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bluecollar2

(3,622 posts)
Thu Mar 4, 2021, 11:13 PM Mar 2021

My mum passed away today.

I'm bewildered, overwhelmed, depressed and numb, confused and uncertain.

I'm going to leave this here with my DU family and go to bed. It has been a long day.

Thank you for being here.

I'm going to need some help over the next few days and DU has been my rock since shrub stole the election.

I love you guys.

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My mum passed away today. (Original Post) bluecollar2 Mar 2021 OP
My condolences. Having a parent die is very difficult and painful. uppityperson Mar 2021 #1
so sorry to hear it MFM008 Mar 2021 #2
You know that DU will be here for you. nocoincidences Mar 2021 #3
someone is always here on DU Skittles Mar 2021 #4
Sucks. OAITW r.2.0 Mar 2021 #5
So sorry to hear this. Nothing prepares us for the loss. There's always someone here to listen. littlemissmartypants Mar 2021 #6
Moms are really tough. My babylonsister Mar 2021 #7
Oh no. I'm so sorry. MontanaMama Mar 2021 #8
It's a huge loss. My prayers are with you. Joinfortmill Mar 2021 #9
I'm so sorry. Maraya1969 Mar 2021 #10
((blue)) blm Mar 2021 #11
Try for some sleep tonight, bluecollar. sheshe2 Mar 2021 #12
Dear bluecollar2 MLAA Mar 2021 #13
I'm so sorry. Phoenix61 Mar 2021 #14
Tell us something you want us to know about her. 3Hotdogs Mar 2021 #15
I'm sorry for your loss vercetti2021 Mar 2021 #16
Condolences . May she Rest In Peace luckone Mar 2021 #17
Losing a parent is exceptionally difficult. Delmette2.0 Mar 2021 #18
I am so sorry for the loss of your mother, bluecollar UpInArms Mar 2021 #19
So sorry for your loss. I know it isn't easy. 58Sunliner Mar 2021 #20
So sorry for your loss. Paz. RestoreAmerica2020 Mar 2021 #21
. denbot Mar 2021 #22
... alwaysinasnit Mar 2021 #23
Vibes to you and yours in this hard time. applegrove Mar 2021 #24
No matter how old we are or they are, this leaves a huge... 3catwoman3 Mar 2021 #25
You'll cross my mind... VarryOn Mar 2021 #26
My mom died when I was 16 momta Mar 2021 #27
I'm so very sorry for your loss. StarryNite Mar 2021 #28
sending lots of love TalenaGor Mar 2021 #29
🕯️may her memory be always a blesding irisblue Mar 2021 #30
This year is almost as bad as 2020. BigmanPigman Mar 2021 #31
Deepest condolences to you SheltieLover Mar 2021 #32
My heart and condolences go to you and yours. Ka-Dinh Oy Mar 2021 #33
so sorry, let us know if you need anything. Hamlette Mar 2021 #34
So Sorry, bluecollar2 people Mar 2021 #35
I am so sorry for your loss. FuzzyRabbit Mar 2021 #36
Get some rest, bc. We'll be here. ancianita Mar 2021 #37
I'm so very sorry for your loss. Losing a parent pnwest Mar 2021 #38
I send my condolences to you and your family. P.C.L.D. Mar 2021 #39
I'm so sorry Laurelin Mar 2021 #40
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my mom in 93... ms liberty Mar 2021 #41
Deepest sympathy. sinkingfeeling Mar 2021 #42
I'm so sorry for your loss. brer cat Mar 2021 #43
I'm so sorry 😢 live love laugh Mar 2021 #44
My heart goes out to you, such a challenging time. JudyM Mar 2021 #45
I'm so sorry, bluecollar2. BComplex Mar 2021 #46

OAITW r.2.0

(28,392 posts)
5. Sucks.
Thu Mar 4, 2021, 11:18 PM
Mar 2021

Lost my Mom in 1999 to ALD. My Dad in 1976 to a MI. No replacing them. And then we are up to the plate.

littlemissmartypants

(25,496 posts)
6. So sorry to hear this. Nothing prepares us for the loss. There's always someone here to listen.
Thu Mar 4, 2021, 11:19 PM
Mar 2021


Stay strong.

MontanaMama

(24,024 posts)
8. Oh no. I'm so sorry.
Thu Mar 4, 2021, 11:24 PM
Mar 2021

There’s no preparation for this loss. My folks have been gone for many years and while I miss them terribly, it does get easier with time. I’m thinking of you and holding you and yours in my heart.

MLAA

(18,602 posts)
13. Dear bluecollar2
Thu Mar 4, 2021, 11:28 PM
Mar 2021

I am sending you and your loved ones 💕💕💕💖💖💖💞💞💖💕💖💖💞💞💖

3catwoman3

(25,453 posts)
25. No matter how old we are or they are, this leaves a huge...
Fri Mar 5, 2021, 12:36 AM
Mar 2021

...hole. They loved us before they knew us.

My mom’s spirit was liberated on Dec 12, 2020, and the permanence of this is only now feeling real. She made it to 98, and was doing well until the last 3 weeks, when she got the covid virus.

When someone gets to 98, it’s hard to feel cheated, but still...

momta

(4,108 posts)
27. My mom died when I was 16
Fri Mar 5, 2021, 12:45 AM
Mar 2021

back in 1979. The overwhelming feeling I remember having that day was "Why are there commercials on TV right now? Why is someone trying to sell me cereal? Don't they know my mom just died?"

It wasn't rational, but it was very strong.

Sending love and strength your way. Take care.

BigmanPigman

(52,266 posts)
31. This year is almost as bad as 2020.
Fri Mar 5, 2021, 01:08 AM
Mar 2021

I still cry all the time since I miss my dad and my little girl. Time isn't helping either.

people

(697 posts)
35. So Sorry, bluecollar2
Fri Mar 5, 2021, 01:34 AM
Mar 2021

That is going to be very hard for a while. Give yourself time to feel however you are feeling. Your mom stays with you always, even though she has passed away. Would it work for you to sit down and write and write about your mom?

pnwest

(3,295 posts)
38. I'm so very sorry for your loss. Losing a parent
Fri Mar 5, 2021, 01:58 AM
Mar 2021

is so strange. We’ve known them our entire lives, it’s hard to imagine existing in the world without them in it. Our parents are eternal, invincible, the most constant presence we’ve known. Sending prayers for comfort for your family, may you find solace in your memories.

P.C.L.D.

(43 posts)
39. I send my condolences to you and your family.
Fri Mar 5, 2021, 02:44 AM
Mar 2021

I lost my mother on Feb 8th and I am still in shock and I wake up everyday thinking this is just a nightmare. I will be praying for you and your family.

Laurelin

(642 posts)
40. I'm so sorry
Fri Mar 5, 2021, 03:32 AM
Mar 2021

I was 14 when I lost my parents and I still miss them. It does get better though.

Be kind to yourself. I have always found that going for a walk is the best way to cope. Talking to people who understand also helps, though animals are sometimes more understanding than people.

I guess the good part is that we loved them enough that losing them is painful.

ms liberty

(9,828 posts)
41. I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my mom in 93...
Fri Mar 5, 2021, 07:26 AM
Mar 2021

You don't really ever get over it, you just get used to it. The wound is still there, but the scab doesn't rip off as easily.

brer cat

(26,281 posts)
43. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Fri Mar 5, 2021, 10:01 AM
Mar 2021

It will take time to overcome your feelings. Allow yourself the time to grieve.

JudyM

(29,517 posts)
45. My heart goes out to you, such a challenging time.
Fri Mar 5, 2021, 08:12 PM
Mar 2021

Wishing you moments of comfort in the midst of it all.... know that the love you shared will continue permeating your life.

BComplex

(9,078 posts)
46. I'm so sorry, bluecollar2.
Fri Mar 5, 2021, 10:08 PM
Mar 2021
Bless your mom's soul, and I pray she will rest in peace.

And a big hug for you.
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