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angstlessk

(11,862 posts) Fri Mar 28, 2014, 08:47 PM Mar 2014

What to do when your sig other is threating you with death?

This discussion thread was locked as off-topic by fizzgig (a host of the Mental Health Information group).

but you know if you call the police he will be very offensive and might be killed?

He only drinks and passes out..wakes up and drinks...he can talk for hours on end...like 12 or more while he is drunk

He keeps me awake all night spewing all sort of crap...but how can I do something fearing how the police handle such matters?

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What to do when your sig other is threating you with death? (Original Post) angstlessk Mar 2014 OP

The lack of trust (or even fear) of the police adds a terrible dimension to enough Mar 2014 #1

Leave, elleng Mar 2014 #2

Please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline or contact them online LiberalEsto Mar 2014 #3

Thank you for that... angstlessk Mar 2014 #4

OKAY HE JUST BROUGHT AN AXE AND PUT IT IN MY FACE angstlessk Mar 2014 #5

you need to call the cops and get out of there fizzgig Mar 2014 #6

Get OUT, elleng Mar 2014 #7

enough

(13,415 posts)

1. The lack of trust (or even fear) of the police adds a terrible dimension to

Reply to angstlessk (Original post)

Fri Mar 28, 2014, 08:59 PM

Mar 2014

an already horrible situation. The best I can think of is getting away from the situation sometime while he is not on a rampage. Get away sometime while he is away from the house, or while you are away from the house, or while he's asleep.

You have to protect yourself first. I think you are right to fear how the police would behave in such a situation.

Can you get away?

I have come to a point where I would never call the police in any situation.

elleng

(134,747 posts)

2. Leave,

Reply to angstlessk (Original post)

Fri Mar 28, 2014, 09:05 PM

Mar 2014

and hopefully cause him to realize he's reached 'bottom.'

Protect yourself first, and the police will help you do this. Inform the police you think he may become 'offensive,' so they should be prepared. He has weapons, which he could use to kill you? GET OUT! Do NOT fear the police, fear HIM. The police helped me in several situations, and finally enabled me to leave the house permanently.

There are probably services in your community that will offer you shelter. SEEK THEM OUT!

LiberalEsto

(22,845 posts)

3. Please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline or contact them online

Reply to angstlessk (Original post)

Fri Mar 28, 2014, 09:08 PM

Mar 2014

http://www.thehotline.org/

Safety Alert: Computer use can be monitored and is impossible to completely clear. If you are afraid your internet usage might be monitored, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1−800−799−7233 or TTY 1−800−787−3224.

You are in my thoughts

angstlessk

(11,862 posts)

4. Thank you for that...

Reply to LiberalEsto (Reply #3)

Fri Mar 28, 2014, 09:30 PM

Mar 2014

I do not hate him...I want him to get help...but I do believe he will not get help till we leave..even then probably not

angstlessk

(11,862 posts)

5. OKAY HE JUST BROUGHT AN AXE AND PUT IT IN MY FACE

Reply to angstlessk (Original post)

Fri Mar 28, 2014, 09:52 PM

Mar 2014

I know he is going to kill me and probably his 'other' sig other Linda

fizzgig

(24,146 posts)

6. you need to call the cops and get out of there

Reply to angstlessk (Reply #5)

Fri Mar 28, 2014, 10:10 PM

Mar 2014

now.

i'm also going to lock this simply because it does not fit the sop. but seriously, you need to get out of there rather than posting about it. my best to you and please check in when you're in a safe place.

elleng

(134,747 posts)

7. Get OUT,

Reply to angstlessk (Reply #5)

Fri Mar 28, 2014, 10:23 PM

Mar 2014

and as there are 2 of you, it should be easier than if you were alone. DO IT, and save all of you.