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applegrove

(123,130 posts)
Sun May 7, 2023, 10:45 PM May 2023

My brother died 2 years ago. Miss him whenever see something interesting

Last edited Sun May 7, 2023, 11:37 PM - Edit history (1)

in the news. He was a good egg and was involved in social justice activities in Japan.

https://flic.kr/p/2oyLGVd

My dad we lost in October at the age of 92. He was such a fun and kind man. Here he is with his first grandchild.

https://www.flickr.com/photos/198124749@N03/52879838468/in/dateposted/

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Ilsa

(62,239 posts)
4. I understand. For me the trigger isn't the news, but something new
Sun May 7, 2023, 10:51 PM
May 2023

in the community, like a new restaurant he was looking forward to enjoying while it was being built.

applegrove

(123,130 posts)
7. He had a summer job on a mountain in Lake Louise. This could
Sun May 7, 2023, 11:05 PM
May 2023

be one of many Mountains in Banff or Yoho Parks. I don't recognize it but then I was too afraid of heights to climb any but the easiest of Mountains. He would be about 19.

applegrove

(123,130 posts)
18. Yes. He made a lot of friends. He had a lot of fun. He came from a troubled
Mon May 8, 2023, 03:28 PM
May 2023

childhood where he didn't jive with my parents and moved ahead to be an interesting, fun guy and kind partner.

BigmanPigman

(52,259 posts)
6. We always miss our loved ones
Sun May 7, 2023, 10:51 PM
May 2023

Whether or not we acknowledge it with a clear memory/connection or just the everyday loss that is a constant, empty space in our hearts.

applegrove

(123,130 posts)
10. Yes. My dad died at 92. That is big but in a different way. My parents
Sun May 7, 2023, 11:10 PM
May 2023

are with me every day. My brother's spirit visits, because he lived so far away, is more of a surprise.

LoisB

(8,666 posts)
11. I understand and am sorry for the loss of your brother. There are some topics that a
Sun May 7, 2023, 11:26 PM
May 2023

deceased relative or friend would be the perfect person to have a discussion with.

applegrove

(123,130 posts)
12. He talked politics with my dad at the dinner table the whole time
Sun May 7, 2023, 11:33 PM
May 2023

we were growing up. I did not spend much time with him as he lived so far away, but he and dad gave me my love of politics. Even though I am too much of a cream puff to get involved locally, I can enjoy it here on the DU. I lost both of them in the last 2 years. Thank you both out there in the ether.

 

Marcus IM

(3,001 posts)
14. Lost my brother in 2016
Mon May 8, 2023, 12:33 AM
May 2023

Right before the selection of he who shall not be named.

I think of him and what our convos would be every single day.
At first, with tears. Now, there's room for smiles and laughs at the memories.
It gets better.

Big hug to you.

Delmette2.0

(4,262 posts)
20. My Mother passed in 2018. I would visit everyday.
Mon May 8, 2023, 09:24 PM
May 2023

There was always a story about Trump to tell. On her way to the nursing home she kept telling my sister to be sure to change her address with the Election Board. She died in early September at the age of 92.

applegrove

(123,130 posts)
21. I visited my parents every day and cooked them dinner. Then my
Mon May 8, 2023, 09:40 PM
May 2023

mom passed away in 2015 and my Dad moved into a nursing home. I was work8ng retail when my parents asked me to take care of them full time and they would pay me minimum wage. So I did. Once my dad was in the nursing home I stopped. The manager of the nursing home said if I visited every day it would be too much. I tried anyways. I ate dinner there for the better part of a year. But I am quiet and my dad is quiet and sure enough he had enough attention so i went to visits 3 days a week for a few hours. They had always had around the clock care and my dad had such fun with some of his caregivers, especially the one who was there till the very end. We were very lucky in that both my parents were ready to go when they did and they had lots of attention. When my Dad first died this October I thought of him free from the nursing home and flying around. Now I see him together with my mom. We were lucky to have such kind parents. Totally devoted to family. I miss them.

As to Trump, I walked into my dad's nursing room the day of the Woman's March in 2017. His lovely caregiver had made a flag using a straw and a piece of paper and written Dump Trump on it. The March was on the TV. She was marching around the room. My dad was saluting her. So that is how he felt.

The right wing had to wait until the older generation was gone or elderly before they pulled out the Nazi stuff that's for sure.

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