways to feel better, too.

I’m so sorry for your loss, I know how much it hurts.

❤️😭

dixiechiken1

(2,113 posts)
3. I'm so very sorry, MissMillie.
Thu Feb 4, 2021, 08:57 AM
Feb 2021

I can relate.. My mom would have been 86 in 5 days. I think the fact that she's in your heart and your mind honors her greatly. Your words are a lovely tribute.

Wishing you love and light to carry you through...

mgardener

(1,895 posts)
4. Make a cake.
Thu Feb 4, 2021, 09:08 AM
Feb 2021

My son was 5 days old when he died .
He would gave been 38 this Nov.
I make a cake every year on that date.

niyad

(119,894 posts)
5. I am so very sorry for your loss. Some very good suggestions here. Maybe make her favourite meal,
Thu Feb 4, 2021, 09:13 AM
Feb 2021

get her favourite flowers? Or just talk to her.

Whatever you choose to do, know that your DU family is here for you. Huggggs. It does get easier.

FailureToCommunicate

(14,324 posts)
6. So sorry MissMillie. When I think on losing my mom, I listen to one of her favorite
Thu Feb 4, 2021, 09:15 AM
Feb 2021

songs, before she passed. And it's one we played at her memorial service.

Sometimes music helps. I hope it does for you.

peacebuzzard

(5,266 posts)
10. I am sorry, Miss Millie.
Thu Feb 4, 2021, 10:32 AM
Feb 2021

I have been thinking so much of my mom too lately.

She has been gone for many years, she passed suddenly w/ an aneurysm.
The med techs were poorly trained, the ambulance got stuck in traffic.
she was in a foreign country.
So many things I regret.
I think of her often; she was my best friend.
I understand your pain, grief and sadness.
I am so sorry.

kag

(4,107 posts)
12. Been thinking about my mom too.
Thu Feb 4, 2021, 10:45 AM
Feb 2021

She would have been 88 on Monday. I was only sixteen when she died, and that was 41 years ago, but sometimes it feels like she was just here.

I don't care how old you are when it happens, it sucks to lose your mom.

Be good to yourself, MissMillie. Sending you strength and love.

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