Positives sent out

I always got prepared for anniversaries--those were always okay, but the random waves were crushing. Wishing you comfort.

suggested. It is also a strategy I learned in different grief classes.

Your words are wise words and as you said the ambush of grief can hit at anytime.

And the stages of grief are not linear.

So deeply sorry for your heartbreaking loss.

❤️Peace ChazII

who is responding with positive thoughts. They are helping lift my spirit.

May sweet memories of your beloved son bring you comfort and peace.

This second year was more difficult than the first. Now I will be starting my third year and I know to work through this grief. Do not stop it or avoid it. When tears come I cry. When those overwhelming soul wracking tears come I still cry but try to do so in private.

Thank you for your post.

Suddenly of a heart disease. The pain of losing him and the guilt of not making him go to the doctor I actually got suicidal in the second year. By the third year I had to go to the doctor and get help. I still cry sometimes but it’s not as violent as it used to be. My mom died of cancer she was younger than I am now. It does help to talk to people in this gtoup for me.I never had children but the pain of losing a child as I understand it is worst of all

It happens like that, out of the blue.

I lost my oldest son tragically, almost 7 years ago. I still have those times when it feels like the moment I found out that he'd passed, in 2015. I think it is something that happens to those who've lost a close loved one, especially a son or daughter, even if they were adults, when they passed away.

I have a hole in my heart, due loosing him. I will have this till I leave this earth. I know this. I have embraced the pain of grief, as the love that we had as mother and child. I lift his life, my grief and the love it represents, the gift he was as a child in the family. The fine person he became, as he was growing up. If I am alone, I say out loud, son I love you, I miss you, I will never forget you. Thank you for being a part of my life.

Sending supportive thoughts and hugs. I have lost most of my family but my 2 sons are still here. It is never easy but if the day comes that I lose one of them I do not know how I would cope.

I hope you can find some peace easier than it has been. Many thoughts and much love sent to you, I wish it really helped but for what it is worth we are all here for you.

My son took his life in 2017, and while I am mostly good, sometimes I'm just overwhelmed with missing him.

It's okay. It does not really matter why or how he died, but your grief, your missing him is eternal. I love you.

I use it to help trigger tears when I have not cried for a while.

The pain is always there to some degree.
Its been 22 years since my dad passed.
Seems like yesterday.😭

My 26 year old son died in 1999 from the same brain Cancer.

There will always be grief. In time you will smile but it never goes away. I send you a big hug.

I'm so sorry. Even a couple of years downstream, YES, it still hurts.

As I saw on another thread by Jedi Guy, here, earlier today:

A friend of mine said this when I talked to her about my loss, and I think it's rather beautiful, so I'll share it. "Grief is love with nowhere to go."
https://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=post&forum=1002&pid=16449602

At least YOU are HERE, ChazII. With us.

brings comfort.

I still remember that deluge of support and love and comfort that poured down over me the night I posted about my mom passing.

It helped. It helped A LOT.

I can't even begin to know how to thank everyone for that - except perhaps to keep paying it forward.

I can only offer you my condolences. Losing a child is the deepest pain I've ever felt and I understand the despair you probably are feeling. No good advice for coping other than to cry well.