But, composure won.

((Ilsa))

plus 1 for vibes

We were supposed to have a nurse come in to visit my father for the first time on a Saturday. I woke up about an hour before the appointment and went into the bedroom to discover that my father had soiled the linens so I tried to get him into the shower, but he was unconscious and I'm not strong enough to support his entire weight.

When the nurse arrived I was in a panic and my father's heartbeat was 2 beats per minute. I had to make a split second decision as to whether to revive him in front of a person that I never met, so what was I supposed to do? My father was 85 years old and had Parkinson's disease, but I could only imagine the repercussions if I let him pass away peacefully. We called the ambulance and I went with my father to the hospital. He lived for about a month after that incident.

After I called the ambulance I then contacted my three sisters and my brother. I got chewed out by one of my sisters and my brother for having him revived, while another sister didn't take it out on me but also thought that I shouldn't have intervened. Damned if I do and damned if don't--that left some lingering frustration between me and the rest of my family.

The worst part is that I was also the only person around when my mother collapsed on the floor a couple of months before she passed away in 2000. None of my other siblings had to deal with emergency situations with the parents so they really don't understand how I felt in those situations or having to deal with their bullshit second-guessing what I done in my father's situation.

these folk sound horrible

some reason I was targeted with potential neglect, not the patient's son.

Mostly groups of volunteers. but there are programs


https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/what-respite-care]

Check office of aging etc...

https://aging.ny.gov/respite]

I know that had a lot to do with it.

Now you know why I refer to them as HOSPISS!

All they did for me is tell me that my husband was not about to die and that it was up to me to care for him. That was in Feb. 2022.

He was dead on May 12th, 3 mos. later. DEAD!

Hospiss ... yeah right!