General Discussion

Do get an attorney.

I can only offer you sympathy about your mother. So many old people absolutely insist on staying in their home long past the time they should be in some kind of assisted living or nursing home. I'm completely exasperated with that.

My sister and I spent a year getting our brother and his wife out of the home they'd lived in, and hoarded, for some 40 years. It was grotesquely difficult, far more than it should have been. People need to be aware that THEY CANNOT EXPECT TO LIVE IN THE SAME HOME FOR THE REST OF THEIR LIVES!! Yes, I am shouting. I need to shout because people just don't get it. They need to be realistic -- you need to be realistic -- about how much you can actually care for yourself in old age.

I am 75 years old. I live alone, and so far everything is copacetic. However, I fully expect to move into independent/assisted living reasonably soon, probably by age 80. I am more than willing to give up the responsibility of home ownership. I want things to be taken care of for myself. I recognize that not everyone is in a financial position to do this, but I am, and I will do so.