Seeing Other Women As Allies, Rather Than Enemies: A How-To

http://everydayfeminism.com/2013/12/seeing-other-women-as-allies/?upw

Know Yourself

To start seeing women as allies, I first had to see the strengths and talents within myself and celebrate those.

If we aren’t clear on what’s so awesome about the woman looking back at us in the mirror, then we won’t be able to see other women’s positive attributes as anything but slaps in the face.

Liking who we are is all about conscious practice.

Some things we can do each day to keep self-doubt at bay are:

■Say something in the mirror that you like about yourself (I like my laugh, I like my teeth, I like that I have a sense of humor, I like that I smile at people on the street)
■Take a compliment. Even if you want to put yourself down after someone says something nice to you, don’t. Pause and change your script. Saying thank you is enough.
■Erase “should” from your vocabulary and replace it with “could.” Could reminds you that most everything in life is a choice.