Dear DUers, I have Heartbreaking and shocking
Last edited Sun Aug 27, 2023, 08:25 PM - Edit history (1)
news to share..
My Friend and Fellow DU member "Me" has passed away. 
I can't believe I have to write these words.. I'm still in shock. She was an Outstanding, Compassionate Democrat.. And a Kind and Supportive Friend for Many Years on DU.
I never met her in person.. she lived in Manhattan but we sent Birthday and Christmas cards to each other and she'd be there with Compassion and Empathy whenever I needed her. And, I was there for her.
I will miss Her more than I can say. Hug your Friends and Loved ones. 
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ETA~ So Sorry I had left the "r" out of FRIENDS! AS in Hug Them!
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You all have me crying again.. with your kindness for "Me".
I know she was surrounded by People who loved her and she loved when she passed.
means a lot to be be able to share our loss of wonderful sweet member on DU
May she R.I.P.. Hugs to you and her loved ones.
I really appreciate your kind words & and know "Me" would too.. and her Family & Friends in New York.
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My deepest condolences to you, Me's family and friends. Had she been sick a long time? I saw that her last post was more than a month ago.
I PM her on June 25the because I hadn't seen her around for awhile and she replied that she was in the hospital for about 10 days. They didn't know what was caused it.. here I'll post Me's words..
I sent her a Get Well card and she responded to that.. a few more PMs and then I never heard from her again on DU or anywhere.
So I sent another card to her home and told her I was really worried but never heard back. I was still hoping for the best.
And then I got a beautiful cared from her husband on August 23 that said our "Me" had passed.
I wonder if they ever figured out what was going on with her. Such sad news.
I'm going to ask her husband when I send this link to him later today.. and I will let you know.
I always wonder why people had to go.. and Now Me had this mysterious illness that Docs didn't know why.. the last I heard.
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Such sad news. 
the link to this OP.. but I didn't ask because there was so much to say.
Maybe we'll find out someday what happened to our dear kind Me.
There are Heart of hers she posted and I'm sending them on..
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It's sad that you and Me were never able to meet, though you don't live anywhere near New York.
can feel this way about someone who I don't even know what they look like.
But that's the age of the internet.. Words are Powerful and over the years Kindness & Compassion make a Lasting Impact.
These are Me's hearts she's posted...
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I'm in shock.
It's so hard. Me liked to post Angels & 💛💜💚💙💖
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People you’d otherwise never meet, talk to, or get close to. It’s a “thing” about this place.
And we come together not just to gab, gossip, scheme, or commiserate, but also to mourn - many of us having never met the lost one, or each other.
Magic it is. And sometimes it’s sad magic. Thanks for letting us know, Cha. We’ll all miss her, too. Right along with ya.
words, calimary. It is Amazing what DU has done for all of us over the years.
I really appreciate it right now more than ever.
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Thank You So Much
A DU friend is a great loss. Me posted for a very long time. A tragic, sad loss 
a tragic loss for us and for her family and friends in New York.
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Cha.
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We grieve with you.
In the beautiful note her husband sent me to let me know.. he gave me his email address and I'm going to send this link to him so he will know how much "Me" meant to our Community.
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A sad loss to our community, she was well respected here.
Love to her family and friends, I know how hard this is for them.
Thank you for letting us all know, Cha.
I just posted that I'm going to send this link to her husband so he will know how much Me meant to our DU Community.
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Those are Me's hearts she posted in a PM & I'm passing them on. 💕🤷♀️
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And a DU member
Mahalo for your Kind words of Sympathy. :groupohug: 💛💜💚💙💖
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this Kindness for Me.. I'm sending this link to her family in New York so they can know how much she is Loved. 💛💜💚💙💖
What a sweet thing to wish.
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that, H20 Man.
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the Hippo Book to my Granddaughter last year and I bought one for me.
Sorry about your other friends passing on.
This has been really shocking.. more so because we had been PM starting on June 25th about her being in the hospital and home again but feeling "weak".. and then I didn't[ hear anything more after I PMed the last time on July 30th.
I got really worried and sent another card to her home and still nothing until I got a card from her husband telling me she had passed.
Me's hearts she's posted..
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I knew more but it doesn't feel right asking her husband now.
It's really nice to meet someone who was also close to Me on DU. I thought of her as always being there too.
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I hadn't seen her around in awhile so I PM her June 25th. Turns out she had been in the hospital for 10 days.. but she was home then and "weak"..
Me's words..
I will be sending this link to her family in New York so they can know how much she is loved in our Community.
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I'm grateful you know Me.. she was the best Hillary Supporter.. you can understand what a Heartbreaking unbearable loss this is for her Family & Friends.
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so surreal.. and all this outpouring of Love for Me is so Heartwarming.
I'll be sending this link to her family in New York.
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She was a sweet DUer who made life here much better. Please let her family know we share their grief.
link to her family in New York later today.
Me did make life better here in our DU community.. Mahalo for your kind words of love.
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hugs. without Me in it is heartbreaking.. she would really be grateful for all this outpouring of Love, though.
Mahalo for your Kind words. 💛💜💚💙💖
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We'll all have to sing just a bit stronger now.
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heartfelt...
We'll all smile, a bit, when we think on some funny, kind post of Me's.
My heart goes out to you. I remember Me. Thank you for sharing your sweet relationship.
DU family love and hugs to you, dear Cha.
Thank You from the bottom of my heart for your kind Thoughtful words.
I'm sending this link to her family in New York today so they will know how much she is loved in our community.
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Loss is never easy.
for you cha & for the group
Mahalo for your Kind & Thoughtful words.
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comforting words.
All that we love deeply becomes a part of us. All the world is full of suffering. It is also full of overcoming. When it seems that our sorrow is too great to be borne, let us think of the great family of the heavy-hearted into which our grief has given us entrance.
-Helen Keller
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💛💜💚💙💖always make you smile. Sending hugs and love. Rest in Peace Me .
And Yes.. Rest in Peace Sweet Me..
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I am so very sorry to lose her. My sadness is dwarfed by that of those who knew her best, but I send all who came to know her the hope that fond memories will sustain you.
Be at peace, 'Me' Thank you for your kindness to so many on DU.
Wishes, hlthe2b.
Me is a Precious Loving Memory in so many Hearts & Minds.
These are Hearts Me posted and I'm passing them on..
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We will all feel this loss
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The yellow and blue hearts are what Me posted in a PM and I'm passing them on.
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Me posted these hearts recently & I'm passing them on.
I am so sorry you lost a friend and I am sorry we all lost a community member, too. We need each other.
Hugs all around.
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These hearts are from a post of Me's.. passing them on.
I hadn't seen her post in awhile (although she didn't post that much as it is).
So sorry to hear this. Hope she crossed gently.
gently.
In one of her PMs she said she was surrounded by loved ones and so grateful for it.
That was before I realized how serious it was but I know they were still surrounding her with Love and Support.
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many years of Kindness & compassion to look back on.. I'm still in shock now and I know that will pass because it's happened before.
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💛💜💚💙💖So many brave souls here on DU are aging and passing on. I'm so glad there are many younger DUers to take our place.
Peace to "Me." 
when the years go by.
Me's been here since 2004 and has left a lot of kindness & love in her path.
And, here we are almost 20 years later.
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the start of the Iraq War. So, 2003. 
… and fellow DUer. Hugs.
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and the comforting words.
I've been through this before, too.. at first and for awhile there's a Major shock to our Systtem and then the shock eases up.. and just beautiful memories but the loss is still there for me anyway.
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Rest peacefully Me
thread.. reading all the memories people have of her.
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I've been thinking about that..
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It is never easy to say goodbye to someone who has been there for you and you for them. It does leave a hole in your heart.
Cherish the fond memories you have, and they'll never go away.
Me was loved by so many... and all these beautiful posts are making it a lot easier to endure the shock of her sudden passing and I hope for everybody, too.
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that's a good thing. I believe it's good for the soul to let it out.
Mahalo so much for the Vid and the link with Me's exchage there with Glamrock on Al Green!
It's Classic Me.. and I shall treasure it, hpd! I will listen to all of them later.. right now I more more replies to tend to.
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really a blessing to be able to talk to people on DU about Me's passing.. so many feel the same way about her.
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💛💜💚💙💖mean, LisaM.
I was a Host and felt the same.. 
I have lost online friends, too, and know that the loss is just as real and painful as people you can touch. We are all still REAL people. And it hurts to lose a friend, regardless of the circumstances of the friendship. My heart is with you.
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She will be deeply missed here and my heart is with you in your time of loss. hug: :
powerful impact on DU and will be missed by so many who she's engaged over the years.
It does my heart so good to see all these wonderful heartfelt replies.
Won't be able to believe that she's gone for awhile but that's the way my mind works.
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We have lost too many good ones these days. Why do the not-so-good seem to thrive?
It's just so shocking when you're close to someone who suddenly passes on.
Just takes time but so good to see so many heartfelt replies for Kind Supportive Me. 💛💜💚💙💖
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and hugs to you!!!
Glad to know that you're heading to see your family soon Cha
Thank You for the Light for Me
Good point about seeing my family Florida soon.
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💛💜💚💙💖Isn’t it amazing how much someone that you’ve never met in person can mean to you? That we can be good friends with a person we’ve never sat next to? I know exactly what you’re talking about. It’s proof that love transcends all.
I’m so sorry to hear Me is gone. May her crossing be gentle. 😔
think about that all the time. It's DU..a lot of us have been on here for a long time with so many kindred spirits.. And, fortunate enough to form lasting friendships.
I think Me's crossing was gentle.. she told me early on about it that she wasn't afraid to die and she had told her family and friends that, too.
That was before I knew how serious it was and didn't think that it would happen for a long time.
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I'm so sorry. I hadn't seen Me's posts in a while but thought nothing of it. Life gets busy for us all or gets in the way.
What terrible news for you. And for the group at large.
news for all.. I happened to be the one who PM & asked how she was because I hadn't seen her around.
I never expected such serious news that she had been in the hospital because there had been water on her lungs from an Xray.
That was June 25th.. & then we Pm a few times.. and I never heard from her again after my July 30th PM. So I sent another card to her home in Manhattan.. still nothing until her husband sent me a card that I got on August 23rd that she had Passed last Thursday.. It was so heart crushing and shocking.
How's your Granddaughter, Cassandra?
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And how unexpected. It must have been shocking for you. Thank goodness her husband managed to reach out.
As for Cassandra? She's finally on the donor's list after a lot of foot dragging from the insurance company. Their first response was a denial. Once again my daughter-in-law worked the phones demanding a peer-to-peer conference and had the denial turned around. It meant another two-week delay for a situation where time is of the essence. Honestly, I will never understand our screwed-up health system that allows insurance companies to play doctor in life or death situations.
As for Cassandra? She's her smiley-face self, has rebounded from the last round of chemo and is actually coming home while we await a call from the transplant surgeons.
Fingers crossed!
Take care of yourself, girlfriend.
In Me's husband's note he said Mary especially wanted me to get in touch with you to let you know.💕🤷♀️ She knew.
That's encouraging news about your DIL getting things turned around with the insurance company.. A Miracle!
And, Cassandra being able to be at home while you all wait for the Call.
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Guess we'll be the crying duet. 
Aghhhhh. I hate when these things happen. I'm just not good at final endings. But you know, I do hope when my own time comes I have the presence of mind and enough time to reach out to those I've known, cared about and/or respected; there's something about closing the circle as best we can.
As for my DIL, she is the Warrior Advocate for this child. In fact, when I was telling a good friend about the problems, mishaps and general chaos Laura had handled, she said,"You know what? If something happens to me this is who I want going to bat in my behalf. Can I get my name on a list?"
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Pretty impressive though.
Take care, Cha. Thanks for the note, too.
https://www.northstartransitions.com/post/10-benefits-of-crying-for-mental-health#:~:text=Many%20people%20associate%20crying%20with,and%20strengthen%20your%20immune%20system.
Good on Laura.. how fortunate for your whole family for Cassandra to have a Mother who won't take No for an answer.. Gets It Done.. Makes It Happen!
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Mahalo..
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and Mahalo to you. 🤷♀️💕
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It's devastating to read about losses here on DU.
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I'm so sorry for your loss and for the world having one less good person.
Well put.. the World has lost a beautiful person.