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Phentex

(16,500 posts)
Mon May 9, 2016, 04:44 PM May 2016

Why So Many Women With ADHD Never Get The Help They Need...

This is an article from HuffPo. I can relate to some of these things. Other parts seem like they'd apply to either gender.

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I am not the kind of person for whom neatness comes easily. I can’t keep to a routine. Every surface of my house is piled with clothes, books, and papers (despite living with a minimalist partner). I start many things and rarely finish them. I find it impossible to focus on instructions. I imagine complex, faraway concepts, but can never seem to get the basics of reality right.

There’s always so much going on in my head, like a thousand different songs playing at once. I try to follow them all, but I can’t. I freeze in the overwhelm and feel like it’s all my fault.

My disorganization was more obvious when I was young and at school. It was easy enough to work on things I cared about, but impossible to dedicate time to the things I didn’t. When I was 14, I wrote a long essay about the plague. The subject — the decimation of entire populations of Europe, all without explanation — darkly fascinated me. I couldn’t learn enough. But proofreading my own work didn’t hold much satisfaction; it felt like eating the side salad after the main. Printing was also overwhelmingly cumbersome. My printer at home was broken, and the effort of saving the file onto a floppy disk to print it out at the library held zero appeal. So it did not get done.

More at link: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/the-establishment/why-so-many-women-with-adhd-never-get-the-help-they-need_b_9842454.html

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Why So Many Women With ADHD Never Get The Help They Need... (Original Post) Phentex May 2016 OP
I understand Doreen Sep 2016 #1
It definitely makes sense! Phentex Sep 2016 #2

Doreen

(11,686 posts)
1. I understand
Sun Sep 25, 2016, 11:29 PM
Sep 2016

I am 48 and back when they diagnosed me girls weren't supposed to have it and somehow we were supposed to not have it as bad and we were expected to handle it better. Yeah, think about that. There is still the belief that you "grow' out of it.....yeah, right. I still have to deal with mine but as I have grown older it shifted to being more mentally hyper and I oddly do not have energy to get up and do a lot of physical activity because I am to busy thinking. I do not know if that makes sense but maybe to you it does.

Phentex

(16,500 posts)
2. It definitely makes sense!
Mon Sep 26, 2016, 11:30 AM
Sep 2016

I think I was more physically hyper as a child and young adult than I am now. I have learned better coping skills as I have gotten older that I wish I had learned much earlier on. I don't think people realize how exhausting it is!

Thanks for posting!

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