Bereavement

kozar

(2,889 posts) Fri Jul 26, 2024, 06:44 AM Jul 2024

Easter Sunday 2004

I met a 15 year old young woman. I brought her a 5 ft easter bunny. It seems like yesterday. We went through life together, I paid 3000 dollars, when she turned 22, to adopt her.
What a life she had, what a life, she gave to me. she never talked, never walked, but oh ,, how she lived! We did everything together, she met every Nascar driver, she played catch with Tyler Lockett on C-Link field, sometimes, I felt I was " using her" to gain access. But, she always took the stage, I was just the guy, who pushed wheelchair, she was the Star.
This feels, like a bad dream. I don't know what to do.

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Easter Sunday 2004 (Original Post) kozar Jul 2024 OP

Hang on Easterncedar Jul 2024 #1

Breathe slowly and remember all the joys you had with her. Biophilic Jul 2024 #2

It's these good memories that you store in your livetohike Jul 2024 #3

I know there's nothing anyone can really do EverHopeful Jul 2024 #4

Please take gentle care of yourself. KarenS Jul 2024 #5

I wish we could bookmark replies. Dark n Stormy Knight Aug 2024 #6

Easterncedar

(3,573 posts)

1. Hang on

Reply to kozar (Original post)

Fri Jul 26, 2024, 06:50 AM

Jul 2024

That’s all. You were there for her. You took care of her. The love matters.

Biophilic

(4,864 posts)

2. Breathe slowly and remember all the joys you had with her.

Reply to kozar (Original post)

Fri Jul 26, 2024, 07:17 AM

Jul 2024

You were obviously gifts to each other. Cherish that.

livetohike

(23,001 posts)

3. It's these good memories that you store in your

Reply to kozar (Original post)

Fri Jul 26, 2024, 07:23 AM

Jul 2024

heart that will always comfort you and keep LilBit just a thought away. We are all here for you .

EverHopeful

(370 posts)

4. I know there's nothing anyone can really do

Reply to kozar (Original post)

Fri Jul 26, 2024, 07:29 AM

Jul 2024

but I've always found that when those tidal waves of grief threaten to knock you over, remembering that people have said "Let me know if there's anything I can do" has helped me to stay upright and keep breathing so, and I mean this, please let me know if there's anything I can do.

KarenS

(4,653 posts)

5. Please take gentle care of yourself.

Reply to kozar (Original post)

Fri Jul 26, 2024, 07:32 AM

Jul 2024

It is so painful to lose someone that we care deeply for.

I love this quote by AA Milne
"How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard."

embrace the memories.

Dark n Stormy Knight

(10,035 posts)

6. I wish we could bookmark replies.

Reply to KarenS (Reply #5)

Sat Aug 3, 2024, 10:44 AM

Aug 2024

Milne really got that right.

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