You were a wonderful daughter to her. It takes time to get over a big loss like this.

I am so sorry for your loss. Losing a parent is terribly painful. I wish peace and love to you and all your family.

May your mother Rest In Peace and may her memory be a blessing.

Love to you and your family.

Mothers give us life and then they are gone from ours. Incomprehensible.

Be good to yourself as you pass through this time of sorrow.

You are not alone; you will recover.

given so much to her for so long. I am so sorry for the pain you must be feeling. I hold you in my heart, and I hope you know what a good daughter you were to do what you did.

Peace and strength, my dear. I wish them for you, but I know you are already a person of much peace and strength.

Much love to you.

your Mom, she.

So very sorry for your profound loss. Went through a similar scenario with my mom before she passed in 2017. I truly understand and am holding you in my heart.

I'm glad you were with her when she passed. I'm confident that you and your family's presence made her transition peaceful.

My dad passed away last May and I was with him, holding his hand when the moment came. It's a very complex experience and I hope you're at peace.

I am so sorry for your loss as well.

Never easy, is it?

May sweet memories help you through your time of sorrow.

are now feeling. My Mom died in 1998 at only 74 and her loss is still a hole in my heart.

I eventually realized that my loss was so great because I had had such a great mother who loved me even more than I loved her.

Your mother was blessed to have you for her child. Take care of yourself.

They did finish their lives in the home they raised 7 children in but I wasn't there. 500 miles away.

It's hard and it should be but saying good bye is something I didn't, get so hold your grief close and know what you did was noble.

There will come a day . . .

Remember her with fondness.

May you find comfort in knowing that her pain and suffering are over. You were a devoted daughter for years, and you deserve rest also. Take care of yourself.

Haven't had a chance to respond to all, everywhere. Takes time.

What I do know, is she will be buried with her son. It was what she wanted, I talked her into it. She wanted it but it was my dads family plot. I said we would place her in the same grave far from my dad. I also promised I would go there as well.

I know what a horrible and confusing experience it is. Now I’ve lived to be older than she was when she died it’s a strange feeling. Still makes me cry.You will have some comfort knowing you did everything you could.

your loss.

Of course, you feel lost. You devoted so much to her care.

Hugs. xoxo

You will likely be grateful later for this peaceful transition, but it's sad.

(((Hugs)))

It's been a little over a year since my mom passed. I miss her every day. That will never change. But, over time, my memories of her make me smile more than they make me cry.

May your grief be short and your memories long, she. Take care of yourself.

You were with her when she passed. Did you feel her spirit when she passed? I was with my Mom when she passed and it was so peaceful. I felt her hug when she left me and felt relieved she was with my father, her mother and her siblings who died years previously.

The dream when they come to you after they passed happens.

My heart aches with yours …

((((((hugs))))))

mother, I can empathize with your loss and feelings of disorientation.

be eternal.

May her memory be a comfort and a blessing.

My dad was healthy but died in his sleep almost 3 years ago. It was a huge shock. I heard him the night he died and I knew he was trying to tell me something, maybe he wanted me to know he is still with me after life.

It’s one of the hardest things ❤️

shine so brightly in your words.

For me, it was tumultuous, but gradually i realized the 24 hour a day concern was replaced with the relief of knowing the circle of life had closed. Memories that I had no space for could now surface and be embraced. I wish you peace.

❤️

...it's a kind of uprooting, a cutting-loose from the generation that gave you existence. An unbalancing. The longest set of shared memory and experience in your life is no longer there. Memory must take the place of presence, and memory feels like such an inadequate thing...

Her presence is gone but stay strong, she...

Stay strong and miss her.

Stay strong and grieve your loss.

Stay strong and say all the farewells.

Stay strong, and cherish the shared connections that will be offered as her life is acknowledged and her loss mourned.

Stay strong, and let yourself be weak.

Stay strong, and ask for help.

Stay strong, and don't be afraid to cry. Or to laugh.

Stay strong, and she will stay with you.

The empty place where her presence was will be as a well... and slowly it will fill with your sorrow, and your love, and your memories, and her love, which will never, ever leave you, even in the echoing emptiness of that place-where-presence-was.

I wish I could give you more than words, she.

May comfort find you, and consolation fold around you.

respectfully,
Bright

"Memory must take the place of presence, and memory feels like such an inadequate thing..."

You posted so many beautiful words. You gave me all that I needed.

Thank you. It means a lot to me.

I know that there really are no words that can help, but know that we are all here for you in this great loss. Please take very good care of yourself, be gentle with yourself.

May your mom be at peace.

she's in your heart & always will be...

I miss her...a lot...

We're here if and when you need us.

Glad you were able to be there with her when she passed. For me ,that made the world of difference in my ability to settle and have closure after my mom passed vs when my dad passed. I hope it helps you as well.

You were there when she needed you most, that kind of love transcends the universe.

R.I.P. SheShe2 Mom.

May she rest in peace.

Love you BRDS and your mom.

TY

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Losing a parent creates a big hole indeed. As Patrick Stewart once said, "When I lost my second parent, I felt like, 'who will look after me now?'." I know that feeling.

Lost Mom Dad and brother now. It is just my sister in my original family.

So sorry to hear ofyour.loss.

sending you positive, peaceful thoughts.

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I’m glad you had that time to be with her while you had the chance.

Much much love and safe hugs. Remember what our own Skittles once said if you need some company while you shoulder this heavy weight: “someone’s always here.”

TY, calimary.

I'm 72 and coming to terms with dying. I have no fear and feel at peace with myself. If it's any comfort, she may have done the same.

That was around Christmas.

I asked her to stay a longer so I could say goodbye.

It's natural to feel lost

care and love was appreciated. It there is an after-life, you've got some bonus points! I took care of my Mom for the last 30 years of her life. The last 15 and particularly the last 5 were tough. But I knew what she wanted (and didn't want), and in the end, it helped so much. Still painful, but hope she is free of earthly pain and suffering. I wish the same for your Mom. Take care.

I’m so glad you got to have so much time with her.

on the loss of your beloved mother. Sending you hugs and love.

My thoughts and best wishes are with you

Losing your parents is hard, and in a way disconcerting. Now you are the older generation.

My mother died in 1999 at the age of 82. My father died in 1973, age 59.

I'm one of six children, and my older sister died in 2017 at the age of 70, my younger brother just over a year ago at age 71. Even though there are still four of us left, the family feels diminished. The odds are the other two brothers will leave somewhat sooner than later, because they both have various health issues. Eventually only one of us will be left, and that will be quite odd.

Mom was one of five children, and she was the last surviving.

And how kind of you to honor her with the angel.

It will always hurt, but the pain does lessen with time.

Deep condolences to you.

It's so hard. Wishing you sweet memories of your beloved mom. I hope you can take some comfort in knowing that you were there for her.

I know what losing your mother feels like.

Hugs for you and your mom as well.

Losing a mother hurts. I'm sorry for what you must be going through.
Wishing you healing and peace.

You did your duty and performed at a high level. You must rest and recuperate. Caregiving is pure saintliness and exhaustion.

way you cared for her in her final years was immeasurable.

for your loss.

that you and your sister have cared for your elderly mom at home for some time, as you say in your OP.

I think the angel is also you. ❤

Thank you so much for your kind words.

💜

Been there. It's tough.

years of caregiving, but she was blessed to have your care and love, as you were blessed to have hers.

I'm not a religious person, either. I left the only church I ever belonged to over 50 years ago.

But I believe with all my heart, based on my own experiences and the experiences of many other people I know who've lost loved ones, that your mother is still very much alive (and healthy and young again) on the other side...and she'll be watching over you now as carefully and lovingly as you watched over her.

Sometimes there are no words but I hope this outpouring of love n respect for you from us helps. I, too, send my condolences 🌺

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I lost my wife last February 14. She fought a brain tumor for 17 years and in the end, she passed away from a blood clot in the brain.
I know how you are feeling and can relate to the empty feeling inside, but it will get better. I have spent the last year getting to know myself again, connecting with friends I haven't seen in decades, and just being able to get back to normal, if that is possible.
Best advice I can give you is to be kind to yourself.
As long as you hold them in your mind and heart, they will never be gone. I pray that you find peace with yourself and take care of yourself through this hard time. Hang in there and remember that they would want you to move forward and be happy, and it will come, in its own time.
May the Lord hold you in his arms and bring comfort to you. I am sorry that you have to go through this. Prayers to you and the family...

"Be kind to yourself". Perfect advice.

My thoughts to you and yours.

and May Her Memory Be a Blessing.

No matter how old we or they are, we're never ready to lose our moms.

I know she loves you. Peace.

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The gift you gave your mother…keeping her safe at home…it can’t be overstated. It’s so awful to lose a parent. Hugs, my friend.

Hugs back.

Your kind words mean a lot to me.

The angels will guide her and bring comfort to those who loved her; she is among them.

May she rest in peace.

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My mother died 31 years ago. In some way she is still with me. You may understand that some day. I hope you will.

I truly believe we can tolerate grief so that a loved one does not suffer.

🌷💝💐💗🌸💖🌺💕

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I'm taking care of my mom who has stage 4 cancer so I know how hard it is to take care of a dying person.

It is so hard, be good to you. Take care of you. It is so hard.

Love to you and yours.

I wish I had words to help.