Elder-caregivers
Related: About this forumMy dad is 92 today
We had a big Father's Day/birthday party for him on the 17th.
He never remembers anything anymore. He forgets not only the names of his kids, but forgets that we're his kids.
Physically, he's healthier than all of us put together.
I go over and cook his dinner 4 nights a week. It's great that I get this time w/ him. (When Mom passed, she was in a nursing home, and it was 2020 Covid restrictions that kept us apart.)
Every once in a while I get a story from him that I've never heard. Yesterday he told me that at some zoo/animal park he got a chance to ride an elephant. He couldn't remember where this was, but I think I remember being taken to an animal park in NH when I was young. Don't remember the elephant though.
niyad
(134,021 posts)RandySF
(86,193 posts)FalloutShelter
(14,620 posts)Miss mine every day. I was a long term care giver for both my parents and , while it was difficult, there were lots of golden moments that I would never trade for convenience sake.
Be well.
MLAA
(19,800 posts)Im in
Happy Birthday to your dad.
CentralMass
(16,994 posts)LoisB
(13,467 posts)marble falls
(72,531 posts)Marthe48
(23,436 posts)Glad he can keep you entertained
onecaliberal
(36,594 posts)irisblue
(37,915 posts)judesedit
(4,602 posts)NJCher
(43,518 posts)but first Google "music and dementia."
Read a few of the articles.
You'll get lots more stories.
usonian
(26,588 posts)Elephant? (This was from 1953)

Best wishes to your Dad!
And how good of you to cook for him!
MissMillie
(39,700 posts)I don't remember the trip, but I do remember that we had a Benson's Animal Farm bumper sticker hanging in the garage for YEARS after that. (It may still be there!)
He really does need someone to cook for him. He's confused by the microwave these days.
SWBTATTReg
(26,399 posts)all, to retell to later generations. Wishing your father a happy birthday, and also, kudos to you for taking care of your dad so well!
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