Bereavement

CaliforniaPeggy

(152,097 posts) Sat Oct 12, 2024, 08:22 AM Oct 12

Today, I remember my friend AndyS . . .

Why today? I don't actually know. He left us 10 months ago today. Two more months till the year comes around.

Maybe grief doesn't need a reason. I still love him; I still miss him. But somehow, things are a bit easier. The sorrowful river inside me is still there, but now it's moving more gently, with less pain. The tears still come, but less often. I can talk about him without breaking down, most of the time.

This photo is in his memory . . .

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Today, I remember my friend AndyS . . . (Original Post) CaliforniaPeggy Oct 12 OP

I was so saddned to hear of his passing. SheltieLover Oct 12 #1

Thank you, dear SheltieLover . . . Your words touch my heart. CaliforniaPeggy Oct 12 #2

Tears and breaths of grieving... MiHale Oct 12 #3

Yes. Yes. Thank you, my dear MiHale. CaliforniaPeggy Oct 12 #5

I still think I will wander into the photography group and see his posts. I am so sorry we've lost him.. hlthe2b Oct 12 #4

Thank you for sharing your thoughts, my dear hlthe2b . . . CaliforniaPeggy Oct 12 #6

Bette Midler knew ... sanatanadharma Oct 12 #7

She certainly did know! CaliforniaPeggy Oct 12 #8

What a beautiful tribute, Peggy. Diamond_Dog Oct 12 #9

Thank you, my dear Diamond_Dog . . . CaliforniaPeggy Oct 12 #10

What a beautiful tribute to your dear friend. Erda Oct 12 #11

Thank you, my dear Erda . . . CaliforniaPeggy Oct 12 #12

SheltieLover

(59,610 posts)

1. I was so saddned to hear of his passing.

Reply to CaliforniaPeggy (Original post)

Sat Oct 12, 2024, 08:24 AM

Oct 12

CaliforniaPeggy

(152,097 posts)

2. Thank you, dear SheltieLover . . . Your words touch my heart.

Reply to SheltieLover (Reply #1)

Sat Oct 12, 2024, 08:27 AM

Oct 12

MiHale

(10,783 posts)

3. Tears and breaths of grieving...

Reply to CaliforniaPeggy (Original post)

Sat Oct 12, 2024, 08:37 AM

Oct 12

are gentle memories there to soothe us.

CaliforniaPeggy

(152,097 posts)

5. Yes. Yes. Thank you, my dear MiHale.

Reply to MiHale (Reply #3)

Sat Oct 12, 2024, 08:55 AM

Oct 12

hlthe2b

(106,359 posts)

4. I still think I will wander into the photography group and see his posts. I am so sorry we've lost him..

Reply to CaliforniaPeggy (Original post)

Sat Oct 12, 2024, 08:44 AM

Oct 12

and especially for all who were most close to him, CaliforniaPeggy. His passing caught most of us totally ill prepared.

He is missed.

CaliforniaPeggy

(152,097 posts)

6. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, my dear hlthe2b . . .

Reply to hlthe2b (Reply #4)

Sat Oct 12, 2024, 08:57 AM

Oct 12

Even though I knew he'd been ill, his death caught me by surprise. So sudden! Ill prepared is right.

sanatanadharma

(4,074 posts)

7. Bette Midler knew ...

Reply to CaliforniaPeggy (Original post)

Sat Oct 12, 2024, 08:59 AM

Oct 12

"Some say, Love. It is a river
That drowns the tender reed"
...
"I say, Love. It is a flower
And you its only seed"
...
"the seed that with the sun's love
In the spring becomes the rose"

CaliforniaPeggy

(152,097 posts)

8. She certainly did know!

Reply to sanatanadharma (Reply #7)

Sat Oct 12, 2024, 09:02 AM

Oct 12

And I want to tell you that Andy loved that song! It had great meaning for him. Once, we were listening to it together, and he was overcome with emotion. Every verse touched him.

Thank you!

Diamond_Dog

(34,640 posts)

9. What a beautiful tribute, Peggy.

Reply to CaliforniaPeggy (Original post)

Sat Oct 12, 2024, 10:09 AM

Oct 12

He is sadly missed by so many.

CaliforniaPeggy

(152,097 posts)

10. Thank you, my dear Diamond_Dog . . .

Reply to Diamond_Dog (Reply #9)

Sat Oct 12, 2024, 10:54 AM

Oct 12

It’s easy to write about him. So many memories!

Erda

(160 posts)

11. What a beautiful tribute to your dear friend.

Reply to CaliforniaPeggy (Original post)

Sat Oct 12, 2024, 11:18 AM

Oct 12

May time heal your pain. May your memories of him bring you joy. May your sadness reveal to you how deeply you love and miss him. And, miraculously, he will know.

CaliforniaPeggy

(152,097 posts)

12. Thank you, my dear Erda . . .

Reply to Erda (Reply #11)

Sat Oct 12, 2024, 01:18 PM

Oct 12

I hope for all those ideas too. But the last one? He didn't believe in the afterlife. He was quite clear on that topic. I've always hoped that we would see our loved ones again, after death, but I really don't know.

I'm envious of those with this belief but I've never felt it. Still, I thank you for your heartfelt words. They truly comfort me.

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