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http://www.babble.com/kid/im-an-agnostic-so-my-kids-need-church/By REBEKAHKUSCHMIDER | April 12th, 2013 at 9:10 pm
Im what you might call a fundamentalist agnostic: I really dont know if theres any sort of higher power or afterlife and I really dont care. Im at peace with uncertainty and I live my life trying to do as much good or at least as little harm as possible. My husband is similarly minded and so weve spent our Sunday mornings doing things like eating bagels or watching SportsCenter. This didnt change for us after we had kids.
However, my son is 5 now and he has a lot of friends who are church-goers. Those friends have started sharing their religious education with him and suddenly Im fielding questions about things like heaven from the backseat of the minivan. If I were talking to another adult, Id offer a flip shrug and say I dont know about heaven. Ill find out after I die, I guess. Thats not going to work with my son. He has a childs earnest curiosity about the idea of heaven; where it is, what it looks like, how can he go check it out without dying. All good questions. All questions Im not entirely good at answering. The best I can do is say Some people believe that after a body dies, the thoughts and feelings part of you your soul goes to heaven. So far, thats working for us.
Hes going to need more than that though. Religion is a big subject area and hes only going to hear more about it as time goes on. I want to make sure the strongest messages in his head are ones of acceptance and tolerance of other faiths. I want other religions explained and demystified so he understands what people believe and how it drives their behavior. I want him to know that practicing religion is a choice he can make or not make on his own.
The best place for him to learn that is probably at church.
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(82,333 posts)cbayer
(146,218 posts)If so, how?
ZombieHorde
(29,047 posts)me about the "t" on top the building downtown. I took my daughter to a pro-transsexual march, and my daughter saw a protest sign with a quote from Jesus on it. She asked, "Who is Jes-us?" I realized that we needed to have several talks on the issue.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)I wish I had had more exposure to religions other than christianity as a kid. Though I did some exploring as a teen and young adult, I really didn't know what else was out there until then.
With religion being so pervasive, I agree that kids need to know what it is. Doing it in a way that leads to tolerance and acceptance of other ways of seeing the world seems imperative, but how does one achieve that?
ZombieHorde
(29,047 posts)A man named Jesus was the son of the Christian God. He tried to convince everyone to be nice, but some of the people in his day freaked out, and had him killed by nailing him to the cross. <-- That was the gist of what we said. She then asked a bunch of questions, and still does, and we try to answer them the best we can.
We have also discussed Buddhism and Paganism with her and our oldest son. They are mostly interested in Paganism because they all have Pagan names.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)cross-religious education, but I don't know if they include paganism.
Sounds like your explanation was good. I had a lot of questions about catholicism as a child, but I don't remember how they were answered.
Fortinbras Armstrong
(4,477 posts)So my brothers and I were raised as Catholics. We had lots of questions about our religion, which we asked our mother about. My mother recently remarked that she knows far more about Catholicism than she does about Judaism.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)Fortinbras Armstrong
(4,477 posts)Admittedly, I have also said that I have some serious problems with the Catholic Church as she currently is. See, for example, http://www.democraticunderground.com/1221591#post1
I have also said that there are times I seriously consider becoming an Episcopalian.
Judaism plays a very small part in my life. I do hold a seder every year, and on Yom Kippur, I fast, read Lamentations and pray the Kaddish for my family who were killed in the Holocaust. I own a very nice menorah -- a present from my Catholic wife -- but I do not actually use it. I am familiar with many of the laws of the Talmud, and I can explain Kashrut if called on to do so. (A couple of years ago, I attended a Jewish wedding, and was surprised to see that cold shrimp was the first course at the reception dinner.)
cbayer
(146,218 posts)have with it.
Judaism actually plays a bigger role in your life than the life of most christians.
Do you have children? How did or are you raising them?
Fortinbras Armstrong
(4,477 posts)One of whom is a Catholic, one is an agnostic, and the third is an atheist.
I did send them all to Catholic schools, but I also taught them to think for themselves.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)One of my children went to a catholic high school. He is essentially an atheist, but highly likely to convert because he is planning on marrying someone whose family takes their catholicism very seriously.
Fortinbras Armstrong
(4,477 posts)Why are you asking?