May his memory always be a blessing

He sounds like a wonderful person. RIP.

on the loss of your beloved husband. Sending hugs and love. Take care.

So glad you had quality loving time at the end.

Condolences to you, your family and friends.

a cushion of love, peace, and the comfort of knowing your loss is felt in far off places.

I hope knowing that DU is here for you may be of some comfort.

Alzheimer's is such a terrible disease. It is so obvious from your writing that you two shared a very special love. Please know that all of us at DU are here for you in whatever way we can be helpful. I hope that the wonderful memories of your of your hubby and knowing we care about you will give you some comfort and peace.

I hope you know we are all here for you. Be kind to yourself during this difficult time.

And I would be one of them. My sincere condolences across the miles 💐

so sorry for your loss

Safe passage. May his memory be a blessing, dear Sleepless!

I'm sure he is with you even now....

My deepest sympathies to you.

a very peaceful exit with love.

What a beautiful tribute you have shared with us. Peace to you.

Grief. Like swimming through mud. You are wise to insulate yourself from anything that is less than sympathetic.

Based on the things you said he must have been a beautiful person. R.I.P. sweet soul.

May your memories bring you peace and comfort.

Sincerely,
NoSheep

And alongside my condolences, I agree that you are lucky he stayed his loving self and was able to communicate with you. My mother had Alzheimer's and was nonverbal for nearly a year before she died.

Thank you for sharing this portrait of him and of your shared love with us.

Rarely do I find a connection with this sort of post but I have one: I attended a "mad tea party" in Central Park to promote the 1983 Great Performances version of Alice in Wonderland. I met Kate Burton, Colleen Dewhurst, and Maureen Stapleton at the event. Perhaps your husband was there. Regardless, life is full of these unexpected and random connections and this one brought me here to revisit a fond memory, and to join others in consoling you. Peace to you.

It was such a fun way to celebrate that production. The video is on YouTube. I sent it to the senior center play readers. One responded...

He waltzed into the room, tall and charming
and acknowledged the scattered applause
before sitting with his buddies, John and Harve.
Jeanne assigned the roles to read.

David came by his love of drama honestly,
having acted and danced professionally.
Covid lockdown was a blow for the Readers
and Zooming became (not for all) a panacea.

When any problems beset us, we adapt;
Zooming allowed him to attend meetings
when mobility, and even life, faltered.
We wish we could Zoom with heaven.

may love light his path home to the mystery.

So very sorry for your loss of your beloved partner. I'm glad you were able to spend your lives together. His kind loving spirit will keep you going.

I have that kind of love, too... the thought of losing it chills me, but not as much as the thought of never having it at all.

We are here for you.

Of course the pain is overwhelming... the moments ambush you, the empty space where his presence was is a raw wound of loss...

Keep on.

We love you.

sadly,
Bright

I am so very sorry. But I'm glad you had those blessings, that he continued to be loving and lovable, and that above all you got to have him at home where you all could be with him and love him to the end.

Prayers for you and yours, for comfort and peace.

May your beautiful memories give you comfort and peace.

What can we say when the supernatural has robbed us of the significance of our mere mortal words? How can they touch the soul that gave life to the glorious being that is/was your hubby?

It sounds like he brought love wherever he was found, and you sharing a bit of that love with me now is especially heartwarming.

You never know who you’ll reach when you send a message, but your message has been especially meaningful to at least one person.

Thanks.

It sounds like you two had a wonderful life together.

....sorry.

(tears)

I had a Korean friend say the say "he returned", rather than passed. And they have a happy party featuring things and people they loved. Not somber but like a going away party.

What a great tribute of love.

Death isn’t fair, and no matter the person’s age, it always feels too soon.

I lost my mom the first week of June - it was sudden. We are never really prepared.

My dad died in 2011 - and she was never really the same after that. So I really feel for you.

So does your marriage. (And so do you; what a lovely tribute.) You were so lucky to have him but I'm sure that makes the goodbye even harder. I hope that love and light surround you and you find peace. Strength!

You had something a surprising number of us, myself included, never really had...an intense, lasting Love with a romantic partner. You somehow found each other in a world that can often be less than kind. That's miraculous!

I'm married now and we're both good for and to each other, have an amazing daughter but I lost my only real love 48 years ago and it was all my fault. I was bitter for a long time but then someone said to me those famous words: "Don't be sad it ended, be glad it ever happened in the first place."

That thought has helped a lot and it applies to far more than losing a love...>

Be kind to yourself, you deserve it

But you know what I also thought when reading your post? He is still with you. He's just in the other room. Your memories sound so happy and so love-filled. I would be surprised if you don't talk to him sometimes. You know what he would reply! Death does not totally break this kind of bond. I am so sorry he is not there to hold your hand, and I know you are grieving. But you were indeed a lucky boy and girl. ❤️❤️❤️

Sounds to me like you guys had something
special.

Im so sorry for your loss, it sounds almost incalculable. You must have had a wonderful relationship. Take time to breathe.

As I age, I find myself wondering how long it’ll be before I’m there myself.

Just please know how many people here and elsewhere, online and not, who are either right there to hug you, or able to let our words and posts do it here.

You are loved and admired and cared about here. And these words will ALWAYS be here, too.

What wonderful memories you must have SleeplessinSoCal . May they comfort you and may the stories you’ll share always make you smile. Rest in peace .

I am in awe of it. I cannot imagine loving someone that much for that long. What a great loss.

I'm glad you can find some safety and comfort here at DU. Your lovely words about your husband brought tears to my eyes.

there is a gaping hole where once your darling darling filled the space with love. Now the good memories will be your cushion for awhile. My deepest sympathy for your incredible loss. Hang in there. Don't forget to take good care of yourself. You know he would want you to.

Jackie

NM

May you beautiful memories bring you peace and comfort.

❤️🫡🥺

...there would be no more Republicans.

❤️❤️❤️

so sorry for the loss of this great man hubby. He sounds like an angel....

...I lost my hubby 17 months ago. Time is the healer, and keep busy in service to others.

"Weeping may tarry for the night, but joy cometh in the morning” (Psalms 30:5)

My thoughts are with you all.

I wish you peace and strength.

and I'm very sorry for your tremendous loss

To have that kind of love and connection is so very rare and even more special. We are all sending you our love and best hugs.

You were so fortunate to have all those years together, and I believe you'll be reunited. I'm not religious, but I've read of too many experiences and heard of too many friends' experiences (and had some of my own) not to believe in an afterlife and reunions with loved ones.

I found video of that 1983 performance of Alice In Wonderland that you mentioned, and want to post it here:

It's worth noting that Nathan Lane was Mouse. And it was so early in his career that he wasn't listed in the promo credits. We had so much fun following his career after this. We saw him be brilliant Off Broadway and On.

David was on Broadway in On Your Toes when also doing this production. Several of the dancers from OYT were in it.

Here's my Davey with Duke Ellingon's granddaughter...

I looked at his page at the Internet Broadway Database. He was in a lot of Broadway musicals, including one of my favorites, Sweet Charity.

"...And many Cheers for the man who invented the "Cigarette Strut" for the "Rich Man's Frug" .

in the Broadway production, on this web page:

https://www.talkinbroadway.com/page/rialto/past/2018/fosse.html


The film scene (for anyone not familiar with it):

(second from the left there) looking so handsome and talented. It's a great pic. Had you seen it before?

I imagine he's dancing in heaven, young and healthy again.

I found out today that my oldest relative, the last of her generation of the family, probably has less than 6 months to live. My heart is breaking at the thought of losing her here, and at the thought of how this is hurting her children and grandchildren (I've never seen grown children and grandchildren so close to a matriarch). But she has so many loved ones to reunite with, including beloved pets that I believe will come running when she crosses over. And I believe she will be healthy and young again then, free of pain for the first time in years.

Thank you for sharing.

God bless you and yours.

I am so sorry his life with you has come to an end. But he will always be with you.

Keep him in your heart, but live life as best you can. I am sure he would want you to,

My condolences and warmest of thoughts.

What a loving, beautiful tribute.

I’m so sorry to hear of your beloved husband passing. You were indeed a lucky boy and girl to share the kind of love you shared.

I’m so sorry to hear this…which is, indeed, so so hard.

Please accept my condolences on the loss of your husband.

found your soulmate. Of course, I am so very sorry for your loss of your love.

He must have had a wonderful soul.

My virtual arms are around you 🫂🫂🫂

My dear, dear 89 year old husband’s short term memory is gone and his mobility is highly compromised, but also like your wonderful husband, his loving personality and even humor remains the same. It must give you great comfort to know he was not fearful as his passing gently came to him.
What I can’t yet imagine is your grief, though it does sound like you may have enough of his ‘I love you’s’ to last the rest of your life.

My heart is with you, dear SleeplessinSoCal. Please DM me anytime you want a friendly ear.

💕💕💕💕💕💕

I am so sorry for your loss.

I'm glad that hospice was such a positive thing for the both of you. I just visited a friend in hospice this afternoon. He was in and out, but his family and friends were all around, and he recognized us all !!!! Thank you hospice.

Stay strong, take time to grieve, keep remembering the good times that you had together. Do what you need to do, I hope you have others around that will help you out : ASK.

It will get better.

be eternal.

that transcends space and time.

May time and good memories eventually ease some of your pain.

Nothing prepares us for the loss of a loved one.

My heart breaks for the pain of grief that you are feeling. Stay in that bed as long as you need.

There can be no doubt that the connection you shared transcends space and time. Something was created by your love that will never leave you.

What a glorious gift.

Stay encouraged in your grief. We love you.





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Sleepless,
Take care of yourself and remember him and this marvelous relationship. Good luck to you as you make this difficult transition.

Alzheimer's is a cruel, terrible disease. I'm glad that he was able to keep his personality until the end. May he Rest in Peace.

We were Married for 67 years - the last few years were really hard for me - he was blind and then developed dementia. I tried to take care of him on my own but could not. He was in a memory care facility when he passed in April. I miss him so much. I know that time will help me as try not to dwell on his passing and just remember all the good times..

I hope both you and me will reach a point where it all our memories are good memories for our 'old boys'.

May he rest in radiant peace and joy which extends to you and may you be comforted by the tremendously wonderful feelings he stirred in you with your shared experiences

But I do hope you are able to find people other than us to share your beautiful heart with.

Thanks for your concern. My nephews love him. They've written such beautiful, heartfelt notes to me.

My one day a week job is giving me time. And my closest friends, though many miles away, have reached out.

I've written here on DU about my sister's mental health struggles these past two years. Grateful and relieved that she is herself again. And she intends to move back into our place where she has all of her things.

But as I wake up each day since his passing, I have to remember to breathe. As much as I tried to prepare for this time, it is hard to go through. Grateful to DU for the space to reflect and share my grief.

in your heart.