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backtoblue

(11,681 posts) Wed Nov 28, 2018, 01:54 PM Nov 2018

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I think I might be going through a midlife crisis

That sounds so melodramatic, but DAMN.

For the last two years I have been on trial.

Not because I broke the law. Because I had to deal with an assault trial and nowl it feels like an insurance company trial. A few days after a headon collision, I got back a positive test for cervical cancer. Gotta wait til Dec 11 to see my doctor for a colposcopy and cone biopsy.

My body hurts from literally being hit by a truck. I'm now feeling the emotional chaos like a truck.

I'm so tired. So beaten down. I'm 38. Is this what they call a midlife crisis?

ETA my best friend (he's 70) is having heart surgery today. I don't have many friends, but he has been a mentor and life teacher. He taught me to play the guitar and cuss in five languages. Please send DU magic dust his way.

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I think I might be going through a midlife crisis (Original Post) backtoblue Nov 2018 OP

Anyone going through what you're going through would be in a crisis... CaliforniaPeggy Nov 2018 #1

Thank you Peggy backtoblue Nov 2018 #3

Just crisis, that is a lot . I am so sorry . Hope you get through the crisis soon lunasun Nov 2018 #2

Thanks luna backtoblue Nov 2018 #7

I hope it gets better TEB Nov 2018 #4

Thanks TEB backtoblue Nov 2018 #14

That's a lot of insane shit TEB Nov 2018 #18

Mostly just running a 12 bar backtoblue Nov 2018 #19

Oh yea TEB Nov 2018 #20

What you are going through Ohiogal Nov 2018 #5

It's got to get better backtoblue Nov 2018 #8

You are just going through a really bad period usrbs Nov 2018 #6

I like averages! backtoblue Nov 2018 #9

I'm sorry! And this is a hard time of year anyway More_Cowbell Nov 2018 #10

This message was self-deleted by its author backtoblue Nov 2018 #15

Magic dust coming!! irisblue Nov 2018 #11

You always come through iris! backtoblue Nov 2018 #16

I want to say it is going to get better. We are facing cpamomfromtexas Nov 2018 #12

Holy moly! backtoblue Nov 2018 #17

thank you prayers for you too. cpamomfromtexas Nov 2018 #21

Dust enough for the both of you. Prayers do work and I'm sending up mine for you and your friend. marble falls Nov 2018 #13

Sending your dear friend plenty of DU magic and enough left over for you! MLAA Nov 2018 #22

Just... flying rabbit Nov 2018 #23

((Hugs)) JudyM Nov 2018 #24

Hugs and healthy mind and body vibes heading your way now! littlemissmartypants Nov 2018 #25

coming your way... handmade34 Nov 2018 #26

Hang in there. It's temporary. no_hypocrisy Nov 2018 #27

CaliforniaPeggy

(152,069 posts)

1. Anyone going through what you're going through would be in a crisis...

Reply to backtoblue (Original post)

Wed Nov 28, 2018, 01:57 PM

Nov 2018

midlife or otherwise.

What you're dealing with would be enough to knock anyone over.

I'm really sorry, and I wish I could offer more assistance than words on a message board, my dear backtoblue.

backtoblue

(11,681 posts)

3. Thank you Peggy

Reply to CaliforniaPeggy (Reply #1)

Wed Nov 28, 2018, 02:04 PM

Nov 2018

I know people in the world are suffering so much worse, but I'm barely functioning. I have a teenage son to raise and my doggie and cat. They're being very supportive, but I'm finding it difficult to communicate with any of them right now.

lunasun

(21,646 posts)

2. Just crisis, that is a lot . I am so sorry . Hope you get through the crisis soon

Reply to backtoblue (Original post)

Wed Nov 28, 2018, 02:04 PM

Nov 2018

backtoblue

(11,681 posts)

7. Thanks luna

Reply to lunasun (Reply #2)

Wed Nov 28, 2018, 02:39 PM

Nov 2018

TEB

(13,689 posts)

4. I hope it gets better

Reply to backtoblue (Original post)

Wed Nov 28, 2018, 02:07 PM

Nov 2018

backtoblue

(11,681 posts)

14. Thanks TEB

Reply to TEB (Reply #4)

Wed Nov 28, 2018, 03:35 PM

Nov 2018

I've been picking my guitar on and off today. It's like every song I play reminds me of someone or something.

As the old text says "this too shall pass"

TEB

(13,689 posts)

18. That's a lot of insane shit

Reply to backtoblue (Reply #14)

Wed Nov 28, 2018, 03:51 PM

Nov 2018

Your dealing with

Our son is jamming in front room I’m making dinner

What have you been jamming friend

backtoblue

(11,681 posts)

19. Mostly just running a 12 bar

Reply to TEB (Reply #18)

Wed Nov 28, 2018, 03:56 PM

Nov 2018

Ironic I should love the blues. Comforting, raw, and truthful.

TEB

(13,689 posts)

20. Oh yea

Reply to backtoblue (Reply #19)

Wed Nov 28, 2018, 03:59 PM

Nov 2018

Some fills and trills

Ohiogal

(34,612 posts)

5. What you are going through

Reply to backtoblue (Original post)

Wed Nov 28, 2018, 02:07 PM

Nov 2018

would be an ordeal for anyone. I am so sorry. I hope things improve soon.

backtoblue

(11,681 posts)

8. It's got to get better

Reply to Ohiogal (Reply #5)

Wed Nov 28, 2018, 02:40 PM

Nov 2018

Girl, I don't know how much I can overcome.

usrbs

(632 posts)

6. You are just going through a really bad period

Reply to backtoblue (Original post)

Wed Nov 28, 2018, 02:08 PM

Nov 2018

which hopefully will end soon. I men a stream of bad luck has to obey the law of averages if nothing else. Know that We're rooting for you.

backtoblue

(11,681 posts)

9. I like averages!

Reply to usrbs (Reply #6)

Wed Nov 28, 2018, 02:41 PM

Nov 2018

I can take into my chaotic account that numbers don't lie and good luck should happen soon.

More_Cowbell

(2,204 posts)

10. I'm sorry! And this is a hard time of year anyway

Reply to backtoblue (Original post)

Wed Nov 28, 2018, 02:46 PM

Nov 2018

Lots of emotional stuff happens during the holidays. Sending good thoughts your way, and for your friend.

Response to More_Cowbell (Reply #10)

backtoblue This message was self-deleted by its author.

irisblue

(34,249 posts)

11. Magic dust coming!!

Reply to backtoblue (Original post)

Wed Nov 28, 2018, 02:58 PM

Nov 2018

And some sparkles too.

backtoblue

(11,681 posts)

16. You always come through iris!

Reply to irisblue (Reply #11)

Wed Nov 28, 2018, 03:41 PM

Nov 2018

UPS said your sparkles will arrive in an hour!

cpamomfromtexas

(1,339 posts)

12. I want to say it is going to get better. We are facing

Reply to backtoblue (Original post)

Wed Nov 28, 2018, 03:04 PM

Nov 2018

Similar situation.

Bought house. “Repair” before sale done badly. Black mold in house. Everyone got sick. Had to demo first floor.

Son 1 went to concert, someone flung bottle hit him. Brain damage. Went to ER and ended up in jail. Hospital wont release scans.

My 80 yr old parents stole money committed fraud (i was victim). When company they defrauded found out parents did so, parents called and threatened me to cover for them (they are rich narcissists). Got call on recording. Then while Im trying to deal with an all out assault from parents the old sob pulls a gun on my son with witnesses there on property my grandparents left me. Multiple felony issues.

Meanwhile husband diagnosed with a scary form of the c word.

Juggling multiple lawsuits as a result of all of the above.

There better be a heaven cause things suck here.

backtoblue

(11,681 posts)

17. Holy moly!

Reply to cpamomfromtexas (Reply #12)

Wed Nov 28, 2018, 03:43 PM

Nov 2018

Much love coming to you and your family!

I'm betting on heaven right now. Just in case..

cpamomfromtexas

(1,339 posts)

21. thank you prayers for you too.

Reply to backtoblue (Reply #17)

Wed Nov 28, 2018, 04:30 PM

Nov 2018

marble falls

(62,046 posts)

13. Dust enough for the both of you. Prayers do work and I'm sending up mine for you and your friend.

Reply to backtoblue (Original post)

Wed Nov 28, 2018, 03:07 PM

Nov 2018

MLAA

(18,598 posts)

22. Sending your dear friend plenty of DU magic and enough left over for you!

Reply to backtoblue (Original post)

Wed Nov 28, 2018, 07:05 PM

Nov 2018

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flying rabbit

(4,770 posts)

23. Just...

Reply to backtoblue (Original post)

Wed Nov 28, 2018, 09:38 PM

Nov 2018

JudyM

(29,517 posts)

24. ((Hugs))

Reply to backtoblue (Original post)

Thu Nov 29, 2018, 12:06 AM

Nov 2018

Wishing you strength now and more smiles soon.

littlemissmartypants

(25,483 posts)

25. Hugs and healthy mind and body vibes heading your way now!

Reply to backtoblue (Original post)

Thu Nov 29, 2018, 05:41 AM

Nov 2018

Hang in there!

handmade34

(22,920 posts)

26. coming your way...

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Thu Nov 29, 2018, 06:27 AM

Nov 2018

no_hypocrisy

(48,778 posts)

27. Hang in there. It's temporary.

Reply to backtoblue (Original post)

Thu Nov 29, 2018, 06:51 AM

Nov 2018

I know it sounds blithe, but you're getting advice from a loner and a survivor.

You got this.

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