and i am still waiting for my ex wife to pay me for my share of our condo.

drawn out divorces suck.

'hug'

and if you need to vent...I'll be here to listen.

My divorce was finalized Sept 17, child custody and all items were worked out by both of us and it's a good divorce. Child support and other (alimony) monies have been forth coming since then. However, getting my settlement has been another matter...not due to my ex but all the paperwork and signing off by his company, judge, company, forward to the account manger, etc. Hopefully it will be settled by next week. Keeping my finger crossed.

and will vent if necessary; hope not!

Good that items worked out satisfactorily; just need mine to obtain funds from investments, and send check to me. He told judge 5-10 days; we'll see.

WHERE ARE THE SMILIES???

I wanted to settle and offered her most of everything - she wanted to go to court to take it all - against the advice of everyone involved including her own attorney...

It was agonizing - she drug it out, changing attorneys twice and hiring a third to come in at the last minute.

The judge gave me twice what I ever asked for, and I took it.

She admitted in open court that she wanted me on the street.

Never again. Married 28 years and it degenerated into that.

I hope you heal from this quickly, elleng.

Mine was over in June and I feel soooooo much better I cannot believe it.

and glad judge gave you what s/he did.

(THanks for replying; just got back here!)

Same: Should have taken 90 days.

2 judges encouraged settlement through ADR, clearly didn't want trial, and their calendars didn't allow for playing with trials, so after we got agreement in principle, we were backing and forthing with language, due to his b.s., and 'husb' missed couple court dates. Had I known the p.o.s. would delay as he did, would never have 'agreed' to such fair terms, would have insisted on 'interest pending litigation,' and attorney's fees.

Awaiting $ now, trying to figure out where to park it, and hoping to heal.

Right, never again; still married (due to his health insurance available to me,) and surely wouldn't do it again!

As time goes by, you'll feel better about not having been more aggressive . I know that I do.

I REALLY appreciate this, just what the financial advisor ordered.

: )

Mine was finalized in 06 she never paid a dime. Then this year by pyscho-terroisim she got custody of the ninos now After getting hit with child support, she never paid any of that or the medical expenses, I filed a writ of execution and started getting my judgment from her 5 years later! She kept the home and then said she lost it, Mexico, for those wondering why she owes me and the time spent owing was and additional 10% which is still being charged to her. Took from Aug to October for them to take first garnishment from her and I did not see a check until last week!

Yeah and I still have to deal with her for the next 4 years....

UNBELIEVABLY sorry!
Will be on him w/in 2 weeks if I haven't seen first of 2 payments, and adult daughters 'only' involved emotionally, not legally, so NOTHING as awful as your situation. GOOD at least you finally got A check.

I did it on my own but as soon as she had both of them she had money dream even told my daughter she was buying a Lexis next year! Well the Garnishment took care of that I had told her before court we can work it out she refused so I hit her with a garnishment and yes it felt good!

even tho not voluntary.
High road takes a toll sometimes, doesn't it?

Lesson learned was make sure you get a psych evaluation before marrying some one!

Wonder if signs of sociopath would have shown up.

were already grown before divorce happened to me.

23 & 26, tho things 'pending' since '06, so maybe they weren't old enough when it began to digest. Dunno.

I've seen and heard of enough examples of grown children reacting and behaving very badly to parental divorce to be saddened, but not surprised.

My sons are now 24 and 29 (as of two weeks from now). The divorce started in about 2007. While my ex behaved badly in terms of how he left me, and subsequent struggles over money, from everything you've said he was maybe ten percent as bad as your ex. I was lucky.