Congrats on Your Engagement! Now Learn to Fight.

I'm sorry I didn't insist my daughter and her then-fiance learn how to disagree, before they married. I didn't insist, they never learned, they had 2 children who are now 2 and 4, and they divorced a year ago. It has cost us all a lot.

*Newly engaged couples do need to plan a wedding, if they want one. Chicken or fish for 150 doesn’t materialize out of thin air. But while they’re thinking about the Big Day, they should also think about how they will cope with disagreement. We’ve made love and marriage into such an ideal that people are afraid to consider, at the outset, just how stressful it can get.'>>>

https://www.nytimes.com/2018/01/12/opinion/sunday/engagement-marriage-conflict.html?