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kozar

(2,851 posts)
Sat Jan 28, 2023, 11:54 AM Jan 2023

Now almost a year

Since, wife passed. I’m in a dark spot, I fought through holidays, my father passing on Nov 11, and listening to my Mom’s grief. I understand her grief, I’ve been there. She then screams at me, says I don’t understand . And the she blocked me, phone calls and emails.
LilBit and I are kinda ok with that, but now , on 1 year, I have no one to talk to. My next counseling appointment is Feb 10.
Honestly if you know our story, I just wanna sing again. One person talked to me after wife passed, and said “ what’s with you and the microphone? You are a different person up there, you are happy and sound great” that is my release, I told him.
He was right, LilBit has always loved to hear me sing, I haven’t in 9 months. I was taking care of finances, those are good


It’s time for me to sing again. I gotta let my mother go, she is grieving. I didn’t block her, she blocked me.
I need to sing LOUD

Koz

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Now almost a year (Original Post) kozar Jan 2023 OP
Sing!!!!!!!! Karadeniz Jan 2023 #1
Keep singing. The world needs more of it. judesedit Jan 2023 #2
If it makes you feel better, Bayard Jan 2023 #3
Is there a Karaoka (sp) place near you? Also, sing in the shower, in the yard, etc. patricia92243 Jan 2023 #4
There is, and we go kozar Jan 2023 #5
This message was self-deleted by its author CrispyQ Jan 2023 #6
Uhmm. I have all thid kozar Jan 2023 #7
I've deleted my offensive post & will never read one of yours again. -nt CrispyQ Jan 2023 #8
Grief can tear apart relationships Farmer-Rick Jan 2023 #9

patricia92243

(12,831 posts)
4. Is there a Karaoka (sp) place near you? Also, sing in the shower, in the yard, etc.
Sat Jan 28, 2023, 12:10 PM
Jan 2023

Record your singing, then play it back and join in the singing.

Best of luck to you.

kozar

(2,851 posts)
5. There is, and we go
Sat Jan 28, 2023, 12:16 PM
Jan 2023

But only like 9 folks there, no energy in the crowd. They all sing country and seem to enjoy what I sing,, It just feels quiet to me while I’m at the mic.

Response to kozar (Original post)

kozar

(2,851 posts)
7. Uhmm. I have all thid
Sat Jan 28, 2023, 01:59 PM
Jan 2023

Didn’t really need an ad, It’s not the equipment or my daughter why I can’t sing, it’s mom dying, My voice will be my voice , when I get there,

Seriously? An Amazon ad? I. Bereavement group? You sleaze



Koz

Farmer-Rick

(11,407 posts)
9. Grief can tear apart relationships
Sat Jan 28, 2023, 05:12 PM
Jan 2023

My daughter and I constantly fought after my spouse died. But I wouldn't take no for an answer. I kept the lines of communication open. I even let her vent all her frustrations and guilt with me.

Now, 4 years later we have a decent relationship. We have stopped fighting and just try to enjoy each other while we can.

Hang in there. Everything always changes.

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