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6 Compelling Reasons To Spend Some Time Alone
By Lesley Vos
Some people think its awful to spend time alonethat it means youre antisocial or no one needs you.
Some people feel sad and lonely when they dont have company every evening or weekend.
But being alone doesnt mean that no one needs you. And it can actually be quite useful to take some time to yourself.
I am almost thirty. This is an age when you start to rethink your whole life, trying to understand what you should change or improve, what you should do next, and what specifically you need in your life.
I felt this way a couple of months ago.
I thought Id achieved nothing in my almost thirty years, and I felt I should have changed something but couldnt figure out what or how.
I had to cope with my feelings, but the everyday chaos of my life didnt allow me time to concentrate on myself.
The decision came like a bolt from the blueto spend some time completely alone.
When youre alone, nothing prevents you from listening to your inner voice, heart, and mind.
Here are a few other benefits of spending time in solitude.
1. Its a great opportunity to recharge.
We often try to make people around us happy and help them work through their feelings. This can be emotionally draining.
For example, I have one friend who lives abroad, who comes online to talk to me only when she feels bad and wants to share all her problems with me. It takes a lot of energy and makes me sad and frustrated.
Time spent alone helped me take a break from constant interaction with other people so I could recharge.
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The Blue Flower
(5,636 posts)I don't have to share the remote.
littlemissmartypants
(25,483 posts)Visiting me. He did not apologize or offer to replace it. I didn't bother to get a new one or to invite him back. It's less of problem to get up and change the channel than it was to have a visitor. Lesson learned.
Thanks for the reply, The Blue Flower.
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2naSalit
(92,665 posts)a good 65% or more of my life alone and it's hasn't bothered me all that much. I'm an admitted recluse but it keeps me from being overly influenced by all the fads... saved me untold dollars and hours of anxiety. And when I do interact with others, I can be fully engaged because I usually have my focus directed on my environment.
littlemissmartypants
(25,483 posts)It helps me conserve my energy and keeps me from many of the perils you mentioned. It has been a little disturbing to me lately but I am wondering if it's because I have been reading too many articles that warn me of the risk of dementia and ill health by not being socially connected.
When I die, I most likely will die absolutely alone as I have few close friends and fewer family members that are close. Of course, at that point, it will make a small difference if any at all.
Thanks for the reply, 2naSalit. I appreciate your input.
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roody
(10,849 posts)icky noises or constant blabber.
littlemissmartypants
(25,483 posts)I am turned off by blabber.
Thanks for the reply, roody.
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littlemissmartypants
(25,483 posts)Even when around other people we can feel alone.