I had to look up the story about Auggie.

May your son RIP and you and yours find a sense of closure. I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet boy, Chaz.

I hope the chance to be together with others who cherished him will be nurturing for you.

My son was loved by his friends. I wanted as many people as possible to come and share in the ceremony. Living in Arizona who knows what
will happen as far as Covid goes. The people who have rsvp'd on Facebook I know have had both shots. Most of them still wear a mask when in public.

18 months is a long time. Jay's birthday of 9-11 was 16 years before it became a day connected with tragedy. All of us, not just me who needs to have this final good-bye.

Your son must have been a special person. A celebration of his life sounds like a great idea.

May he rest in peace.

My niece is getting married on 9/11 this year. I am looking forward to having some joy associated with this date. I promise to think of your son and hold you in my heart on that date. It’s unimaginable to lose a child, and likewise have their birthdate become associated with national pain. I’ve not seen Wonder or Quasimodo, but I will keep it in mind.

I’m glad you posted here, ChazII. Thank you so much for the trust as you share your pain. It’s good when one shares grief. You do not mourn alone. And you shouldn’t ever have to.

thank you for the comments above.

Jay, like Beau Biden, died from the same brain tumor that took the lives of senators Kennedy and McCain.

we will most certainly have the warm sun not only in the morning but all day. Your compliment and wishes are greatly appreciated. I will be volunteering at our small satellite food bank this morning so I will be able to enjoy the sunlight this Wednesday morning.

the way this mess has disrupted the whole dying and grieving process is something that has soooo gotten under my skin. it just hurts my heart to hear stories like this.
but i am glad that you are finally getting it settled. i'm sure you are too.

all love my dear. there is nothing worse than losing a child. at any age.

who have lost a loved one. You stated it perfectly, "disrupted the whole dying and grieving process". It put an entire different spin - not the best word- on the grieving cycle. I remember the first thing I was told was to not isolate. Then here in Arizona things shut down two weeks later. Of course by this time most of the nation was already self-isolating. Not a mixed message and isolating was necessary and I still do isolating because of the covid numbers. Still the isolating doesn't help when it comes to the contact needed to heal from loss.

To quote Star Trek, "The needs of the many outweigh the need of the one." I mangled the quote but the Star Trek folks will not what I mean. Friends who have had shots come by for visits. We order take out and enjoy a meal on the outdoor patio from time to time.

Yes, it hurts this final good-bye but it is good to finally get it settled.

a mantra of mine.

many when it comes to grieving. It is the healthiest way to deal with grief. Don't stuff it work through it.

i did a lot of that this last year. shit i cant change and cant fix. that i just have to accept.
my other mantra is- it is what it is.

also, i am all flaws, help together by good intentions.
totally me.

sense and your other mantra is one that I also use. Thank you for your support.

is worth a great deal. I call it a blessing.

I hope the celebration brings more sweet memories of your beloved son.
❤️ ❤️