13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do
13 Things Mentally Strong People Dont Do
~by Amy Morin, LCSW
Mentally strong people have healthy habits. They manage their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors in ways that set them up for success in life. Check out these things that mentally strong people dont do so that you too can become more mentally strong.
1. They Dont Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves
Mentally strong people dont sit around feeling sorry about their circumstances or how others have treated them. Instead, they take responsibility for their role in life and understand that life isnt always easy or fair.
2. They Dont Give Away Their Power
13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do The Wall Street Journal BestSellerThey dont allow others to control them, and they dont give someone else power over them. They dont say things like, My boss makes me feel bad, because they understand that they are in control over their own emotions and they have a choice in how they respond.
3. They Dont Shy Away from Change
Mentally strong people dont try to avoid change. Instead, they welcome positive change and are willing to be flexible. They understand that change is inevitable and believe in their abilities to adapt.
4. They Dont Waste Energy on Things They Cant Control
You wont hear a mentally strong person complaining over lost luggage or traffic jams. Instead, they focus on what they can control in their lives. They recognize that sometimes, the only thing they can control is their attitude.
5. They Dont Worry About Pleasing Everyone
Mentally strong people recognize that they dont need to please everyone all the time. Theyre not afraid to say no or speak up when necessary. They strive to be kind and fair, but can handle other people being upset if they didnt make them happy.
6. They Dont Fear Taking Calculated Risks
They dont take reckless or foolish risks, but dont mind taking calculated risks. Mentally strong people spend time weighing the risks and benefits before making a big decision, and theyre fully informed of the potential downsides before they take action.
7. They Dont Dwell on the Past
Mentally strong people dont waste time dwelling on the past and wishing things could be different. They acknowledge their past and can say what theyve learned from it. However, they dont constantly relive bad experiences or fantasize about the glory days. Instead, they live for the present and plan for the future.
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Additional article:
10 Strategies to Make Yourself Mentally Stronger
When most people set out to become fitter in the New Year, they're thinking about their physical fitness: Getting in better physical shape tops the list of New Year's resolutions. According to a Nielson survey, 37 percent of people aim to stay fit and healthy in the new year, while 32 percent of people want to lose weight. Sadly, most people will never achieve those goals. Statistically speaking, only about 8 percent of people keep their resolution.
If more people focused on their mental fitness, however, they'd likely become more successful in achieving the goals they set for themselvesphysical fitness or otherwise. After all, your body won't do what your mind doesn't tell it. Building mental muscle is the key to self-discipline, delayed gratification, grit, and perseverance. And those are the skills you need to become the best physical and mental version of yourself.
1. I will spend at least 15 minutes a day in quiet reflection.
A few minutes of quiet time gives you an opportunity to reflect on your progress and think about what you want to do better. Schedule a few minutes every day to recharge your batteries with a little bit of solitude. It will help you gain clarity and renew your motivation to reach your goals.
2. I will do at least one tough thing every week.
Whether you sign up for a photography class or join toastmasters, do something that forces you to step outside your comfort zone. Facing your fears head-on can shift the way you see yourself. Rather than assume you need to avoid hard things because you might fail or because you can't tolerate the stress, you'll chip away at your self-limiting beliefs.
3. I'll write in a gratitude journal.
Write down three things you're grateful for every day and you'll change the way you see the world. Studies link gratitude to a multitude of benefits, from better sleep to reduced psychological distress. It only takes a few minutes each day, but it's an easy way to boost your mental strength.
More at link.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/what-mentally-strong-people-dont-do/201701/10-strategies-make-yourself-mentally-stronger
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Sherman A1
(38,958 posts)I enjoy TED Talks as I ride the exercise bike in the early morning in my quiet time before Mrs. Sherman A1 gets up.
littlemissmartypants
(25,483 posts)So, I won't be exercising but I'd like to be. Thanks for the reply. Keep the faith.
secondwind
(16,903 posts)littlemissmartypants
(25,483 posts)I hope you have a great day!
empedocles
(15,751 posts)littlemissmartypants
(25,483 posts)Thanks for the reply.
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duhneece
(4,239 posts)Tomorrow we celebrate our wins.
Thursday, we are back to work...remembering what you've shared with us.
Thank you.
littlemissmartypants
(25,483 posts)We tried our best and the next two years will go by faster than we think. I'm ready to go again. Having a sense of purpose is good for the soul.
Keep the faith.
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llmart
(16,331 posts)I have bookmarked it as a daily reminder. For me, #2 is the most important for me to remember. I have found that as I age, it's more difficult for me to get outside of my comfort zone even though historically I've been someone who doesn't fear much. I do #3 quite often as I have so much to be grateful for.
littlemissmartypants
(25,483 posts)I'm glad you enjoyed the article and find it useful.
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Martin Eden
(13,462 posts)That's the only point I take some issue with.
Many millions believe they can't control what our government does and that may be true from an individual standpoint, but real positive change requires people to fight the good fight for causes which logically seem futile and hopeless.
Even in failure, their example may provide inspiration for others who follow. This applies to more than just US elections. Jews in the Warsaw ghetto had no chance against the Nazis, but who among us think they didn't make the strong intelligent choice?
littlemissmartypants
(25,483 posts)The myth of Sysiphus speaks to many people for that very reason. Though intended as a punishment, the hope that persistence itself, may at some point become the reward, may be why we persist, even in the absence of control.
Thanks for the reply.
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Tobin S.
(10,420 posts)And that is that mentally ill people are weak. Another implication that's a negative stereotype of the mentally ill is that they can somehow think their way out of what ails them. Those two things are implied in the material you've posted in OP.
littlemissmartypants
(25,483 posts)Your interpretation of the article. Thanks for the reply, Tobin S.
TexasBushwhacker
(20,672 posts)He's a Cognitive Behavioral Therapist and said his goal was to get me off all psychoactive medications. While that sounds nice, I've been on various antidepressants for 40 years. I had a depressed mother and a bipolar father, so I got a genetic double whammy. I think his goal is unrealistic and told him so. I'll do my best with diet, exercise and CBT techniques, but I'm in no hurry to quit medication. Every time I've tried, I've crashed.
hunter
(38,933 posts)But I've accepted that.
I've seen too many people crash and burn, sometimes fatally, striving to be "strong."
My mom has always been a promoter of the "whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger" meme, and maybe as an octogenarian she might know something, but I abandoned that guilt a long time ago in a 'seventies dumpster behind the Taco Bell.
Free food!