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littlemissmartypants

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Wed Apr 17, 2024, 01:42 AM Apr 2024

How to Tell if Someone Is Lying to You, According to Experts

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How to Tell if Someone Is Lying to You, According to Experts
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BY ANGELA HAUPT
APRIL 11, 2024 10:49 AM EDT
It’s fortunate that liars’ pants don’t really catch on fire. If they did, much of the world’s population would be ablaze at any given moment. “People lie most days,” says Kevin Colwell, a professor of psychology at Southern Connecticut State University who researches deception. The majority of fibs are the sorts of harmless white lies that don’t hurt anyone. (You don’t actually like Aunt Mildred’s new haircut? She’s not going to be any worse off believing otherwise.) “Lying is a very important social skill,” he says. “It greases the wheels of society and makes our relationships work better.”

More harmful lies, however—those that are intentional misrepresentations of material facts—have the opposite effect. Being lied to or about can deteriorate someone’s mental health and lead to a ripple effect of outcomes in their life, Colwell notes, including destroying their relationships. That’s why many of us play detective, trying to separate fact from fib.

So how can you tell if someone is lying to you? The key is to enter the conversation without assumptions, says Colwell, who has trained law enforcement officers and investigators with groups like the National Counterterrorism Center in deception detection. “You have to not go into it assuming they’re lying to you, because if you do, it’s going to change how they interact with you,” he says. “You have to be engaging and connect with them in a way that makes the conversation easy for them.”

You won't always be able to tell for sure. But here’s what to look and listen for if you’re trying to figure out if someone is lying to you.

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https://time.com/6964719/how-to-tell-if-someone-is-lying/



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How to Tell if Someone Is Lying to You, According to Experts (Original Post) littlemissmartypants Apr 2024 OP
What a fucking joke. SamKnause Apr 2024 #1
Interesting take, isn't it? Critical thinking skills are definitely too under-rated. ❤️ littlemissmartypants Apr 2024 #2
Oops, a small mistake there... OldBaldy1701E Apr 2024 #3

SamKnause

(13,759 posts)
1. What a fucking joke.
Wed Apr 17, 2024, 02:51 AM
Apr 2024

You won't always be able to tell for sure.

Trained law enforcement officers.

The same law enforcement officers that are trained to lie ???

The same law enforcement officers that are being trained to fear and hate the public ???

littlemissmartypants

(24,981 posts)
2. Interesting take, isn't it? Critical thinking skills are definitely too under-rated. ❤️
Wed Apr 17, 2024, 03:53 AM
Apr 2024

When all else fails, there's always this...

Giant size for really big lies.

OldBaldy1701E

(6,178 posts)
3. Oops, a small mistake there...
Mon Apr 22, 2024, 04:30 PM
Apr 2024

The same law enforcement officers that have always been trained to see the general public as 'the enemy'?

(With all due respect, I had to fix that for you. The rest is spot on.)

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